Hi Paris
can you talk to your parents? someone at church? have you discussed with a doctor your weight issues? Maybe there are some medical explanations?
You are 14 years old - I personally think that you have a lot to look forward to. "Getting the guy" is not the most important thing right now (though I do understand, I was 14 once!), the most important thing is YOU, feeling good about yourself, becoming self-assured, making friends, talking about whatever issues are going on. Believe me, you will "get the guy" when you take care of yourself first
