My email diet/exercise buddy and I were recently talking about how we like swimming and going to the beach. Then we both mentioned how there's NO WAY we're getting into a bathing suit, and that we haven't been swimming in a long time even though we both love it. Now, isn't that SAD? Just thinking about the things that have changed since I've gotten fat gives me even MORE motivation to get moving and get thin--I'm not even the same person I used to be! So, I thought I'd start this thread to see what some other folks are missing out on, or things that have changed about them, thanks to their weight. If nothing else, maybe writing down the things that you won't/can't do and things that you miss will help motivate YOU too!

How my personality has changed:
~No longer outgoing--I used to be in the middle of everything!
~More angry
~More withdrawn
~Less fun!

Things I'm missing out on:
~Pretty much anything physical--my weight has made my boobs even huger than they were, so I don't like doing anything that makes me bounce because I'm afraid people are looking at me.
~Swimming and tanning
~Public events
~Dancing
~Pretty much anything where I would be in front of people--I haven't even officially joined my church yet because they have the new members get up in front of the church to congratulate them.

I HAVE GOT TO LOSE THIS WEIGHT!!!

Well, my personality hasn't changed too much since I've always thought that I was fat, even when I wasn't. The only thing is that I get more defensive when my bf pokes at my belly or jiggles my rolls!

I'm missing out on:
- bikinis!!
- sundresses (I love sundresses, but I am still too fat for them!)
- being as fit as I could be
- shopping in trendy boutique stores (there's this one store I always walk past on my way home, and every time I think "I'm not thin enough to shop there yet!")
- feeling comfortable having my picture taken

Okay, most of my things are clothing.

I feel like I'm missing out on the nice clothes I have in my closet. I am missing out on alot. I don't like to have my picture taken, I don't wear shorts unless I am completely alone, I don't wear skirts or dresses, I don't be myself!
That's the main thing that I miss......Myself!

Kim

I was missing out on cute outfits in favor of elephant legged shorts and tanks with armpit holes down to my belly button just to keep my overheated oversized body cool.

I was missing out on being outgoing and stayed to myself too much.

I was missing out on shopping. Something I love now, frankly for the exercise to get out and walk. Something I used to hate for the same reason...because it involved so much walking.

I was missing out on energy and felt sooooo old.

I was missing out on being able to walk down the street with my head held high and being proud.

Things I'm missing out on:

-being able to run and play with my kids for hours without having to take breaks
-enjoying shopping for clothes
-feeling attractive to my husband
-feeling confident
-feeling proud of my body - it made two kids, I should be proud of it. But at the moment I'm not.

Well.. I've never once in my life been thin, so I can't say I'm missing out on things I used to do. So I guess I'll list things I want to do, eh?

- Swimming. I want to go to White Water Bay without having people point and laugh at me!

- I want to be able to have my picture taken without being afraid.

- I wanna learn to dance. But don't tell anyone that. I have a tough girl reputation to keep up, mmkay?

- I want to be outgoing. I hate how I always seem so unfriendly around other people.

- I want a freakin' boyfriend. There's this guy I know, and he's absolutely adorable. He's sweet, and funny.. And he talks to me. A lot. Most men are repulsed by me.

That was quite poetic. I wish I could live out my fantasies, too, though mine usually involve singing some screamo song, decked out in fishnet and bondage pants, with hundreds of spikey-haired men banging their heads and screaming. Yeah, yours sounds better.

Heh. I actually looked older once I started losing weight, what with my cheekbones, waist, and muscles coming out of hiding. I only really look my age when I smile, because I have dimples!

136 is a good healthy weight for your height. I don't know one person on the planet that would point and laugh at a nicely curved woman. Being super skinny isn't attractive to anyone, let alone boys. Being 14 is hard enough, cut yourself some slack.

Hmm...well I've always been overweight, so how about I post the things I WON'T miss about being overweight.

- having to shop at seperate times than my skinny friends because I don't want them knowing how big I am.
- that swish sound made by my thighs when I wear a skirt.
- being out of breath after 1 flight of stairs
- being able to keep up with my friends when we go walking somewhere
- being able to learn to swim without feeling like a beached whale, lol

and the #1 thing I look forward to about getting my weight off is my Back surgery! Yup, once I get below 199, I'm a canidate for surgery for my scoliosis and lower back curvature. And after the surgery, I'll be about 4"-7" taller!!!!!!!

And I'm missing out on wearing all the clothes that have been hanging in my closet since I've gained 30#

I'm missing out on all the cute clothes I have in my closet that I cant wear. Even though I've always been overweight, I was less overweight before, and was able to wear cute clothes but I refuse to buy anything new, because I have clothes that I never even wore because I gained weight so fast!

Even though I'm self conscious when I'm in a bathing suit, I still LOVE going to the beach and miss it. I've moved away from Lake Michigan, so I don't get to go that often anymore.


One thing that I want to stop doing is, worrying about making sure my shirt is covering my stomach. I'm tired of that!

~Liz

I'm missing out on:

Going to the beach
Wearing a bikini or even a bathing suit
Wearing jeans (& looking good in them)
Going out more
Having a social life

I thought of something else... I miss being able to put my clothes in the dryer and not worrying about if they will shrink and not fit me anymore!

~Lizz

I don't know about anyone else, but i don't really feel like i'm currently missing out on anything. I do feel like i missed out on some things in the past though. I've been overweight pretty much as long as i can remember and as a result i never really got much attention from guys and when i did i was too insecure and self conscious to really do anything about it. Now that i'm shaping up i'm starting to get more attention from guys, and honest to goodness, i don't really know what to do with it. I'm kinda sorta maybe dating this guy now and i know he finds me attractive cause he's always telling me about it. I have a hard time taking that at face value and really connecting with him because of the past and still having some of the left-over insecurities. Admittedly it's not all me and my issues, it's him too. He's not exactly my ideal man, he's shorter than me. At any rate, i'm dealing, and learning, a little late, but i'm learning.
Christine

I feel like I'm missing out on:

-swimming (no way am I putting on a bathing suit right now)
-being able to participate in activities with the kids I work with
-taking long bike rides like I used to

I'm missing out on:

-Swimming!I love swimming too!I am afraid to swim..in a bathing suit!

-Looking like a 16 year old.Someone mistook me and thought I was an older lady.I'm sick of looking like an older lady that no one will pay attention to.SICK of it.I can't take it anymore!

-Buying clothes that look like something i want to wear.Instead I'm stuck with tents,dull colors.Boredom.Old lady section stuff.And I don't even consider myself that fat.

-Just being healthy.