I agree 100% with glory. With me this is a new healthy way of eating and a lifestyle, not a diet. So the first thing you need to decide is what is it you do that makes you gain or maintain a high weight and what are you willing to give up permanently to change it? Sometimes the changes are slow. I know with me it has been over a year of changes, slowly and I could of lost alot more if I had just jumped quickly and cut everything but I had to give myself time to WANT to make those changes.
Start with soda. It is generally 100 calories per 8 ounces! Plus full of sugar. That was the first thing I did was switch to diet, and have regular maybe once a week. But now, I don't even bother. I usually drink crystal light or water and now I will be probably switching to green tea and water.
I decided to limit going out to eat to once a week. Sometimes i will still slip and go twice but not normally.
I switched to boneless skinless chicken breast most nites a week instead of having fatty hamburger and roast. We still have red meat once to twice a week but when i pick up hamburger meat, I get the 4% lean. The roast i am getting tri tip cause most the fat is on the outside and you can skim it off, etc. I am eating 3-4 fruits a day, in the a.m. I have those for breakfast.
Lunch is usually a slimfast and a piece of brown bread or two with a little bit of peanut butter or some tuna with low fat mayo.
I eat snacks. Around 3:00 I have a yogurt or 1 serving of honey bunches of oats or total, (No milk) For dinner 3 nites a week it is chicken breast, veggies, and rice. The other nites we still have our enchiladas or our bean & cheese burritos or our tacos but we make them with chicken now. I use mozarella when I can(lower in fat). I use cheddar cheese sparingly. I try to add "good fats", like extra virgin olive oil and avacados. If I feel like a snack at nite I will have some 94% fat free pop corn. Once a week we have blueberry muffins, once a week have the mashed potatoes. Maybe once a month is cake or pie. I also walk generally 60 minutes a day.
I hit and missed for along time with losing weight. I got from 280 down to 238 just making those changes and walking but was still struggling with portions and having bad days. The month of August hit me hard and I lost only a pound. I told myself I had to buckle down with the portions and find out what an actual portion really is! You'd be surprised! I had changed alot and was doing well but I still was eating too much. It really helped me when I decided to start counting calories, yeah its a pain in the butt sometimes but I told myself I have to be accountable for what i eat and how much of it I eat.
It's not going to help me to be good all day and to switch from gr. beef chicken then go and have two big enchiladas and two helpings of spanish rice!
Anyhow, I started counting calories and it is the best thing I have started doing since losing weight. Everything makes sense now. I know how many calories I need to maintain my weight. I know how many calories I need to lose my weight. It's all a numbers game. It is pretty sad when the only difference between a 150 lb woman and a 230 lb woman is only a few hundred calories a day.
Anyhow go here to find out what cals you need:
Womens Nutrition Health Guide
This will help you to keep a record of your calories plus also tell you what % is fat, carbs, protein, etc.
Fitday
Good Luck!!