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Originally Posted by Sandi
I am still looking for that magic plan that will change my whole life. Truth is I don't want to face the fact that I have the power to change my life. I've had it the whole time. So have you. We can do this. All day long, every decision we make either contributes to us getting healthy or staying fat (Or getting even fatter).
It's like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz -- she always had the power to come home, she just never knew it.
I was that way too. I had lost weight and always gained it back. I was weak. I knew it. I didn't want to try again, because I knew I would just gain it all back. So, I allowed myself to go up and up and up to 295. At that weight I was wearing size 30 and 4x. I couldn't even shop at Lane Bryant, or really anywhere at the mall. I'm sure I'm not the only one who cried when I tried on the largest size at a plus size store and it plain didn't fit.
And yet, I still figured I was weak and would gain it all back, so why bother?
I don't know what happened. Partly it was my husband who said something like "Well, if you have that attitude you WILL fail". Ouch. But he was right.
Sandi is exactly right. You have the power. You make the choices: the good ones and the bad ones. In order to make this work, you have to make more good choices and fewer bad ones. That's all.
The hard part is doing that more often than not. The hard part is planning, the hard part is making better choices in the face of the stresses of life. The hard part is, maybe, telling yourself you are WORTH making those choices. And the hard part is getting back to making better choices when you've gone through a period of bad ones.
But you really are the one in control. The one making the choices. You just have to choose what you want to do. Maybe you will choose that you don't want to lose the weight. That you are comfortable where you are. Okay, that's your choice, then.
The problem is not that many of us continue to make the choice to stay at a weight we don't like (that's not a judgment -- that was certainly me for most of our life).
The problem is that we think that we don't HAVE a choice or that we aren't making choices at all.