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Ok I was stopped by the end of posting anyway here is my post

"Nancy I am sorry you were not able to work out today. However I am glad you left this post. As I said before I often feel like Nelie and sometimes these are things I need to read Sometimes I think wow I still have so much more to weight to shed and it can be a real bummer but I promised myself I will keep going. So thank you !"

I hope everyone is having a good night. Most people here in St. Louis do not have power and we are on a water boil situation here. We are lucky to have both power and bottled water so we are doing ok. I do worry about many elderly people in their homes today.

Hello All,

I didn't think I would have chance to post today, but I know I have a busy day tomorrow, so I thought I better try to catch up now so that I don't fall too far behind tomorrow.

Alison - I totally agree with you about this place. I know I wouldn't be doing so well on my diet without being able to come here amongst women who are in the same boat as me and are all on the same weight loss journey as me

Heather - I love your posts, you always put everything so eloquently

Jen - what diet are you following? I only ask because I find that on WW I can eat a cake daily if I want to, I don't have to wait for it to be a treat once a month That said, I don't eat cake, but one of my fave desserts is chocolate mousse, yummy. 6 points, but definitely worth it!

Valerie - so glad to hear that you are feeling better and kicking that bronchitis to the kerb

Misti - loved your quip about Nancy being 'Not the Cheat' You have a fab sense of humour.

I am glad that you have been voting for Zelma, I am glad everybody is. I have lost count of the times I have voted now Of course I have this funny feeling that they might be able to check how many votes come from the same IP address and that they will only accept 1 Oh well at least we are all giving it a go!

Sassy - I hope you are feeling ok, and not still smarting over some of the honesty you received

Rkrs - oh no, no power, how did you manage to do your dancing without music Seriously I am sorry that there is such a bad outage there, and I hope it all gets sorted soon Hope you are having a great day.

Nelie - yes it does move quickly here, but rest assured that you don't have to post long personal replies to everybody. Just check in with us and let us know how you are doing

I haven't lost as much weight as you but I truly know how you are feeling about losing weight but not liking that you still have a lot to lose. That is how I feel. And it seems from other replies you have had that a lot of us feel the same way. I don't think any of us will be truly happy until we get to our ultimate goal weight. Until then we just have to be proud of what we achieve.

I am sorry the loose skin you have is causing you some problems, is there any chance you could have surgery to sort it out? I was talking to my counselor the other day and we were talking about how unfair it is that people like you and me lose the weight but end up still feeling bad about themselves because they may have so much excess skin. Surgery is an expensive option which people may not want or be able to afford. I guess we just have to focus on how much fitter we feel and how many 'normal' things we can do if we do come across that problem.

Nancy - sorry that you were messed around by the accountant. I hope you have calmed down now

Sorry that you didn't see a loss this week, but I love your attitude, you know you are back on track and are confident of a loss at next WI

Kayley - Kayley, Kayley, Kayley, you don't have to post personals. Heck I only do as many as I do because I have the time. If I didn't, or when I don't, I won't do them either. Please post to let us know how you are doing, we all understand you are too busy with your new job and all that exercise you are doing to have much time for being online

That's brilliant that you have lost 5", just goes to show that you are indeed toning up those muscles which are weighing more than the fat you are losing. Forget those scales and just enjoy the NSVs like buying tank tops

Annie - don't overdo it with the packing, remember your back and how you mustn't overwork it

Jill - Hope you have/had a wonderful birthday How did you enjoy the Cheesecake Factory (it was you who said you were going there wasn't it?)

Brenda - where are you? Are you ok? I hope what you wrote about on your blog isn't bringing you down too much

Well that's it, it's my bed time now. I shall try to pop on tomorrow, but if I don't then everybody have a great weekend,

Hugs,

Ammi

Hi Everyone~~

How are you all doing today? I'm doing pretty good. My bf and I talked and things are not as bad as I thought they were. It seems that this bimbo is trying to tell him that he's the father of her kid and is trying to get him to take a paternity test. He's absolutely terrified of this so that is why he's talking to her. I have seen his cell phone myself and he does have her ringer on silent--he told me he doesn't even want to talk to her. Personally I think he should suck it up and just take the test so he'll know either way and we can get on with our lives. *sigh* Please pray that everything works out okay for us. We need all the help we can get.

I'm listening to some Barry Manilow on iTunes right now. I hate to admit it, but I love his music. "At the Copa--Copacabana..." Anyway, I'm just stopping in because I cannot sleep. I figured I'd take advantage and try to catch up on some posts here. Thank goodness that Ammi does such a good job so that I can remember everything I want to mention.

Alison--ditto on coming here. I usually go through some busy periods where I can't get here as much, but I can tell because I am not in the same frame of mind. I start to get bummed when I don't lose anything and other people can't really relate. They're all like, but you've lost so much why are you getting yourself upset. You know you can do it. DUH! But the ladies here know the absolute fear that rules you during those periods--the fear that you're not going to be able to do it more, or heaven forbid--gain it all back. Very scary--and only the people who are in or who have been in the same boad can truly understand. The Chickies here always make me feel better because they understand.

Wyllen--your posts are always uplifting to me. You are my example right now and I'm trying my hardest to get into One-der land with you. I know I can do it too.

Rkrs--I wanted to tell you that I looked at your pictures and I could see a big difference in them. It must be hard right now in your area with no power or clean water. I know that you said you have water, but good luck in dealing with that. Keep up the good work because, like I said, there is a definite difference in your belly.

Nelie--Girl I am so with you on this. I've lost almost 125 lbs. now and my arms look horrible and my belly hangs down and I know how far I've come but all I can see sometimes is what feels like the insurmountable amount that I still have to lose. I start to feel like it will never happen and even though I know how good I've done--people who are seeing me for the first time just see a fat lady. *sigh*

Do you have insurance? If your loose skin is causing problems--like rashes for example--removing that might be covered under your insurance. Good luck and let us know. I know that if I had the money I would go get my stomach done NOW. I know that I can lose the weight--but I would definitely get rid of that as soon as possible. I won't lie and I won't feel sorry about it either. I will have to do it anyway so why not help myself along by something like 20-30 lbs.

Thanks for the welcome back and I'm glad you're feeling better.

Nancy--how are you doing after the surgery? Good I hope. I know that you can't wait to get back on that exercise wagon, but make sure it's safe first. You're more important than a couple of lbs. coming off sooner. And I'm now afraid for when you actually do have that meeting with the accountant. I don't want to hear about any crazy fat chicks killing accountants on the news, okay? Seriously, I don't blame you for being upset. It's like you feel like you wasted that time. That's okay--you can re-start on Monday.

Kayley--you are doing so well. Don't worry about the personals if you don't have the time. Did you see my 1 or 2 sentence post yesterday that basicly just said hi and I voted for Zelma? I'm so glad that even though the scale isn't moving the tape measure is. You get 2 dancing carrots for that. Keep up the good work.

Annie--how are you doing? I've only seen a quick post by you so all I know is that you're going to be moving soon. I've seen the pictures of your new house that Ammi posted and I've also noticed how well you've been doing as far as your weight loss. Good luck with the move and I'm sure I'll see you around soon.

Jill--how was your birthday? Did you like the Cheesecake Factory? Tell me all because I LOVE cheesecake and I'm living vicariously through your visit there.

Ammi--I hope you have a good day tomorrow and a good weekend too.

Did any of you ever think that just losing the little bit of weight that you may have lost--be it 10-20-30-50-lbs. etc would give you as much extra energy as it does? Like I'm still at 235 lbs. but I notice that I actually don't freak out if I have to go up the stairs 3 or 4 times when before it would be a big project for me. I know that I can also keep on going for longer periods of time too. Meaning I don't need as much sleep anymore. :LOL: (Although I must admit that I DO like to sleep.) I just started thinking about that today when I had to go upstairs several times and I just did it and it wasn't tiring or a big deal for me. I guess that's a NSV.

Well, I'm going to try to go to bed now. You all have a good night. Sorry if I didn't mention a couple of you--I forgot your original post and didn't want to just copy what Ammi said. I'll try to talk to you all tomorrow.

By the way--I found that if I actually close out of my browser I'm able to go and vote for Zelma. I've already done it like 10 times so... I think that she should win it--and NOT just because we know her and love her here. But she's lost the most weight and that matters. Not that the other people's achievments should be sneezed at--but really--the one who only lost like 36 kg. as opposed to how much some of the others lost? I know that it's just as hard to lose, but in cases like this the more weight you've lost should be taken into consideration.

Okay, goodnight everyone.

Vicki

Hi Everyone,

Just me saying hi! Don't have any 'issues' at the moment so just a 'hello'! Truckin along over here just waiting to leave the 3's behind very soon

Vicki glad to see you're doing well and hope it all works out the way you want

~ Angie

rkrs -- I’m really glad Nelie posted what she did, because I think lots of us (all of us?) have these negative feelings about ourselves from time to time and I think we all need to know we aren’t alone, and know that we’re okay too.

Nancy – Boy that whole snafu sounds frustrating! Sometimes it wasn’t meant to be though!

eloquent? Pish tosh, not me!

Vicki – I know you can make Onederland too! Look at how far you’ve come – though maybe looking at how far we have left is a problem sometimes – I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately…


Everyone, this may be off topic, but it’s interesting. There’s a thread on the 100 pound club, asking if you could wake up thin tomorrow, would you? It’s here:
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=89672

Lots of people talk about the journey. I’ve responded there, but I’m curious what other people think…

Hi everybody! Yippee tomorrow is Friday!!!

Nelie, so glad you are posting here! Please come back!

Nancy, hope you are over your tizzy by now. Maybe all that frustration will burn calories???

Kayley... don't even THINK about not posting because you can't do personals. They are too much for me also... LOL I would have to take my exercise time to do that!! We would LOVE to hear from you just popping in with whatever you can.

Vickie, glad things aren't as bad as you thought, but please don't get upset, but why should he be worried about a paternity test? Shouldn't he be faithful to you, or is it an older baby from when you went through a rocky patch? Sorry if I've spoken out of turn. I really hope things work out for you, losing weight, worrying about floppy, loose skin and having b.f. problems are too much for anyone, I applaud you for staying OP and being brave enough to share it with us.
I had a not so OP day yesterday, stupid I know, had two bananas on the bus; school trip with hubby, Aiden, Gareth & his school; good- but lunch was tuna roll & salad, BROWN/wholemeal roll, not so bad , but dinner- Southern fried chicken, fries & coleslaw!!! Why am I so stupid???????????? I didn't want to cook or do any food when we got back, but I HATED the food we had, it was really greasy, even though I removed the skin & coating, but why didn't I have something else???? I really don't know WHY, it looks like there won't be a loss this week on the scales. Does anyone have any suggestions???? I can take any criticism, so don't hold back! Any advice will be gratefully accepted.
On the last thread several women were worried about loose skin, Ammi & I have discussed it too, I think Zelma had the right idea, 'battle scars' I think she called them! But if they interfere with life; rashes, soreness or just getting in the way (when I crawl across out bed, or anywhere naked my tummy slaps on my thighs, it makes me feel so sick and ashamed!) by getting trapped under us, there is always surgery if it doesn't shrink back. We have to focus on the NOW, losing the weight, rather than worrying if we MIGHT need surgery to correct loose skin. I know that some people are fortunate (????) enough to be in the situation of having lost enough weight to need surgery to remove saggy skin, I would go and see your Doctor, after all she/he should be able to offer the best advice, whether to wait and lose more weight or whether you could have it now. I hope that we all get the bodies we want and deserve.
xxxsharon

Thanks everyone for putting up with my little fit. I think I was just mad at myself for not following my instinct and bringing my clothes anyway. I'll try not to let it happen again - better to leave them in the car and have them. I ended up having a good workout at home so all was well in the end.

OK, I am really not supposed to be here because I am at work (got in early so I could leave early) but I meant to post last night . . . where are Crock and Patti? I haven't seen either of them for a couple days and they are usually here all the time. Hope all is ok.

Oh I hate these plateaus!!! I know mine hasn't been that long compared to some of yours but I still hate it. And yes it DOES matter to me what the scale says LOL! I admit I slammed the scale around yesterday when it showed I had gained back a pound again. Ah well here we go again for another try at it!!!

Sharon--That's it exactly! We broke up for 6 weeks in 1995. He had met her and he told me he was bored and in a rut. Well after being with him during that time she dumped his a$$ (I know I shouldn't feel good about that but I do). They met again and one thing led to another. It's the same woman as before, by the way--I want to be fair and make sure you all realize he's not a woman hopper--it's bad enough that he cheated on me with one. Anyway--he finally told her that he didn't want to see her anymore and he made sure to give her back her key and we were working on us. Isn't it funny that 2 days after he gave her back her key the back window on his Saab was broken? He is telling me it's because of the heat but it hadn't been hot enough up here for that at that time. And then he didn't return her calls--I know because I listened to his voice mail where she was whining and asking him why he didn't--and then the Tuesday after that she leaves him a crying voice mail--

"I'm so sorry I didn't tell you all these years, but Matthew's yours."

What a piece of work either way. If he's my bf's kid then she STOLE all of that time away from both of them. I might not like the situation at all, but that's just wrong. And if her son ISN'T his--then she's disgusting for using her child in such a manner. My bf is worried that he'll end up having to pay 10 years of child support which is why he is afraid to get the test. So that's the whole story in a nutshell. I was leaving you know. And we talked and he actually told me he didn't want me to go so I guess I may be stupid, but I'm going to give him one more chance. Should I ask him when the boys birthday is? Because my bf and I got back together right before Halloween so if that boys birthday is after what? August? then he can't be my bf's kid? Anyone have a clue for me? Thanks for any and all help.

By the way Sharon--I too have fallen victim to the delicious fried chicken trap. Unfortunately it tastes so good going down but it makes me sick afterwards. It's good that you did eat that in a way--now you know that you're a "healthy" eater, right? I've found that when I eat the foods I used to eat a lot before--KFC, McD's, pizza, Chinese--I get so sick with heartburn afterwards that it's just not worth it to me. So don't beat yourself up for one little misstep, okay? O.K!

I hear you and feel the same way.

Melissa--I went to see your pictures by the way and they are awesome. I hope you make a lot of money this weekend. Don't worry about not exercising for a couple of days--I'm sure the stress level alone is giving you a workout.

Misti--remember, the scale is your friend You made me laugh when you talked about slamming the poor thing around. All I could picture is one of the mobsters from the Soprano's threatening someone. Seriously though, plateaus are awful and depressing. I've been on one for a couple of months, but I know part of my problem is that I ate some foods that weren't good for me. (See the list above. ) Anyway--it will soon end and you will start seeing those numbers go down again. That's something to look forward to, right?

Nancy--see, something good came out of yesterday. You now have a plan to keep a set of workout clothes in your car at all times. Maybe that's why yesterday happened--so that you could make that plan and stick to it. It still stinks but it's not the end of the world. Now get back to work.

Well guys, the scale was my friend this morning and I'm going to change my ticker because it's said the same weight for 3 days now. 233.4 lbs. so I'm very happy. Now do you all see what I mean about what happens to me when I come here? You all give me the inspiration that I need to do good so THANK YOU! I know that I couldn't do this without all of you. I might try to post some before and after pictures later. No promises though because we're working on the house again. Powerhosing the porch and nice stuff like that. You all have a great day.

Vicki

Hey all,,,,

I am still around, and kicking,, Been busy with us moving the office and Pavilion at Amos Run Hunting Club.. then Yesterday, We took the jeep out for a ride, and broke down, and had to walk about 3 miles to get a ride home,, my leg really bothered me from the walking on gravel, up and down hill.. but all and all it was actually fun,,, Mandy and my other Niece was with me,, fun fun fun,,,,

Kado (my dog) put the pups back under the porch, but she came and got me to show me what she was doing, I am going back after them today, I want them out from under there before there eyes open up, and Tomorrow makes 10 days, so any day they will have their eyes open, I will get pics today..

As for food it is not going so well. NO I am not binge eating, but My choices are slowly gettin worse,, and I am so upset over it.. I am still responsible about it, It is just I know I cant and am not 100% OP and I DONT LIKE IT!!!! but I know I have no choice right now.. but it is soooooo bothersum.... I will live though and KNow that when I am able to go get what I need I will go back to Phase I and begin all over again,, Just so I dont gain I know I am making the right choices.. but I still dont like it, nor am I proud of it..

I applied to a new business that just came into our area, about 15 minute drive from here for $9.70 per hr.. Not great money, but It will do .. any thing is better than what I am making now 000000000

I am sorry for not responding to all, but I am behind now, but I will be better in the future,, Take Care all

Vickie, I'm so glad you didn't take offense, I was worried after I posted that I was being harsh and poking my nose in too much. I'm also glad that you are now ok, as for the baby thing there are lots of online calculators for due dates, you can even put whether the cycle is a regular 28 days or more or less so it should give you an idea of when she conceived, working back from when they were last 'intimate'. The fact that she says so now, after this time, well it seems pretty obvious that she's stirring stuff up & personally I wouldn't believe her AT ALL!!!!!
Nancy, getting mad that you missed exercise!!! you are doing so well, give yourself a hug and a break!
Jilly, hope you have/had (??) a wonderful day, a truly HAPPY BIRTHDAY:
Wyllen, if I could wake up slim, why ask? I'd be out buying size 12s READY!!! I know this losing weight is about educating our tastes and bodies but until I had kids I was never more than 30lbs overweight and a UK 16, I was very active and if I gained over Christmas or holidays I dieted until I was back to 13 stone (182lbs, not bad for 5'8", though not perfect).
Crock what breed is your dog????!!! I sent you instant messages but don't know if you got them. I love dogs & cats and can't wait til you post some pics of those pups! What colours are they? I'm sorry that food isn't going so well, but I'm REALLY SURE that you will get the right job soon and then you can live on steak, salads, chicken and low fat cheese!
Ammi, I hope you had a lovely day out, are you out tomorrow too, for your birthday?? I hope you got the card, I wanted to send you a fridge magnet but the shop must have been the only card/gift shop which doesn't stock them!!
Misti, I hope some of that weight drops off, I get fed up and a lot of the time I'm not totally OP, so to be 'good' and not lose must be VILE and really AGGRAVATING!!!!
Have to go & do dinner, salad & steak for me, I need to 'line' my stomach as I'm off out with my sis & he friend for her (belated) birthday drinking session. Though I will be sticking to low calorie tonic water and gin, alternating with mineral water instead of my usual Irish cider (pints!!! pig that I am!!!) If I have time I will try & get Steve to take some pics of my 'new' hair colour, I had to let it go curly again though, it looked really odd straight AND I don't have the time or patience to mess around with it.
Have a lovely week-end and keep healthy & happy.
Dogpal, hope the move comes soon, and without any or few hitches.xxxsharon

Hi all,

I knew a lot of you would understand how I was feeling about having a long way to go. I guess part of my feeling comes from reading these boards and seeing people who weigh less than me complaining about how huge they are and that they can't stand it which I know is how they feel. I weigh less now than I did in high school so this is all I've known.

I did realize something the other day though. My portions don't seem to be entirely out of whack any more. I won't say that I don't overdo it sometimes but my overdoing now is completely different from when I'd overdo it a few years ago. Maybe my brain is learning.

You girls are wonderful and I hope everyone has a good weekend.