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I think it would be important for you to figure out why (or deal with it as you probably already know) you prefer being invisible.
Yep - already know and working on it. Its not even so much the weight thing for me (because I AM proud of that) or that people press for details (yes, they do, but that in itself isn't what makes me uncomfortable). Basically when I was little and got attention for anything, my family wasn't happy about it and it evolved into this whole "amanda does everything for attention" complex that got really deeply set in me, so that now I avoid it like the plague. Its a little more complicated than that, but basically, I'm afraid of getting attention because when I was younger and got attention from people, I'd get in trouble. I know, I'm weird, and its totally my issue and no one elses. But I think lots of people who have lost a lot of weight are so used to making themselves invisible that this might be an issue (as shown by the many responses on this thread).
But its nice to know that there are other people who don't like the probing questions, too - an off-handed compliment doesn't get me so much, but when I become the center of attention (as at Christmas eve, where I was surrounded by a group of 5 relatives, commenting on how great I looked, asking how much I'd lost and refusing to accept an answer-dodge, asking if I'd had surgery, etc) it was WAY too much.
Thank you everyone for the pic compliments...that was one of my Onederland pics.