I agree with Jay, Bikini and the others. Don't let anybody, especially a stranger, make you feel badly about yourself. I know that can be hard sometimes, it's natural to feel hurt when someone is like that. But, you know, people who do that often have their own problems or hang-ups...I think anybody that's truly happy with themselves doesn't feel the need to put others down to give their own egos a boost. You've got a lot going for you...you're a great person, it sounds like you have a supportive husband....and you have us!
Honestly, the way I look at myself is pretty much this. I know I'm overweight. I see it, I feel it, it bothers me. I also know that I'm a reasonably smart, funny, caring and cute person.
I basically have good health, I like my job, have friends, great relationship with my mom, etc. I'm not rich but I can afford to get myself nice things now and then. I feel there's more good things about my life than bad. Does the weight keep me from doing certain things either physically or just out of my own inhibitions? Definitely. But I can work on that. I can lose the weight. I have that power. I have that control. I can not only make it happen but I can have a good time while making it happen! No reason why I should feel miserable along the way.
So...if anything I can say can be helpful at all, I would say this. Focus on the positive things. Work on the ones you feel negative about...and find ways to make that work positive. For instance, if you really don't want to go back to the gym, then work out at home. Heck, I do 95% of my exercise at home! If you can afford it, you can look into various tapes/DVDs or equipment. Now that the weather is nicer, take long walks. Even your husband can join in and exercise, too! Do things that make you feel good that don't involve eating a bunch of food.
Whether it's something like changing your hairstyle or color, or just playing your favorite music and dancing like nobody is watching, go for it!
It's like building up positive energy within yourself. Losing weight, I think is harder, if you feel like crap about other things in your life and there's all this stress, but I think if you feel good, that kind of carries over and helps with the weight loss in terms of confidence and perseverance.