I feel like a big fat failure!! (no pun)

I've been back on my diet and work out for 7 months... I've been a member of 3FC for 4 months.. and I haven't lost anything! What the ?!

When I first started I lost the 4 pounds that it shows on my ticker... then gained it back.. lost it.. gained it back... I think I lost the same 4 stupid pounds 2 dozen times.

Yeah I have little slips.. but they arn't 4 pound slips! some punch one week... a soda a few weeks later A bit of cake at a birthday. I go to the gym, work out like crazy.. but nothing moves.. The fat just Shifts around, and now I look a lot worse than when I started.

I never gave up though, I Always told myself everytime I gained back all I lost: " I can do better next week" And I'll do better. I keep track of my calories, I never go under 1400 I Change up my work out, weight train twice a week or more. Cardio for 30 mintues or more 5 days a week.

But now I don't Know how I can do any better. Now not only have I gained back all the weight I tried so hard this month to lose... I gained and extra pound. I am now bigger than when I started. @_@ It just dosn't seem fair.

I eat better than those size 0 people.. I work out.... why can't I lose weight? It goes against everything I ever learned. I mean... You eat right...you work out..you burn calories... you lose weight. Why isn't it working for me?! Arg. it makes my want to throw a childish fit. >_<

I'm just very upset, but I don't want to give up. not just yet.

Sakai - there has to be something in the math that isnt working out. Have you considered counting calories for a week to see whats going on. Depending on what kind of cardio you are doing 30 mins 5 times a week is not really enough to lose weight unless it is coupled with lower calorie eating. What I would suggest is to find out how many calories you need per day to just maintain at your current goal. Then eat how you normally do for the next week counting all your calories and subtracting calories burnt by your excercise and see if your behavior over time would make you lose weight. So often we think we are eating healthy or low calorie and we are not. I suggest maybe trying nutridiary.com...it is free and does all the math for you, you just plug in what you ate and how much you worked out. I think my doing some research on your bahavior we can figure this out!

First of all, take a deep breath and exhale sloooooowly....

Didn't that feel better?

I rant all the time and sometimes I forget to breathe too.

If you haven't lost anything or have gained weight back yo yo style, let's start by looking at what you eat and what you do to exercise.

So, what do you eat?

What exercises are you doing?

Are you tracking your calories/food intake?

Give us more info about your lifestyle, we'll be able to help you better .

I feel ya!!! I feel the same way sometimes.

I know the LAST TIME I tried to lose weight, I really thought I was doing it all right. Cutting calories, exercising, etc. Well, when I "tweeked" my calorie intake by 250 calories PER DAY, and added another 15 minutes to my cardio (making my workout 45 minutes instead of 30 minutes) - the weight just started falling off.

I lost 25 pounds in just under 3 months. But one shoulder injury & a few months later I gained it right back.

I know what I have to do to lose the weight AND to maintain the loss once I reach my goal. My problem is absolutely NO motivation whatsoever right now. I'm hoping that will change soon, because I certainly do not appreciate my bigger butt.

You're not the only one with no motivation Beach patrol, I've been the same weight for a couple months now and am starting to get very frustrated.

I'm thinking of revamping my diet and switching out what I eat.

Such good advice from all the ladies above. I especially liked the one who suggested that you write down everything and figure out how much you are actually "burning up" in calories. You didn't say what kind of weight training you are doing either. Twice a week is good, as long as you are lifting enough weight and really pushing yourself. Compound exercises also are best. ( i.e. squats, pushups, lunges...) They workout large muscle groups all at once and really can get your heart rate up during the workout. Do not be afraid to build muscle, as it will really help you burn fat and change your body.

Also, think of all the benefits you have been deriving from your exercise. Surely your blood pressure must be benefitting, and you must have put on some muscle too. Your endurance is surely better than it was and you are probably reducing stress ea. time you exercise. So, you are benefitting in other ways, even if the scale has not moved yet. I think you can figure out where the "problem" lays and fix it still. Don't give up. YOU CAN DO THIS!! Keep us posted please! ((HUGS))

I use to keep track of everything I did on Fitday. I was almost obsessed with that site. @_@... but I'm going to try keeping PERFECT track of my calories and workouts for a solid week. Starting today. If something is messing me up, I'm going to find it and SQUISH IT! Mwhahah! lol

LynneA Yes.. that deep breath did feel better. ^_^

hey sakai! I was the same way i began to do the same thing as you to count calories and did lose 10 pounds in 2 months and gain some lose some.so I decided to do south beach diet. I was frustrated like you are right now but i decide not to give up but one thing i notice was that my scale was telling pounds up and my clothes was fitting loose and inches were less so I decide not to put no attention to the scale any more because it made me depress. so the advice i give you is that focus on your body and your clothes that will give you more satisfaction then the scale will. good luck

Hey Sakai!!!!

Just wanted to give you a good and say you can do this! I know it can be very frustrating. But the main thing is you aren't giving up. My old Quote said something like, "Success is failing and failing and having the courage to not quit." or something to that affect. That fits me to a T. So Kudos to you for all your hard work and not giving up!

You can do it!

Just hang in there. You might be doing something right now that is holding you back, but you're in a good habit. The better your habits get, the better your health will get! I bet you're in a lot better shape than you were 7 months ago. That puts you in a much better spot to hop to it and really get the weight flying off.

*huggles* thanks everyone.

I Have been a bit stressed as of late about my DB and college started again this week. @_@ So I know I haven't been eating as much as I Should be. I'm dog tired because of suddenly having to get up at 7 in the morning and having classes as late as 9 at night >_<..

But I will keep everyone posted. ^_^

*dashes off for a late afternoon class*

That's a tough situation.

What about measurements? Have you lost any inches? Do your clothes fit differently?

Hi Wyllenn.
My inches haven't changed much. >_<.. but I think all the fat is shifting around because my shirts are getting tight again. @_@. Pants are fitting fine though. It's just my belly seems to be bigger than before and I don't know why, being I haven't gained anything more than what I started with. Other than that 1 pound today.

I believe if I was doing that much exercise and that low of calorie diet that I would check with my doctor to see if there might be some underlying reason the weight isn't coming off. Such as PCOS or Insulin Resistance which make it very difficult to lose weight. I have these things and without low-carb, I could count calories and exercise til doomsday and never lose a pound. Been there , done that. Good luck and I hope you find what works for you. We're all different so just take this for what it's worth. my 2cents.

Ok! I have been keeping close track of my eating over the weekend. We had a going away party for my kid brothers so I think I did okay even though I didn't eat as healthy as I mostly do.

For the 3 days I had a average of 1758 calories a day. This is WAY more than I thought I was eating. But it was the weekend and I tend o eat more on the weekends, simply because I'm not at school.

But it's monday and I'm about the hit the gym again and I have my calories back under control. I hope.

I've been needing to go to the doctor for a check up for the longest time. They tested my thyroid(sp?) a while back but that came back normal. They said all I had to do was diet and get moving. I was alot younger then. I'm going to make a appointment next week if everything at school goes well, cross your fingers for me^_^

I also saw Miss I'm-Gonna-Take-Your-Boyfriend for the first time in months at school today. She looks like she dropped weight. I just stalked right by her chin up and eyes forward, I wanted to beat her with my books @_@. (being truthful makes me sound like i'm acting childish) Ooooo But just seeing her really strokes my anger and makes me want to hit the gym so I don't get a ticked off mood like I did before. Just work off the anger..