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We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.

We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We often use a "Topic of the Day" for discussion.



Motivational Monday
Tuesday Tips
Wednesday Wish List .. and What you are doing to obtain it.
Thankful Thursday
FUN Friday ... don't wait until you lose your weight.
Sit-up Saturdays - any physical activity
Share your Success Sunday



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we have found it to become a home. We invite you to join us.

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Whew! I thought maybe I might have messed up starting the new thread So far so good hehehe...

Wyllenn – You come to think about it, my doctors scale is a digital scale as well… so I wonder if it’s something to do with the spring or not. But I guess either way, the only thing that matters is that it’s going down.

Jill – Exactly… as long as you are going down and you have on that you use for your own measures then it should all be good… down is down no matter what scale. It’s just amazing the differences in numbers… and such a huge difference at that.

Voodoo – I’m so sorry to hear the traumatic experience you had with your biopsy. *big hugz*

Xena – Fitday is a great site I use a program that I can keep on my computer called Diet Power. It is just the same as Fitday cept not online. I too have it very useful to see all the things I’m taking it and it makes it very easy to look at like sodium or even fats and see where to cut back on things. Congrats on the 2.6lbs gone!

Ammi – wow… you know it’s amazing the mouths I’ve seen on doctors these days. I haven’t had medical insurance for over 12 years now and now that I can use the student health center I’ve gone in for regular check ups on my asthma. I have this one nurse practitioner who I really depise seeing now. She’s got the mouth of a dung beetle. You don’t really have access to a doctor unless you have specific questions or a specific problem. So the Nurse takes care of everything. Out of the many unhappy times I’ve seen her, I’ve had comments of “You’re really huge for your age” (like no duh!) She also said one time “Did you know your weight causes you to have excess body ordor?” I went home thinking I stunk. I asked my sister, who drove me home, if I smelledand she said no, and I even asked James, who I have lived with for 8 years, and he said no. What’s up with that? Ooh another one is where she said “If I give you this prescription I really want to see a dramatic loss in weight” This is when she first prescribed me b/c to regulate my cycles. She said she wouldn’t only give me 3 months worth and I would have to come in and see here again so she can “make sure” I’m doing what she asked. Then one time she had the nerve to ask me if my weight was holding me back from meeting people and whenI told her I was married she was like REALLY??! So when I went in for my refills on b/c I asked to see the doctor because I wanted to ask about asthma medication and about PCOS. So I got assigned to an actual doctor and when the doctor went through my charts, she asked if I was working on loosing weight and I told her my story and she was very positive about things. Oh Boy, I’m sorry to babble on like that… I understand that the truth hurts and that it needs to be said in order to make on impact, but hello?? There are nicer ways to say things. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I know how you feel. *big hugz* Good for you for not going home and chomping down. That’s what I did afterwards… When I had strep and scarlet fever, the only thing that really sucked was the rash. I had these like red pin sized marks on me and I ached! I had a high fever with it as well… but it’s funny I had it before I had the strep. I kinda figured it would be a symptom that followed strep. Dunno. The doctors were shocked because they said it was something only kids got. But I do have a kid, but I know I didn’t get it from her, because she got it after me.

Lillion – congrats on moving towards your goal 50% of the way there!! WHOOHOO

Well ladies… I might have some good news. Depends on how I should take it well I think I don’t have strep throat. Only because I’m coughing and sneezing and my nose it running. I’m happy for that. Strep doesn’t have any of those symptoms tho they can go hand in hand… however, my throat doesn’t hurt to bad today. I can swallow with no problem. So I’m taking Dayquil to see if I can tame my other symptoms to at least make me non-miserable just for a little bit. I’ve been eating soup all day. Which is good in one way because the noodles expand and I don’t eat as much, however the sodium intake is horrible! I’m gonna be bloated. I would send james to the store to find some better soups, but he’s got some strange tastes *grin* so I’ll deal with it. It beats eating a big fat guacamole burger I was suppose to go to lunch with my sister today I cancelled on her. Which was a good thing, because I would have ate the bug fat guacamole burger without any guilts til after the fact heheheh…

Alrighty ladies, I’m chilly so gonna go lay down some.

Take care!

Sue…

Hello! just checking in..... I like the dancing carrot!

Hi Everyone!

I WON!! I WON!!! LAWL had an open house last week and I turned in several tickets for prizes. I actually bobbed for apples which got me around 20 tickets I think. The grand prize was an overnight stay at a fancy downtown St. Louis Hotel! PLUS I won $30.00 gift certificate to Joe Bacarrdi's Restaurant. We are giving Mike (my oldest) the restaurant $$$$ for babysitting the littles - my husband and I haven't spent the night alone for at least 15 years!

I don't know who is more excited - him or me!!!

SUE: I cannot believe that ignorant woman at your doctor's office - I would be writing letters to her higher ups and their higher ups - I write letters all the time if I'm happy or unhappy with products or services - it makes me feel better even if there isn't anything done about it.

Hi to everyone else!! Hope your week is starting out great!!

AMMI: I am SO SORRY about what happened at the doctor's office! I came to the new thread and didn't see the bottom of the old one - OMIGOSH that is so awful! You are feeling bad enough and in pain without an idiot doctor making you feel worse - I hope you start feeling better soon!

Ammi, and SueMarie and everyone else who's had a bad Doctor experience: that so stinks and I know exactly what you mean! When I was in graduate school a doc at the university clinic accused me of seeing a different doc every year so I wouldn't have to be accountable about my weight (hello, it's a clinic and you just take the first available... plus, I had seen one twice). Then she said she wouldn't be able to do the normal gyn tests on me without some fancy machinery -- that was when I weighed about 250 -- even when I got to about 300, no one else ever said that.

Of course I made sure never to see her again, but I was so ticked that I didn't have the gall to tell her off right then and there.

Ammi, I am so sorry you had that awful appt -- clearly my good luck wasn't enough! But good for you for not giving in and eating !!!!

Lilion -- 70 pounds and over halfway! Fantastic!!!!!!

Lori-- congrats on your winning! Sounds like fun!

Hey ladies, just thought i would pop in and say hi! i keep up with all the posts, but sometimes dont have time to post myself
Amni and Sue: I am appalled and frankly p**d off reading your experiences with doctors! We as consumers have the right to be treated fairly and respectfully without discrimination when we go see them. If this happens again, please report it to someone, it is totally unacceptable!
A pleasant thing is happening to me, my clothes are again getting too big for me The only problem is , some of them have recently been purchased on ebay Yes i have a clothing addiction, something i didnt even care about at 314lbs. looking nice makes me feel much better about myself
have a great night

Hi Kymberly! That's awesome you've lost 85 pounds! You started out at 1.8 pounds less than I started out. I've lost around 15 and I can't wait until I've lost 85!!!

Hi Wyllenn! Thanks for the congrats! WE will probably use it during the holidays! Such a treat!

Have a great evening everyone!

Oh my gosh. Reading the negative experiences some of you have had with doctors makes me really sad. There is so much discrimination against overweight people and that includes some people in the medical profession. I am just flabbergasted at some of the vile rude things these "professionals" have said to their patients. Appalling.

I will admit, I have not gone to the gyno since I have packed on so much weight in a year and half out of embarrassment. My gyno has never said a word about my weight, then again, he hasn't seen me at this weight. During the years I saw him I fluctuated between 200-220, which on 5'11" isn't the greatest, but isn't the worst either. It is stupid of me not to be going, especially considering I have had several abnormal paps in the past and have had the LEEP procedure twice and been lasered once to get rid of dysplastic cells. I am just too ashamed of myself to go at this point. I have considered just starting with a new doctor so I won't be humiliated about my drastic gain in sucha short period of time.

Anyway, enough about me. I am truly sorry that some of you have heard such mean and hurtful things from doctors. It just isn't right. Not even a little bit. Shame on them.

Mom2fivesweeties – Congrats with winning the night away As for the nurse, I thought about complaining, just never did.

Wyllenn – yeah… I had something like that once… when I was getting my yearlys done at Planned Parenthood (because I qualified for free check ups there for the yearly exams)… the nurse who was taking care of me said she couldn’t do the exam properly cause she couldn’t see what she was doing because I had some much excess fat in my mid region….

Futurediva – isn’t it a wonderful feeling to say my close are too big rather than my clothes are too tight!! I love it! Congrats! My engagement ring is starting to get really loose on me as well… I’m glad I have the service plan on it.

Guess what?!?! I got an 86% on my Calculus exam… WOOHOO! I am so glad I passed, but even to pass with a higher percentage than expected eeesh! I know I should think more positive on this, but I’ve had such a hard time with this calculus class that I really wasn’t expecting to do so well. I’m even contemplating not taking calculus 3 (if I can help it) but it’s starting to look like I might not have a choice.

I’m feeling much better… still got the sniffles, chills, sneezes and slight sore throat, but thank god for Dayquil

Alrighty everyone… take care and have a good night!

Sue…

Hi Everyone! I'm Tammy! I'm new here and just found the 300+ area yesterday. I am so excited that I found this place!

Ammi: I just read your post about the doctor and OMG!! I cannot believe how some doctors are now a days. I have one doctor that blames everything on the size of my chest and I swear everytime I go there he asks if I have called a surgeon for a reduction yet. Then my last visit he says.. hasn't your family doctor mentioned that.. I said NO You are the only doctor that I have ever heard say anything. Sure other doctors may think it but good grief that is not the cause of every problem in my life. There has to be a reason your other wound won't heal and if he won't help you then you need to find someone who will. UGH Doctors!! They get paid way too much just to make you feel like crap.

Ok so I have a crappy story about a medical worker. On the 12th of this month I went for surgery but I was late so they decided to do a pregnancy test. Well the test came back positive. For 2 days we were super excited then on Friday I started to spot. So I called my OBGYN. She said since it was so early in the pregnancy that something could have gone wrong and I could be miscarrying but she will send me to get blood work again to be sure. So I immediately go to the hospital and go up to the lab for blood work. 1st of all I have to sit there for 15 minutes. No one else was there. The lady was just sitting there doing nothing. Finally she comes out and says "well I guess I can take you in before I get a ton of people" umm ok what the heck. So anyway.. she starts getting ready to take the blood and says "do you want the test to be positive" I say yes my husband and I have been trying on and off for 2 years.. then get this.. after I tell her I want it to be positive she says "Well maybe it would be better if it was negative" I was in shock.. how can you say that to someone who is almost in tears at the fear they will lose the pregnancy.. then she continues on with her daughter was overweight when she got pregnant and blah blah blah its so unhealthy and I could die and I really should wait and lose some of this weight before I would even think of getting pregnant. At the time I couldn't speak cause I knew I would cry but who the heck is she?? I have talked to my OBGYN and my family doc about getting pregnant and they have said it is fine and even if they hadn't who is she to be saying something like to me. So anyway I came home.. my mom works at the hospital so I told her about it. Well she was fumming.. I was going to let it slide but she went to work and talked to the doctor thats the head of the lab and filled a complaint. we aren't sure yet what happened but the doctor was furious and told my mom to tell me if I need anything I should come to her. But to make a long story longer I miscarried on Saturday the 15th so I've been pretty depressed which makes dieting harder but I have resisted the urge to cheat big time. I almost got a pizza the other night but instead had a grilled chicken sandwich.

Sorry for babbling.. I'm a big talker incase you all hadn't noticed yet LOL

I really look forward to getting to know you all!

Hi gals...I haven't been around due to Hurricane Wilma! Luckily we got through pretty well--lots of flooding and wind, but no personal damage. Today it is FREEZING in Florida!!

I'm sorry to read all the horrible stories about crappy medical people. I have had a few of those experiences in my day too.

I'm pretty excited--I am one pound away from my Halloween Goal!!

Sue -- Congrats on that calc grade -- that's awesome!

TamLynne -- WELCOME!! I was so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, I'm sure that's not easy to deal with and you must be very sad. I am glad to hear a report was filed on the bloodwork chickie... probably that's what more of us should do!

Jeanette -- You GO! So close to the 200's!!!!

As for me, I am not feeling like I can fit in exercise this morning, and didn't yesterday... (between grading and meetings and pt and drs visits I have too much on my plate)... I'm going to try to work out tonight instead of this morning because I've been doing well at keeping it to 4-5 x/week and don't want to fall off the horse!!!

Hello All

I just love these Halloween smilies I am pleased to say that I am feeling far less stressed today. Oh I am still appalled at how that doctor spoke to me, but in hindsight, and in all honesty, I do hope I see him again in 6 months because I want to show off the weight I have lost. And if he dares to give me attitude again this time I won't keep my mouth shut!!

Sue Marie - I am glad that it isn't Strep throat that you have, though am sorry you have such a nasty cold. I hope you will feel better soon.

WOOHOO well done on your fabulous calculus result. OK so I am mega impressed now. I am such a dunce at even normal math!!

I am really sorry that you have had your share of rotten medical people to deal with. How RUDE was that nurse, she sounds really horrible. You know, last night when I was thinking of all the things I should have said to the doctor I thought of saying, well I can lose the weight, you'll always be ugly lol. Ok so it's childish but it would be so cool to have seen his face had I said it. And if you said it to your nurse I am sure she wouldn't have been amused. Like it's ok for them to insult us, but not visa versa!! Well let's hope we don't have to endure jerks like them again

Alison - glad to see you checking in, hope all is well with you.

Lori - that is so cool that you won an overnight stay at that hotel, and the restaurant voucher. I hope Mike will enjoy the voucher and be happy about looking after the little ones for you and hubby to enjoy the night away. I bet it will be so awesome to have that night to yourselves.

Thanks for your sympathies over they way my doctor was with me. It's hard to believe people can be so rude isn't it.

Wyllen - it is so unfair isn't it that every ailment an overweight person has is put down to being fat. How stupid for you to be accused of deliberately seeing a different doctor each time to avoid being accountable for your weight. Get my gun now lol. I want to shoot all these stupid people.

Futurediva - that is so great that you are finding your clothes are getting too big. I am looking forward to that myself The clothes you have recently bought from Ebay that are too big for you well you will just have to sell them back on there, and get yourself some smaller ones

You are right about it being disgusting the way some of us are treated by medical staff. If I do see him again in 6 months I will feel so much more confident and more able to to give him some verbal back if he dishes it out to me. I would prefer he didn't though, but if he does, then yes I do think I will put in a report about him.

Xena - yes I think if you have had abnormal tests in the past if you don't want to see your normal gynae then you should find a new one. Better to be safe than sorry. I do have to say though that since having my Ulcerative Colitis and then the following surgeries, I much prefer gynae examinations Seriously though, with a smear test I just lie on my back and have the nurse do the swab. With all my bowel stuff I had to lie on my side with my big butt sticking out for all to see and then having all sorts of horrible nasty things being inserted in places where things should never go UP I still have my wound that needs checking and dressing when it needs it, so I have still got a long while to go where I still have to stick my butt out at people. It's so humiliating. Anyway I digressed, please do go and get a test done soon so you can make sure all is well.

TamLynne - Hello and welcome. I am so very sorry to hear about your miscarriage, and I am disgusted at how that nurse taking the blood spoke to you. HOW DARE she say that it would be better if the results were negative. What a mean, tactless cow. People don't have to be thin to have good pregnancies. I was 196 lbs when I got pregnant and although the doc put that I was morbidly obese on my notes as a complication for pregnancy, I had the perfect pregnancy and delivery. So I stick my fingers up to them and to the stupid nurse who was so rotten to you. I won't go on about it because I am sure it is a painful topic for you still. Big hugs to you though!! And cudos to you too for even thinking of dieting and staying on track through this hard time

Jen - 1 lb away from your Halloween goal, you are going to lose that and more I am sure. Well done you!!!

Glad you got through Hurricane Wilma ok, there sure are some bad Hurricanes happening over there lately aren't there. Understatement of the year huh!

I better go now, am being messaged by a friend online, goody, I love a chat. Take care all and bye for now,

Hugs,

Ammi

Jeanette: WAY TO GO!! YOU CAN DO IT!! Only 1 more lb that is awesome!!