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Hey everyone! I've been thinking about it, and I think I'm going to go back on my WW points. I can still do my meal replacement bars, but at least this way I can keep track (more so) of how much I'm eating. I just thought I would share. Be blessed!

Originally posted in #732 by shadiepurple:

Greetings super support ladies . I hope everyone has had at least one happy moment that made you smile this week end.

Solus: I'm really glad your here with us. Thank you for you sweet statment about my SO story. I am so blessed and sometimes I get too busy whinning about the sad stuff to remember that. I teuely wish happiness was something we could wrap as a gift and just hand it to other people and be sure they were feeling it as strongly as the person giving it. Wouldn't that be an awesome gift to recieve??

Thinthinker: Thank you once again for taking care of me. I'm glad you moved my post. I always forget to look at the numbers before I post. In your honor, I will try to watch more carefully. Have an great week.

Lelesmom: and WOW good job on the 6 lbs. Feels great don't it?? Keep on movin'.

Startingover: YEAHHH on your 5 lbs. I sooo love those kind of weigh ins. Makes me walk around with a goofy smile all day. Hope it made you smile too.

Bamamom Welcome to our little corner of the net! Hope we're all and more than you expect. I'm really glad you liked my real life fair tale about my sweet prince and me. I know you too will get to know the feeling of having what you truely want the most. What ever that is in your heart. Enjoy your Blue Bunny. It won't cost you any thing when the right one comes along. Thats how you'll know its real. Big hugs to you :

Esmaraude: I love your style and boldness to be who you are. Hair color is a very personal staement in my opinion. I love to see people express themselves with "daring to be differnt" hair. I personally have purple hair. Strange I know. But I love it. I have had many complaments on my purple hair from men and women. I have an average hair style and its brown with blond and gold high lights, but on both sides of my face and part of my bang are PURPLE. not pinkish but hte real, dark purple. It makes me feel differnt and pretty . Things I can control about myself are few and far between. Thats why I get a kick out of others who do what they feel with their hair...You go girl!!

Dogpal: My dear sweet Dogpal. You make me smile evry time you post. I think we are suposed to be friends. I feel a connection to your way of expressing yourself. i think there is some strange reason that we both started this wild journey at the same time. I think it's so we can encourage each other through our great adventure. I pray I can inspire you as much or in part as you inspire me. Your awesome.

Well, I've blabbed on here again Thanks for your time all. Enjoy your smiles.

Well Brandnewme, looks like I did it again. thank you so much for moving my post. I took awhile writting it and the other thread filled up as I was doing it. Oh well. I'm here now thanks to another great support person. You da bomb baby, thanks.

STOP!! Take a big deep breath. Breath out s l o w l y.
Now, focus on a happy thought. ENJOY the moment.

Hello My Darlings!!! I'm back to reality again... why does TOM get me into a funk before its even here? I swear the week before TOM I am at my *****iest (oops, can I say that?), most unreasonable and most pessimistic for the month! I'm over the hump though, I think.…

Now lets talk about the damage. When the scale started rising a few days after my last weigh-in and I went on a 'what's the use?' frame of mind, I didn't drink enough water, I haven't been journaling, and I haven't eaten enough fruits and vegetables, but I HAVE DEFINITELY EATEN TOO MUCH BREAD. One day I even ate a crunchy peanut butter sandwich (Thank God it was only with one slice of white bread), I've also eaten a few pieces of taffy and a caramel wafer. Well, if I'm up after TOM is done with me, I deserve it. The important part is that today I seem to be back. I kicked exercise in the butt - with a 2-mile walk and 55 minutes of aerobics - yay! My eating was EXCELLENT. And I'm still working on the water, but I'm feeling motivated, so I know I can do it.

brandnewme: I think it would be useful for you to work on your social skills and meet new people, etc., but the Internet can be used as a 'social space' and it can help you come out of your shell. For years I had been feeling 'sexy' even though I was overweight and found that a lot of people (men and women too) are just not ready for a self confident, sexy-feeling, overweight woman to walk in the room. I felt I was able to 'be myself' online one day when I tried out the chatrooms. BTW, the first person I contacted my first day checking out chatrooms 'for fun' happens to now be my husband. We compliment each other so well, we're sure 'it was meant to be'. Who knows what the higher power has in store for you?!

Extrinsic Rapture - you go girl with your 'small 24' jeans on!! Doesn't that feel great? I was hanging onto some black pants that I wore 2 years ago and I still remember the day I said hm... last just try these and they glided right over!

Dogpal, the shoestore story made my day. I think I would have died mortified on the spot. But, once again Andrea looks the situation right in the face and takes the high ground! You're like a big sister to look up to when life just gets ya down!

Solus, sorry about what your SO had to go thru, but I'm so glad it brought you two closer together and brought a sense of happiness and peace to your lives.

Hmm.. I may have to edit this because I'm sure there was so many more responses I needed to write....

ooo here's one edit: DOXIEMOM, CONGRATS ON YOUR LOSS! I WOULD DO ANYTHING TO BE DOWN A POUND THIS WEEK! Sometimes our journey will be slow, but if we stop, we go nowhere. Better to be slow and steady than stagnant. Take that loss and run with it! You'll have plenty more to report in the near future!

ok, bye bye for now! Have a nice, relaxed Sunday evening everyone. And may we all be LOSERS this week! (I've got my fingers and toes seriously crossed here )

Okay, so I've recovered from my frustration and semi-pity party! We played badmitton in the backyard for over an hour last night! It was hot, hot and hot here in KC, and is again today. I think we worked harded playing badmitton than if I would have walked my 2 miles! THANK YOU to everyone for your encouraging words and moral support. I cringe to think where I would be without my "net" girls to help me along this journey that I am determined to make!

Shadie - My dear, you are such a breath of fresh air! I do so love your posts and you always make me realize just how fortunate I am and how blessed and rich my live truly is!

Solus - I am glad your SO is better and it wasn't a serious condition. I'm also glad that the two of you have decided to do your best to work things out. Sometimes I think God lets the little things happen to give us a bigger picture!

lelesmom - I also do WW (flex points) and I think it's a good program. I have done a lot of different plans, Slim4Life, Atkins, etc., and of all of the ones I've done, WW seems to fit into my life style the easiest, which I think is a very important part of making that life style change. Good luck!

JuleeCees - What a great weekend you had, and buying smaller clothes to boot! You are definitely in the groove, girl - run with it!! I eat at Applebee's on program at least once every two weeks or so. I have really liked everything I've tried (so far!), and I'm thrilled that I can go out to eat with freinds or family and be able to know exactly how many points are going into my mouth.

Catherine - I love that you are getting out into the world again and not only are people seeing you differently, but it seems you are seeing yourself differently! I always enjoy your posts, as they not only give me inspiration, you usually teach me a life lesson or two! I think you are a remarkable woman who is so much stronger than what you give yourself credit for. Keep being you - as I absolutely love you the way you are!!

Big congrats to all the losers! You folks are wonderful! Big hugs all the way around and thanks again! - Kim

Dogpal-since you like my stories so much, I will share my favorite falling down in public story. I used to be an attorney before I ate myself out of a job. I was giving my closing argument, and was pacing back and forth in front of the jury rail. Most attorneys just stand behind their podiums, but I've always been a pacer. On one lap I accidently turned the wrong way at the end, took a step, and went head first over the railing. While dangling there, I realized that my skirt was over my head, and my opponent was screaming for a mistrial. I was relieved that I had worn my nice bloomers. My opponent told the judge in chambers that I had done it on purpose to intimidate the jury. I am also tall, 5'9" when I stand up straight, with a loud Ethel Merman type voice, and was around 350 lbs. at the time. My size 13 foot has now shrunk to a size 12 which is much easier to find without resorting to drag queen shoes. Anyway the story ended with two baliffs helping me up, I dusted myself off, finished my summation, and won the case, and never paced at the jury rail again. Caddywhompus is no way to be remembered.

I gained weight last week after only averaging 1200 calories a day. I also felt starved and wiped out. This week I averaged 1900, felt like I was forcing myself to eat and lost 4 pounds. 1200 worked well for me when I could just lay in bed. Now that I am moving this monster body around, I've got to have in the neighborhood of 2000 to keep my metabolism from going into hibernation. I think there was a book out called Eat More Weigh Less. I didn't believe it, it still doesn't make sense to me, but I am going to force myself to stick to it even if I have to eat every half hour.

Hi everyone! Hope everyone is having a good weekend.
Esmaurade, your hair color sounds awesome I am the kind of person that colors my hair all the time. It varies between the color you described, and a light red with highlights. Makeup, nice clothes, and doing my hair are all things I need to feel good about myself. Everyone has their little "things" they do to make themselves feel beter,for me, it is all of the above
This is/was my only day off until next week, and wouldnt you know it is raining, lol. Im not complaining, im single, and every penny helps
Doing well with food, excersise has fallen off this week due to intensive schedule, but i am going to restart tonight.
At the risk of repeating myself, i just want to say again, thanks ladies for all the support and kinship i feel here. It really helps to know we're not alone in this "fight", and whether it is 60lbs to lose or 260, it is a major battle.

LelesMom – You got it! Let me know how your signature comes out

Dogpal – thanks hehehe… I am paying for those 50 laps tho I’ve been sore!

Extrinsic – Hey congrats on getting into that size 24! I know how it feels! I’ve recently gone from 30/32 into 26/28

Doxiemom – Hi there! I spent yesterday cleaning, errr, rather Friday cleaning house. Then Saturday we went out and did some shopping and then my sister had a surprise birthday party for me. Which is why I didn’t post much. I was sore from those 50 laps, so I just sorta floated in the pool and kicked with my legs Friday night Congrats on the 1lb gone! Badmitton is fun! And a great way to take out some stress!

Solus – I’m glad that things went well for your S.O. Sometimes we need a little push to get moving in the right direction (even if it was a scary push ) I think it will be so much easier now to work out and eat right when you have someone else working with you. My fiancé has been working with me as well after he learned his Cholesterol was high. It became easier. We’re so much more active now, (the proof is in the back yard ) I hope it will be the same for you both as well I’ll have to try the flipper idea I noticed that when I hang on to the water noodle and kick my legs, I don’t seem to go anywhere “ and I am afraid to do it to hard and fast because that’s when the Charlie horses start to form in my legs. OUCHIE!

Biggirl – Uncle TOM gets me that way sometimes… What I hate the most are the cravings!!

Hippievanlady – I heard of the book. I’ve also had Julee mention it to me as well. The whole “Eat More Weigh Less” title. Maybe for example in your case, your 1200 calories put your body into starvation mode after being on it, and then when you went to 1900 your metabolism kicked back in and it’s going well. Have you heard of cycling your calories? Basically where if 2000 is normal for one days consumption, look at it as 14,000 for the week. So if you feel 1200 is good one day, but the next day you eat 1900 you should be okie as long as by the end of the week you are around 14,000 calories. Its supposedly keeps your body from thinking it’s starving when you vary like that. That’s what I do. I have myself on a 2200 calorie diet and I’ll eat 2400 one day 2000 another day and so on, as long as I’m doing okie for the week. I think I went off topic tho huh? Sorry about that hehehe…

Well… I want to let everyone know that I’m down………………………. 3lbs!!!!!!!!!

I weighed in on Friday. There’s good news and bad news to that Let me start from the beginning.

Friday I was so sore from yard work, digging a trench and those laps I did, so I stayed inside and cleaned house some. I worked on my calculus as well… You guys have no idea how good It feels to actually know what the heck it is I am doing! My other calculus teacher… whooo man… lets not go there! But I really like this instructor, he actually explains things and if you don’t understand how he got from point A to point B, he’ll re-explain it step by step, but instead of explaining it the way he did the first way, he’ll explain it differently. I like that! This is scary… I’m actually liking calculus Anyways, half my team for the bowling league went to a baseball game so we decided we would do a make up rather than forfeit. So we’ll be doing that sometime soon. Not sure when tho… James and I had a nice day to ourselves, we actually went back into the pool but I did not use my arms heheheh I just laid back on my water noodle and kicked with my legs. Though I didn’t seem to go anywhere *grin*

Saturday I did some cleaning, and then we went out to a building materials and Landscaping place to get some quotes on bricks for a brick wall… Then we spent some time looking around at fountains. I want a bird bath hehehe. Then we looked at plants and so forth, we were there for a few hours it was a HUGE place. After that we came home and I worked on some more calculus. Then around 7 pm I left for my sisters place for a BBQ that she and her roommate were having. It turned out to be a surprise birthday party for me hehehe. It was a great evening and I had a lot of fun.

Now remember I said I wsa down 3lbs and that there was a down side to that?? Well… down side is… I pigged out at the party last night. OH MAN! AND!!! They made green apple jello shooters with apple pucker and a few other drinks and concoctions that I won’t even mention I don’t drink, but I love jello shooters with pucker. I had… well more than I would like to mention. So I think I sorta threw caution to the wind and defiantly went over my calories limit by a mile…. A few miles!!! I didn’t weigh in this morning cause I’m sorta scared So I’ll spend this week making up for Saturday night and weigh in next Sunday *cheesy grin*

As for today, I’m doing more house cleaning. We have the kitchen, the two bathrooms and the kids room done. Now we just gotta work on our bedroom, the living room and the computer room. Now when I say clean, I don’t mean vacuum and dust. We’re moving everything out of the way and doing a complete super duper clean… well not moving furniture, but you get the idea. I even had James vacuum on top of the fridge and kitchen cabinets for dust bunnies

One reason for the cleaning is… it’s been LONG overdue, and another reason is I have my family from Ohio coming out so I don’t want them to see the pig sty I live in heheh.

Alrighty ladies, I’m outta here.

Take care everyone! Big Hugz to everyone!

Sue…

only 2lbs from my 1st short term goal!!!!! I am hoping to hit it on my weigh in next week.

AngieB

Well... I don't know how, but I lost three pounds this week. I wasn't even trying. That's a new one for me!!! I'm totally perplexed. (I'm not going to complain, but still perplexed.) I think all of your successes are rubbing off on me. (Keep rubbing, please! )

We're still rolling along, too, so I'm going to hope we got our car problem solved.

Dogpal and Hippievanlady, your stories had me rolling on the floor. I once read that the reason we laugh at other people when they fall, etc., is because we are actually relieved that it didn't happen to us. I know I'm relieved that the stories you shared weren't my own. I used to be a faller when I was a teenager (I fell constantly for no reason) so I can relate to that somewhat. I can only imagine what that must've felt like. You did good keeping it together.

Congrats everybody on your losses. Congrats, Hippievanlady for getting over that plateau. (These bodies of ours are weird things. They surprise us sometimes. Once you think you've got it going in the right direction, it does something else.)

I am going to see a new doctor on Tuesday to discuss all of my health issues and concerns, get some bloodwork done, etc. Please cross your fingers that this guy is not going to be a jerk or a nut (no lie, all of the doctors I've been to in the last six years have been total weirdos). He is a general practitioner, but he also practices "integrative medicine," which means he attacks problems from several different angles using traditional and nontraditional methods. I'm curious to see what he says about the weight/weight loss/difficulty losing weight, etc.

Well, it's my bed time. Nighty-nite, all.

Hey ladies!! Just thought I would pop in real quick, my life has been pretty crazy last few days. We had a family reunion on Saturday, then went and battled Walmart. Today, we went to 3 diff. parts stores looking for a stupid rear wheel seal for our four wheel drive, my husband has a demo derby to run in a couple of weeks, so of course, something goes wrong with the four wheel drive. I have ate so much crap the last 2 days, from both the family reunion, and from running around. Glad I will be at home rest of the week. Well, not too glad, start babysitting for my husbands cousin's little boy this week. He is 3 and the world's most whiny child and a picky eater, but it's a little bit of extra money, and pushing him in the stroller will be good exercise, lol. Then, next week, I have our other cousin's little girl, well, she's 9, and the little boy together, but only for 4 days, thank God, lol. Our house is only my hubby and me, and 2 dogs and the evil kitty, and I would love to hear the pitter patter of little feet, just wish it was our own baby. If I survive the next 2 weeks without gaining, and actually lose, I just might make my mini goal by August 31st, everybody keep your fingers crossed!! Well, I gotta run, keep up the good work, ladies, and I 'll holla back later!

I've had an absolutely wonderful OP day. Everything else about the day sucked, but I've about decided that it's time to find at least one positive aspect of each day :P I got all my water in for a change, I got all three meals in without a problem, I turned down BROWNIES! because I truly didn't want any, and my portion issues are slowly going away. Two weeks.. one more and it should be a fairly easy habit. Exercise went well also - I got some walking in, did my weights, crunches, lunges, squats, and I got some exercise in by removing the flood from my back patio

shadiepurple: No problem at all! I don't mind. I had a hard time following the numbered threads for a while, and it never seemed like I could keep up. I'm getting better at it now, but I still have my moments!

dogpal: I had to laugh at your story merely because I've done something very similar. At the time, I was mortified, but now I'm able to laugh at myself. I have that type of luck - if I fall, it's going to be something big and noticible!

lelesmom: Good luck with the WW points. I know a lot of people who have had a lot of luck with WW!

Biggirl: My problem was that I relied on the internet and used being online as an excuse to avoid going out in the real world. I've met some of my best friends online, but I think it's more than time I start venturing out and doing stuff away from the pc. I'm glad it worked out for you.. a few of my friends married people they met online, and they're happier than they've ever been.

Extrinsic: Congrats on the size 24s!

Solus: Glad everything turned out mostly okay. Sometimes it takes something big to realize something that should be relatively small in the grand scheme of things.

Doxiemom: Congrats on the loss and for getting out of a slump! Every little bit helps.. just remember that!

Catherine: Eeek.. I can just imagine how you felt after that. I fell at work one day, while I was in the nursery. Actually, I broke a chair. And I not only had to wear a diaper filled with ice on my wrist, but I had to go down to the ER and explain what happened, and put it on my worker's comp paperwork =/ I'm having a hard time figuring out the whole "eat more, weigh less" philosophy too. That's just never been something I do. So, having to eat fairly often has been a hard habit to get into, but I'm getting there, and I honestly feel better now.

Futurediva: Good luck with getting back on track with exercise. I know it's easy for work, school, family, etc to get in the way - but you can do it!

SueMarie: Sounds like you had a very busy weekend! I envy your pool too :P A day off here and there (both for being OP and life in general) is good for the soul though. You should have shared the jello shots though.. tsk tsk! lol

AngieB: You can do it! You'll have to let us know how it goes!

Tashabella: Congrats on the loss! Good luck with the car and the new doc. I know how stressful that can be.

eeyoredja: Sounds like you've been busy too. Good luck with your goal, and with the little kiddos!

Lelesmom: I say go for it if WW points system is what you think you need to do. Godd luck to you with that.

Shadie: OH...MY...GOSH... I just looked at your post that was moved and glanced at the tracker and almost had a heart attack. I didn't realize that the tracker belonged to the post mover (brandnewme) I was amazed and bewildered about how you could drop down to 338 in less that a week. Well, I see I was totally dhuuuu. Although someday I'm sure it will be waaaay less that 338! I feel the same thing about your writing. I love all my girls so much and I love that you are in Oregon someday we will meet maybe after we both reach a certain goal or something we can plan it! I would be totally willing to drive to Salem. Glad I can make you smile. I love, love, love humor.

Biggirl: I think you may be right about laughing at others because something didn't happen to us. I really find so many things humorous. Things that I shouldn't probably find humorous.

Futurediva: My little thing is doing my toenails and fingernails and taking care of my feet. I am not too big on make up mostly cause I don't know how to do it that great. I do wear it when I leave the house though.

Doxiemom: So glad that you played badmitton with your family. That always makes my heart happy when you say that. Glad that you are back out of your "pity party" as you call it. Sometimes those are super hard to shake.

Catherine, Catherine, Catherine: I was cracking up. For the other attourney to say that you did that on purpose...ya like when you are over weight you really want other people to see your bottom half exposed. It was a great story and thank you a million for sharing. Eat enought this week and stay right side up. LOL.

I actually am not clutzy and I hardly ever fall but when I do it is a doozy. Gives me a great visual for myself to chuckle at.

Hugs to everyone,
Blessings,
Dogpal

SueMarie: wow, congrats on dropping a size and your -3 even if it was temporary due to celebration.

AngieB: Yea. Only 2 lbs to your first goal. You can do it girl.

Tashabella: Yea on -3. That is super wonderful. Good luck with your car and I will be praying that you find a wonderful, caring and intelligent Dr. like I have.

Eeyoreda: Extra money is always nice. I hope that you have a great time with the kids. Rooting for you on your mini goal!

Angie – Congrats on moving closer to your short term goal. I think I’m going to change my weight tracker to match my short term goal instead of my goal weight. Maybe it will be a bit more motivating hehehhehe.

Tashbella – oooh ooh rub me too! (boy that sounds really bad) Good luck with your Dr. Appt

Shadiepurple – I used to do that all the time with the posts. By the time I finished writing my posts, another person would have posted or they would end the posts hehhe.. so now I write my posts in MS Word, and scroll down through the posts and reply to them in word, then I hit refresh to see if anyone else has posted before I copy and paste my post in hehehe…

Brandnewme – oh there were plenty of jello shooters to go around. The neat thing about them is they were put into these huge syringe looking things and then you just pushed down on the plunger and squirted the jello into your mouth. *drool* okie next topic LOL! Yer right though, a day here and there don’t hurt. My problem is, I’ve been having a lot of off days. But I think I’ve gotten myself on a roll now, even with this past Saturdays huge jump off the cliff. Sorry to hear about your flood tho was it weather related? Or plumbing?

I had a good day today, we did some shopping, got some ideas, and did a lot of walking, so I didn’t jump into the pool today. Thought tomorrow I may take a dip. Although I am pondering a drive to the gym. I haven’t been going like I should, so I want to get back into the habit.

Yes, I definitely think I’m going to change my tracker…. I think putting it to track my mini goal might be a bit more motivating rather than having it track my final goal weight. Now the only other thing to debate is, do I want to count down the number of pounds til my mini goal, or do I want to count down from starting weight to mini goal weight. Oh man! Decisions… decisions!

Hope everyone has a good night! Got Class tomorrow so I shall be posting later in the evening unless I come home between classes instead of staying on campus for 3 hours.

Take care everyone!
Ni Ni
Sue…