Welcome Rebecca!
I am a calorie counter to the core. To me it's simple math calories out minus calories in. It allowed me to lose a little over 50lb, since then I have fallen off the wagon for a few months but I am back on and it is working again.
I eat 5 small meals a day. I do not eat white bread, rice or sugar. I am a true carb-o-holic! If I taste a little, I'll eat the whole plate. I eat alot of veggies, I am finally up to "5 a day". It took over 6 months to change my eating habits, but it has been worth it.
I work out 6 days a week for between 45 minutes and 90 minutes. I go to the gym, run and do excersise tapes to get a good mix. I take the stairs on days I don't have alot to carry at my highrise and at work so that helps too.
There are a ton of great ladies on this site and they all have great ideas about making life changes and keeping the weight off. Take care sweetie!