Hey everyone. Hoping that postings and forums will give me a little more incentive to stick with the plan. I'm 33, single, and work way too much! Between a very full-time career and the pressure of 'oh you're not married yet?!?', I've neglected myself for way too long. Just wondered if anyone else was in the same boat? The new plan is to focus on me--to lose weight and feel better about myself. Great to hear from anyone with those same thoughts and ideas. See ya!

Hi Spit!! I like the sound of your new plan! You definitely need to focus on yourself! What are your goals? Are you following a specific plan? Come join us on the "Week of..." thread, if you'd like!

Welcome to the board!! I'm 38 and divorced, neglected myself during my marriage and then even more so while trying to get over my divorce, have been on my plan for 3 and a half months now. Was doing it on my own, calorie counting and exercising, then last week I joined Weight Watchers with my Mom. I look forward to getting to know you better.

Hey Melody and LBH, thanks for the reply. I'm still learning this site, so hopefully replying in the right spot so you'll get this. Not following a plan like WW right now, but trying to change things on my own first (better eating, more exercise to start). If that doesn't work, might have to look at joining a group. Hope to talk more soon!

Hi Spitfire! And welcome! And hey, I am following my own plan too and it does work!!! Eating healthful, nutritious foods and exercising... great way to do it!

So glad you are here and yes!!! It really does help to have the great support that is offered here! I never would have made it this far without 3FC chicks!

I'm in the exact same boat, as a matter of fact. Single, about to turn 34, in the midst of a major career change, and finally *making* the time to focus on myself instead of making excuses. I'm counting calories and workouts on FitDay and so far it's going pretty well. I'm about a month and a half into the 'new me' project, and the support I've found here has been wonderful. Looking forward to getting to know you!

Hi All,

I decided to live for me a while ago and I feel great. I didn't tell the DH that I was making me a priority and he hasn't said a thing. I think we try to be more than we need to and when we stop having such expectations on ourselves then things seem to get better. Or at least that is what has happened for me. I go to the gym first, I prepare the meals I need to eat and I take time to chill. If things don't get done, he has been doing them and he doesn't say a word. I think he likes contributing more to doing things, usually everything is done by the time he's home and we just veg and then I'm resentful cause I cook what he wants to eat. I clean and run errands all day and don't go to the gym and then pout that I didn't do all I wanted. Now I have more balance. He said I seem the happiest he's ever seen me, I glow (he says). I hope you all find that balance as well, and remember you can only give what you've got, when you're not whole you can give much. I really believe that. I know there's a better quote than that out there but that's what I feel.

God Bless
Robin

Hi Spitfire!

I'm a newbie too! Your situation sounds all too familiar... I work far too much as well - burying my self in my work is one way I avoided thinking about a lot of things. Luckily I am starting to get a handle on everything and trying to have a more holistic outlook - but I still end up at the office at 7 p.m. 2 hours later than I had planned on being there! LOL (I love it so that's ok, I guess)

I was in your boat earlier in my 30's (I'm 37 ) with the "why are you still single" business. Don't let it push you into something you don't want. I ended up getting married just to stop all the questions (especially my own) and 3 years later I am getting divorced. Everyone lives by a different time line so trust your best instincts on such an important issue. Am I rambling?

Anyway, I look forward to getting to know you!

~Robbie

Hi Everyone,

I'm 37 today (Sunday).

Add me to the list of the 'works too much' catgeory. I actually had to MOVE away from my job to get rid of some of the responsibility and stress of it all. It was literally killing me.

I now live on the other side of the continent, still work for the same company, but via telecommute. I don't have nearly the amt of stress I used to have, and my panic attacks are gone too. (I take B vitamins too now so I think that helps)

Anyway, I neglected myself in many ways over the years, burying myself in my job, it made me feel worthy of something, i guess? I just got married last year and realizing now since I've calmed down that if I don't get this weight off, I won't be around much longer. My mom has diabetes and clogged arteries due to the same lifestyle pattern, so that would be my future. (thank goodness I seem in pretty good health, other than being over weight).

Oops okay I blabbered on enough.. my point was just to say "hello!" and that I know where you're comin from.

Cheers!
~ Angie

Welcome to all the new people!! Come by and post more often here!!

Hi again Angie & Happy Birthday!

Wow sounds like you have made some major changes! Congrats on the move & the marriage - I have heard how beautiful Vancouver Island is. You are very lucky to be in such a lovely place with your new hubby! I do work from home a lot, but I have found that I really like the social aspect of work - otherwise I end up too isolated. If you are suited to telecommuting then you are fortunate - think how much you are saving on petrol! LOL Is it as expensive up there?

Ditto on the health concerns. Luckily I caught myself before my health took a major hit because of my obesity (whew I said it!). I have had "elevated" blood pressure for a couple of years but I DO NOT want diabetes or heart disease. Once upon a time, I thought that cancer was the only major disease that I had to worry about (I have a family history of breast cancer), but once you're over 35 and seriously over weight, everything becomes a concern.

Glad you are getting healthy for the right reason! Here's to your health on your B-D! ;-)

Hi lotus, melody, everyone I missed

Lotus you seem like you're taking off really well!! Awesome!!

I am originally from the east coast of Canada so yes it is somewhat different in ways. The ocean is the same, I am still on the coast! I really can't describe.. it really is beautiful here. The flowers, palm trees, and cherry blossoms. We had snow last winter for about.. 1 hour? It sprinkled and that was it. I didn't wear a winter coat at all last year. YAY! (where I come from can get pretty cold at times)

Gasoline is probably around the same everywhere, compared to the USA. I am not sure of the gallon/litre conversion. We are sitting at about $1.15-1.20 per litre at the moment I think. Seems I only fill up my tank about once per month these days.

Yes for sure I definitely miss the social aspect and having to prepare to go to work every day. I've done that every day since 1992 when I started working there. It did seem odd at first. I'm looking for something 'social' to get involved with but haven't found the right match yet. I don't have any kids, and my husband goes away at times so that leaves me more isolated than I'd like.

My blood pressure has been up a little high too for about the last year. Nothing REALLY high but high enough, it's a sign of things to come. Don't want to wait until I get a really big scare, or have a heart attack or something. I have a sister too, who had breast cancer 2 yrs ago. So far she is doing well.

~ Angie