Hello
Im new my name name is Judie im 35 on my way to be being 36 this summer and im over 350 lbs yickes. ive tired deiting, which i have realized through the years diets dont work. i have tried eating less and watching my portions which i always end up hungery FOOD IS ALWAYS ON MY MIND like willie nelson's song "you were always on my mind well replace food with you and its my song LOL im always worried about where my next meal is i start thinken about what to have for dinner at 10 am i have tried to excersie but cant get movtived i have tried to drink water that goes for about a day or so and i start to get sick to my stomach of water
I NEED HELP!!!!!!!! i hate the way i look today it took me 2 hours to find something in my closet to wear to church because i just look so fat my hair doesnt lay right anymore my makeup looks hidous on my fat face.
As i sat in church i wodered what i would be like if i was thinner would i be happier would i look neater. The friends i have i think or beleive are only nice to me because of my husband he is pretty popular and very outgoing and very cute not overweight a little beer gut but nothing for him to be very worried about it he draws people to him i tend to send people away i dont know why maybe its my looks maybe my weight
I want to change this nasty self of mine i want to live again i want to be pretty again i used to be a beatiful girl now i look in the mirrior and i ask myself where did go bring her back.
Im hoping that i can meet some serious people here for support as i cant seem to get support from the real world. Sometimes i think my husband is out for himself i love him with all my heart but he just makes me feel so horrible about myself. i look forward to hearing from you and finding some buddys to walk this long walk with me
God Bless
Judie

Hi Judie -

I know how you feel...for many of us, that reality is really more potent when we're standing in front of our closets or mirrors, trying to figure out what to wear. For me, it's sad because I feel like I always have to wear baggy manly clothes to hide my rolls. I know just how frusterating and ashamed you can feel when you try to find that right shirt that hangs low enough to hide your tummy bulge (heh, for me that's an understatement...)
I find that this forum keeps me in check...it's a nice place to come to, we talk about all sorts of things, not just dieting. But I come here in and tally in and if I don't have good news to report, I feel like I want to stay away, so I just try to stay in line. We have a thread that's titled "have you exercised yet today?" and when i first came back to this particular forum, I was like "is this mad? I'm going to feel so guilty coming here because i NEVER exercise..." ....most of my dieting experiences has involved just food modification, this is actually the first REAL time I've combined both food modification and exercise.

Welcome, and I hope you join us in the thread..just look for the "300+ And Ready To Try Again...#701" title.

Melissa

Judie-

Oh honey, I've been there, and my heart goes out to you.

There's been times I completely gave up wearing make-up because I just thought it looked ridiculous to even attempt trying to look pretty, as if I didn't deserve it. I'm a bit of an artist and I've always loved applying make-up! But then I'd look in the mirror with it on and would find myself wondering what the point was when I'd see my chubby cheeks and double-chin.

Just remind yourself you're worth it. If you cared enough to find this place and post what you're feeling, there's plenty of hope for you. Don't give up.

Food always used to be on my mind. Oh, what am I saying, it's still always on my mind! Just try to change your perspective. I've learned to routinely challenge myself into finding ways to make my favorite meals leaner. I look for ways to curb my cravings, which varies from eating something that can be surprisingly similar (like substituting a frozen banana for ice cream) to plain old distraction (go outside and get away from that kitchen). If you literally have trouble swallowing water, ease into it by drinking something with a light flavor, like the new no-calorie flavored Dasani or my personal favorite, Propel.

As for beginning an exercise program, nothing beats good old walking. And it's ok to start out slowly. Park a little further out in the lot next time you do a little shopping. Loop around inside the store a few times. Take a walk around your block, or better yet, look for a pretty park walk through. Do as much as you can outside and concentrate on your senses.

Buy something nice for yourself, like a pretty necklace or some earrings. It doesn't have to be expensive. Use it to symbolize a comittment for a new you and wear it with pride. Maybe that sounds crazy, but do anything you can to feel good and remind yourself that you're worth it.

And most importantly, don't be ashamed of the body God gave you. Even when you find the right path to being healthier and happier, there's gonna be bumps along the way. And that's okay, anything this good is worth working for. Remember that you'll get there if you keep going the right direction.

This site is a great place to be. I hope you'll join us soon in the "300+ and ready to try again" threads. Not only are we all in the same boat and can share tips, tricks, and motivations, just writing what you feel and what you're going through can work wonders. I can't even begin to tell you what this place has done for me in this last month alone. I actually look forward to making some progress so I can keep it documented here. I mean, I think about what a horribly bad place I was at when I first came here, and how I even left for a while. But I'm back with a vengence. I remind myself every day that I am the one in charge of my destiny.

Good luck to you, and hang in there. Like I said, I hope to see you posting more soon. You'll love these ladies here!

*hugsss* Judie and welcome. I too am 35 going on 36 and am in the same boat. You can do this. This is a great motivational support group. I was so afraid I wouldn't be able to find a place to fit in, until I found this. It's so good to have you.

Hello and Welcome!! I have felt like you many times I am now committed to losing weight!! I wish you all the best in your weight loss!

Judie.... another big WELCOME !!!!
There are so many of us here just like you. Come read and post every day.
There are many women here who have a lot to share with you.
We all learn from each other.

Judie-You have found a bunch of sweet, caring and understanding people...I think all of us can relate to what you wrote (well at least I can)


Welcome~I look forward to getting to know you better~~!!!~~