We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.

We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We often use a "Topic of the Day" for discussion.

Motivational Monday
Tuesday Tips
Wednesday Wish List .. and What you are doing to obtain it.
Thankful Thursday
FUN Friday ... don't wait until you lose your weight.
Sit-up Saturdays - any physical activity
Share your Success Sunday

These are not required topics ...just ideas to share. We often find them very helpful. We also share heartaches and fears ... joys and celebrations.

We have several extra threads going on simutaneously such as Monthly Challenges, Weekly Weigh-ins, Recipes, Bios, and more. Please feel free to check them all out.

We have found this thread to be more than just a support group...
we have found it to become a home. We invite you to join us.

WELCOME!

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I've been gone all weekend, but BAM! I come back full force! I've gone back into the last TWO threads, and gotten everyone a personal...now don't YOU feel special?!?! :P

Dogpal - Thanks so much...I go back on Thursday, and I'm feeling good about it. I think it's going to help a LOT to talk to someone about this...and I'm just glad my counselor isn't some skinny blonde chick! That'd just intimidate me. That's so great that your meds are helping you so much. One of my friends suffers from panic attacks, and she is struggling so much since she can't afford the meds right now. What is the Curves diet all about? I've never head of it! Starting a diet can be so hard! Good luck hon!

Ammi - I have that problem of eating when I'm up late, too, and it's one of the things that I need to work on. Even though I've been doing good with this diet, I know that I needlessly snack...granted, it's on something like fresh broccoli, but STILL. This week, I'm going to try to only eat when I'm hungry. I'm always eating just because it's something to DO. I've heard that about certain anti-depressants...that they'll help you lose weight...I'm all FOR THAT! Where do I sign up?!

Tracey - Enjoy having the house to YOURSELF!!! Alone time can be great...especially if you don't like to exercise to an audience (like ME!) lol! Hope your ankle gets better, so you can enjoy that time, and kick some BUTT!

Xena
- So good to SEE you! Your pic is quite lovely. Where do you work? Sounds like a lot of pressure!

Maria - It's so hard to be loving to myself...so hard. I constantly put myself down, so that no one else will have the chance to do it first...so yeah, that's one of the million things I have to work on. I hope you had a BLAST, and that you got us some pics!!!

Crock - No fair! You have to share the picture with ALL of us! Woo hoo on the loss! You are on a ROLL!

Nancy - Glad you didn't have to sit through the computer fair! Saw your pics over on the thread! You are looking great!!!

Julee - Where are you and Jason going for your honeymoon? And how soon is the BIG day?!?!?! (I'm sure I've asked before, but I'm horrible with remembering things)...

Zelma - I'm so sorry you've been feeling down again...the 5 pound gain; do you think it could be more muscle building, since you are doing so much more jogging and walking lately? Ooooh! I'll bet you are going to have a GREAT time on Thursday night!! I've never been to a casino, as you have to be 21 to get into most of them around here...and can't wait to see some pics! Thanks so much for the compliment.... I like the pic a lot, even though there's this filmy looking stuff in front of it almost...cuz I moved the camera, I think...my mom says it gives it character...hehe. After seeing my full body shots taken yesterday...oh man. I don't think they're going to notice a difference...man, do I look PREGNANT! HA! (There goes that self negativity again)...I think you should DEFINATELY renew your vows, and get an awesome dress! Honey, you DESERVE it! I'm hoping to hear from the courthouse after Friday (the last day they are accepting applications). I want this job more than I've ever wanted a job! Great pic! And you surely don't look 160! I can only HOPE to look that good someday!

Elaine - to the 300+ section!!! Hope to get to know you better in the future!

Mel - Good to see you again! I love love love being able to go OUTSIDE for my exercise. Makes it so much NICER! We love the hummingbirds, too, and we'll sit on our back deck, and they'll fly right up near our noses, like they are studying us, and then they'll back off...it's really cute.

Brandnewme - Hope things do slow down for you soon at work, and you get that MUCH needed break. So glad that you aren't letting the gain get you TOO down, and you're not giving up!

Lilion
- Man, everyone's working their hinds off at work...except ME.

Sharon - I love that feeling of firming up! Makes the exercise WORTH IT!

I was SO MAD. I went and got my work schedule for May from the nursing home...in April, they didn't even have me on the schedule. They had me as "on call"...so I didn't get ANY days last month. This month, I'm "on call", too...from 3-11, so even if someone needs me to work for them...it has to be from 3-11! And on TOP of that, they hired at least TWO new girls, AND are giving another one several DOUBLE shifts!!! What the FU*#?!?!?! It makes me SO MAD.


This weekend was really nice. On Saturday, me and Mom went out, and did a little bit of shopping, and went out for lunch. When we got back, I went over to Andrew's house, and we went out to see Scary Movie 4. I knew it was going to be cheese, but I liked it anyhow. Was much funnier than the 3rd one. Sunday, we went to one of the county parks around here called Love Creek, and went on one of the hiking trails through the woods. We went on the 1.25 mile one, and MAN were we feeling it! Hills, stairs, you name it! But it was really lovely, and I had a great time. I had packed us a picnic lunch, but they had no real place for us to sit down and eat at, so we thought we'd go down to the beach...but of course, it started to get COLD, and we knew that if we went down by Lake Michigan, it was just going to get COLDER. So, we headed back to his house, and decided to go to this little island park that's near where he lives...and had our picnic there. We didn't sit around very long, as it was just getting colder! lol...Later on that night, we decided to go and see Silent Hill at the theater. It wasn't too bad. Not really SCARY, as much as there was a lot of blood...and the ending is pretty gruesome. But, we had a good time. Today, I came home, and worked in the yard for a few hours. Mowed the yard for about an hour, and MAN, that was a workout in itself. We walked down to the gas station to get more gas for the mower, and then came back, finished it all up, and dinner's cooking now. I'm going to be FEELING it in the morning, for sure! Two weeks of class to go, and I'm ecstatic! This will be our last "real" week, as the final week will be review & then finals. I'm going to post a pic....you honestly can't see a difference. I don't have a very good "before" pic, but we'll see...


^^^^^This was me in March 2005...at about 350-355 pounds.


^^^^^These are me yesterday, at 290 pounds. I look very pregnant/very yucky/very the same!

Sorry the pics are so big! I have dialup, so I know it's evil...lol

Kayley, you can tell though! Your waist is starting to get a bit slimmer, but the biggest change is in your face. Look again.. the difference is there

Kayley,~ I can see a difference all over,, You are doing so well.

Can anyone tell me HOW to upload pictures, it keeps saying it is to big, I am trying to upload jpeg.. I am wanten to share my pics people..LOL

Kayley - I can definitely see a difference, especially in your face. Keep it up girl!!!!

Kayley and Crock -- You BOTH look slimmer, waists and faces!!!! Seriously, both shrinking!!!!!!

Kayley~ Thanks again for posting the pics for me,, this a new thing I just dont show off pics... I am still laughing over the Hair.......... lol

ARGH! My scales were supposed to arrive today. It's 5:30 and both UPS and FedEx have come and gone...and NO SCALES.

They were supposed to arrive a week ago tomorrow but between one mix-up and the next, the promised me they'd be here by today. I'm FUMING!!!!!!!!!!

I haven't weighed myself in an entire MONTH. I must have my scales and I must have them NOW! Jeez!!!!!!!!!!!!

<deep breath> Ok, back to work now.

I had a great time at the gala. After trying out all the outfits, I went with the simplest one - black skirt, black blouse and my japanese silk wrap and bag. Got to the event and it was obvious I had made the right choice. L kept telling me all night how good I looked - which was good for my ego for sure.

We met a bunch of nice people, did some networking for her business, met Sheryl Swoops (the pro basket ball player), and danced for a couple of hours. I felt like I was at the top of the world - my body felt good on the dance floor, my legs are getting stronger and my fitness level is so much better than it used to be!!!!

I spent the day yesterday on the couch, tired off my butt (too little sleep), surrounded by a cloud of pink fuzzy warmth. And, this morning, I woke up feeling the same way - soft, happy, content, and just high on life. And then, one of my friends emailed to tell me that a picture of L and I had made it to one of the local queer websites who had covered the event. I eagerly went to the website, looking for the picture and there I was - fat and with a double chin.

I felt so revolted when I saw it. I spent the whole day so sad and upset. Eventhough I've lost about 30 lbs (no, I don't have the exact number since my scales didn't arrive today, again!), and though that night I felt pretty and happy with my clothes and the way the fit better now, and had a blast dancing, I saw that picture and I felt ugly, ugly, ugly. My arms look revolting to me, and my face with its double chins was screaming my feelings of worthlesness back at me from the computer screen.

I managed to get through work without crying but I promptly lost it once everyone else was gone. It's shocking to me, the depths of my self-hatred. And I see the picture of me next to L, who is slender and so very handsome in her black shirt and tie and fresh haircut, and I just want to completely disappear off the map.

I've been crying all evening, actually, cuz I can't seem to stop. It hurts that I hate myself so much; and I am so sad that anyone can hate themselves like this; and I wish I had back that sweet feeling I had this morning when I woke up.

I'm getting through the night with as much compassion for myself as I can.

Thanks for "listening" to all of this. I am too ashamed to talk to anyone else about this.

Kayley~ good pic of Andrew........... how long have you been dating?