advice for a friend please

  • when you are dating a guy, how dose one kknow it is ecslusive without asking so...?
  • Hmmm....tough question
    when you are dating a guy, how dose one know it is ecslusive without asking so...?

    If you have any mutual friends you may be able to find out that way.
    Hmm.......Do you guys go out a lot...? Is there much time for him to be seeing someone else?

    How does he talk about you guys in front of other people?..like how does he introduce you to people?

    I personally wouldn't be afraid to ask directly, to know what is going on...
    and what you are allowed to do too..
    what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

    You could do something sneaky..and pretend a guy asked you out..and see how he reacts..but that personally isn't..my style..

    good luck
  • It is impossible to know without discussing it. It is a decision as a couple not one person.

    IMHO

    L
  • As a guy ~ when I was dating a gal and wanted her to be there "only for me" to see how it played out, I would try to let her know that without being too "anxious". I would take her out ~ call her ~ and fill her in on what I did the evenings and days I wasn't with her, in general conversation.
  • Quote: I personally wouldn't be afraid to ask directly, to know what is going on...
    and what you are allowed to do too..
    what is good for the goose is good for the gander.
    If you're not afraid to ask, then go ahead and ask. His reaction will not only tell you if he wants to be exclusive, but it may even give you a good idea of whether he's someone you can really communicate with. That's a good thing to know, especially if there's a chance you might start getting serious later on down the road.
  • In my opinion, if your friend is afraid to just ask him, they aren't close enough to be dating exclusively. Being boyfriend/girlfriend means being able to talk to each other, and if you can't even discuss the boundaries of the relationship, there probably isn't much of one to discuss.

    I would just say, "I think this is going really well, and I don't want do date any other guys." Then see what he says.
  • Agreed, just ask him, at least you will know how he really feels.
  • Thanks for the responses...Ihave told her to ask but she doesn't want to talk to him about it whci I think is totally rediculas...I mean if she wants an excluzive relationship she has to be ablt to talk about it.