Hi guys! I need some advise. My husband wants to start a family (we are 30 years old) and I keep putting it off because I keep thinking I need to lose weight. I am 231 (recently lost 11 pounds) and would like to get down to 215 before conceiving. The problem is-I keep putting my husband off and he is getting frustrated with me. Does anyone know, if I should conceive , would I be able to lose 15 pounds during the first trimester if I ate appropriately? I mean, if I am overweight already, and eating healthy would it make a big difference to the development of a baby? If I should conceive I will ask my doctor about this, but I was just wondering if anyone knew anything.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
thanks
Saggy

Hi. I wanted to make a couple of comments if I may. Your clock is ticking and I can see how you are wanting a baby especially your husband. I am not sure about how bad your health or the baby's can be affected by your weight but let me mention a couple of things. I just had a friend who delivered last Thursday. She was 199 when she got pregnant and gained 75 pounds. Blook pressure was fine until the day before her scheduled c-section. Baby was 10 pounds 4 ounces and the mother had twice the amount of fluid than normal. Doctor said her weight contributed to all. Most all women gain weight no matter how hard they try not too. I would not dwell on weight loss after you're pregnant. Too me that has to be more dangerous. I gained 65 pounds myself. I think it would be sad on the other hand to lose a lot of weight just to regain it and have to start over. I would however, have to look at the health issues and seek professional advice. Your husband would have to care enough about your health and the baby-to-be and follow a doctor's advice. Regardless of what you do, take care of all involved and please let us all know what happens.

Dana
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Thanks Lakelog! I think I am just going to let things come as they may. So , I will keep exercising and eating well and if I get pregnant then so be it. At least my good habits are starting before I even get pregnant.

Thanks for the advise
Saggy

Hi. I am old enough to be your mother, but my advise is this.

If you are healthy, even though you are overweight, and you continue to eat healthy and exercise, you will be fine. Not everyone in the world is slim and trim and all kinds of babies are born everyday to women who are overweight. Overweight may not mean unhealthy.

Just a thought, so if it was me, I would go ahead and start a family. I WOULDN'T allow myself to eat anything and everything during pregnancy as it will be really hard to carry all the extra weight. You don't say what your health issues are.

Anne

Hi Anne, thanks for the advise. I do not have any health issues. My blood pressure and cholesterol are normal. I exercise 5-6 times a week and have been eating about 1700 calories. I have decided to start trying and see what happens. It is not fair to keep putting my husband off because he really really wants a family. Your advise made me feel so much better.
Thanks,
saggy

Hi Saggy. Good for you. I am sure that you will be extremely happy with your decision. I have a little granddaughter (3 yrs) that is a most wonderful child. We are truly greatful to have her. Also, my daughter was overweight when she conceived her and she was find - and she has thyroid problems. All went well and the baby was healthy.

I don't think putting off 'life' is a good idea at any time. Unless, of course, you had some terrible disease or condition that could be passed on.

The best of luck to your husband and yourself.