Well...where to begn. I am 25, engaged to a wonderful younger guy. Just became an aunt this evening, thanks to my little sister. I was always thin throughout school then suddenly I did not have to go to gym and started to gain weight. I am very disappointed in myself that I have gained almost 70lbs since graduating. thaat turns out to be about 10lbs a year. I know i am not the healthiest and that is one of the main reaso9ns I want to lose the weight. my fiance doesn't want me to change at all. my mother was diagnosed a diabetic a few years ago and has successfully controlled it with diet and dropped over 60lbs. Now it is my turn!!! My fiance and I also really want to start our own family and i am wondering if it is because of my weight that may be a possible reason I am not pregnant by now. I also have a hard tim eexersizing becasue i had a car accident that messed up my back 5 years ago.

So in simpler terms....
I want to lose weight because....
1) My health
2) to prevent diabetes
3) To be able to carry a baby healthily
4) to be able to exersize with out pain.

Why doesn't your fiancee want you to change?

Hello & , vestanightfire!!!!

on becoming an Auntie! I can understand how you feel a little. I too was in a car accident, only mine was 10 yrs ago and it damaged my spine. So I can understand exercising and being in pain.

My thoughts are to just try and do what you can. I try to do my WATP (Walking Away the Pounds) DVD and if my back starts to hurt I sit for a few sec. and while I'm sitting I keep moving my legs and arms. At least its moving! My mil is disabled and she does the same thing, exercises while sitting, I say any exercise is better than none, than as you work your way up, you can possibly do more! I would make sure your dr. approves any exercise you do though and I can also understand the wanting to prevent diabetes (I already have it) and TTC (trying to conceive) I'm doing both of those too. I also have PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome). If you ever wanna chat, just PM (Private Message) me!

Well i just weiged myself today on my dig scale and I am at my max that I have ever been 194.4lb BMI of around 40. I am scared!. I have had a really rough 5 years and I am having a hard time with myself.
Today I am going ot the family gathering for christmas, and eating littel in an Italian family is hard to do. I already broke down crying this morning becasue this is the first christmas with out my stepfather who died in august (crying right now).
To add to the things that i have been through which possibly promted me to eat more...
'99 no more school=no more gym classes
'01 car accident
'02 a few months later told i had precancer of the cervix and had to remove over 50%, they said I would be able to have children...none yet
'03 boyfriend i thought i would marry left me for another woman spent the next year single and enjoyed it to the fullest extent, not necisarilly the best ways though, drank a lot and slept around


'05 met the guy i am with now constantly telling me i am beautiful and to never change
'06 lost my home to the flood in NY, got my life shredded by jerks because they stole everything i didn't already lose, sister gets pregnant before me ( i am happy for her though), and I lost my stepfather suddenly to a heart attack just 9 days after i turned 25

i'm hoping this group will be a turnaround for me.