I asked someone to sponsor me. She was willing. I discussed with her that I didn't feel the need to call my food in daily and she said what ever I feel will work is good with her. I also can email her which I like. Not sure what else I need from a sponsor but at least I have opened a line of communication. We'll see. I must admit, as I write this, I am skeptical. If I don't call in my food, what do I need to do with a sponsor? Maybe, I can report on my food every few days, like accountability? Or, to ask her questions about things I hear about at meetings that I don't understand?

Here's a question I can ask. Is everyone's "abstinence" different? For me, I think my abstinence is not bingeing. What is an "astinent meal"? Is it food that I have decided I can not eat without craving much more? I guess I do have some questions. Ok, so much for the rambling.

Have a good night.

Awesome! You took a big step! Your sponsor will guide you through the steps. She'll give you assignments, reflect on your step work, and be a sounding board for you to bounce stuff off of.

You asked about abstinence. Yes, everyone's definition of abstinence is different. The basic definition is refraining from compulsive eating. Each person then defines what that entails for them. My own definition of abstinence is not eating between planned meals and not eating desserts. You will work out your definition with your sponsor. Have you called her yet? It's good to set up a schedule of what time you will contact her each day.

When I first started the program, I felt really wierd calling my sponsor everyday. I had never called a person every day. I wondered what I was supposed to say. But, over time and with experience I've come to look forward to making that call. I love starting my day with a dose of my sponsor. I take comfort in knowing that she cares about me, is thinking of me, and supports my efforts. I hang up the phone with a huge smile.

Marny, I don't know what we would do without you! You explain everything so beautifully! Thank you