I have been a member of this site for several years now but the last 4 to 5 months things have been different for me. I am going on 32 years old and I'm ttc my last (hopefully) child. If anyone else is in the same boat of weight issues and ttc, I would like to buddy up. Thanks.

Hi Dana!
My husband and I are trying to conceive also while trying to lose that "We're So Happy" marital poundage!! I'm new here, and posted to find a Buddy, sounds like we may be on the same boat.

I'm 36 and need to lose 50 lbs. I have set a goal for June 13th for no special reason other than 12 wks seemed reasonable to me. If I reach my goal by then I will be elated, but even if I come close I still will be happy.

We have been trying to get PG since October. I have had reconstructive surgery on my right ovary plus I have Crohn's disease (remission for 14 mos!), so we know that this will be difficult. This will be the first child for both of us if it happens.

Since losing weight is a huge priority, getting PG is too, we have opted to count calories, and lower our fat intake. I have set a 1600 calorie per day limit for myself, with 1 cheat day per week, and so far it has been pretty easy. I started week 3 and so far have lost 7 lbs!

I would love to Buddy up with you!!!

Holly

hi dana. wtg. what is ttc? iam still trying to lose. glen

OMG I'm so ticked. I have a long post and somehow it loaded another page while I was finishing up my last sentence. Gee, I will just sum it up and do more later...

At any rate, I am ttc #4. I have a 12 year old DS who is a diabetic, twins (boy/girl) who just turned 10. I feel I need to have one more to complete my family. Only then will I feel comfortable with tying my tubes and calling it quits. Of course if it's not God's plan, it won't happen anyway. I had gained 120 pounds in 8 years while on Depo Provera. Then I went on the pill for about 18 months and maintained it there. (nothing to brag about over 200 pounds). Anyway, I've been off of the pill since Dec 3 and have had 5 unsuccessful cycles so far. I'm afraid of miscarrying even if I can get pg because my twins were born 15 weeks prematurely due to my incompetent cervix that developed. I was about 40 pounds lighter then too. Since quitting bcp, I've gained about 15 more. It's unreal.

I too was on the Depo shot, only because bcp didn't absorb in my system due to the Crohn's disease. I miss being on the shot, it was a miracle drug for me. I didn't have weight gain due to the shot, but mostly because I was so sick with CD. A lot of my friends had gained though.
Last month was my first successful ovulation, but no pregnancy. I went off the shot (I think) in July 2004. I have only been PG one time but that ended early on. It was then that they found this grapefruit sized tumor on my right ovary. The Dr. that found it was livid that my regular OB never saw it in any of my exams. He said that it was there for several yrs.
My Dr. seems to think that we will be able to conceive naturally, but there are times that I wonder. I have considered Clomid, but I have heard that if you conceive using the drug, insurance companies will automatically deem you infertile, and if you get pg a second time, they won't cover it. I don't know.....just very frustrating at times!!
So what are you doing to lose the extra weight? I am trying to stay at around 1600 cals per day, and exercise daily. My hubby and I walk, and I also work out with 3lb wts and resistance bands. I HATE aerobics and avoid that at all costs!!!! I have to be pretty careful not to overwork my stomach area due to all of surgeries I've had. I carry all of my weight from my waist down, so this is a challenge.
I look forward to chatting with you more!!!
Holly

Hi Holly. Can you refresh my memory on what Crohn's disease actually is? I am not that familiar with it.

I think you will learn a lot more about me from this post. I had a very depressing day today. My sister is 3 years younger than me (28) and has been married for about 7 years now. She has a yr old son from a high school relationship. (yes at 16). Anyway, she has said for years she will NEVER have any more children. Her husband had refused to even think about having children. Anyway, I had "over spilled" to her last Fall that Dh and me were wanting one more after all this time (10 years since last pg). Anyway, she starts telling me that she made her DH so angry the night before that he said he would give in and they could ttc.

Well anyway, we have had some friction about all of this since Nov. Then she accepted that we both can do as we please with our lives. Like I said in a post before, or at least I think I did, no one knows about me ttc except for online people,my oldest son who is thrilled about it, my sister and of course my DH. Anyway, she all of a sudden had gotten possessed with having a baby. She had joined another health web site with others ttc and (forgive me if you do this) she checks her cervix and everything is AF, DPO, ESCM, etc..... I had my cervix to give in with my last PG so I'm not messing with my body. Anyway, she had told me about someone who had preemie twins like I did and they had posted on that site as well. As i was reading that story, I figured out my sisters user name on that site and have begun reading her posts. Most of it was true but I've had my feelings hurt on several ocassions. Today she emails me & wants to know if she can have any of the PG tests I have to keep her from buying any. She states she is 15 DPO although she is only 23 days into her cycle. I told her to wait until her period is within 5 days before wasting tests. She posts on that site "I am so ticked at my sister right now. She says that a test won't pickup a positive until I'm late". I NEVER SAID THAT. Anyway, she has no clue that I read that or that I know about it but I talked to my mom today and I"m sure she will find out now. Mama and her are close.

You have to know my sister. She can not keep up with her 12 year old son. She calls my mama to watch him while she goes to get some bread. It's that terrible. She's so irresponsible and does not need more kids. At any rate, mama told me she took a test and had a faint positive today and is repeating in the A.M. Sorry to ramble but I am so angry about her posting something behind my back that was so fabricated!

I don't really know a lot about clomid. I know it helps you ovulate but don't know anyone on it. I am about 12 days from my monthly at this point. I just wonder about implantation. I don't recall knowing anything about that with my other Pg's. Of course I was 19 & 21. I am also freaked out about possibly have miscarriages. Did you have signs of yours? (I hope it's not too upsetting to talk about). My first cousin was PG with her second back in Sept and at 10 weeks she starting passing painless blood. She went to Ob and did ultrasound. He told her the baby didn't have any limbs and no heart beat and would miscarry. He sent her home and about 4 days later she was in agony and went back and he cleaned her out in the office. She says it was excrutiating. Well anyway, I hope I didn't scare you away and i"m sure tomorrow will be another day. I am hoping to learn more about you and I will comment more on the dreaded dieting thing tomorrow.

Dana~~

Sorry I haven't posted for awhile, but hubby and I went on a short vacation. I am just now getting the time to catch up.

Aren't siblings wonderful??? I have a brother that I can hardly stand to be around because of his arrogance. I only tolerate him because of my wonderful parents. It seems that I have always had to work twice as hard as him to do half as good. No matter what the subject!! Everything he touches turns to gold...ugh I wouldn't let your sister bring you down. Concentrate on you and your beautiful family. Good things do happen to good ppl, although sometimes it is hard to believe that.

As far as what she posted on the other BB....write it off. Sometimes ppl say (or write) things that are untrue, only to suit their situation. You know what you said, and that is all that matters. These ppl that read what she has posted don't know her or you, and will never know the true story. That's the amazing thing about the web. It's kind of like a personal journal. If it makes her feel better, so be it. It sucks, and I know you would love to set the record straight, but will it really matter in the long run?? Sorry if I sound preach-y. I really understand.

Crohn's disease is a wicked intestinal disease. My body reacts to the natural antibodies in my digestive track, causing major pain, narrowing of the bowel, and other "wonderful" problems. My bosy does not absorb the correct nutrients, so even though I am overweight, I am consider malnourished. It has wrecked havoc on my entire body, and is making getting pg even more difficult. My age...36...doesn't help either.

Clomid may be an option for us, but we have not yet made the decision to try it. I am getting close to ovulating, so we will see what happens this mo. If nothing happens, then it may be a trip to the OB.

I hope you are doing well. I look forward to chatting more.

Holly

HI Holly. Hope you had a good time on your vacation you took. Thank you for explaining Crohn's to me. I remember some of it now. I don't know anyone who had it but I had heard of it before.

Thanks for the advice on my sister. I had emailed her last sat. to confront her so to speak and she said she didn't recall saying that but funny thing it's still on the website. At least she knows I can read it when I feel like it. Anyway, I haven't spoken to her or emailed her in 8 days or my mom for that matter. My grandma talked to my mama (her daughter) one night this past week and she told her that she tried her hardest to talk sister out of having more kids. So what she told me was the truth then. DH thought mama was just telling me what I wanted to here. I guess the 2 things that made me the saddest was me and my DH wanted another baby for years now and only acted on it back in December. Sister didn't want any at all until she heard that we did. Then the fact she lied about me. I am getting better about it as the days go by though.

I am 15 dpo today and had terrible PMS cramps that lasted 24 hours but the last 3 or 4, I've felt nothing. I tested negative yesterday so I guess not again this month. Do you do any temping to predict your ovulation?

I'm ttc also. I've had two miscarriages but I'm still trying. I'm hoping that losing some of the extra lbs will give me a greater chance. The other part of me wanting to lose is I still have that "pregnant belly" and it upsets me because strangers will ask me when I am due...

Hi ladies My name is Sherrie, and I am new here. I began looking around and this was the first post I got too. I am TTC (Trying to Concieve). We had fertility problems for about 6 years now (the whole marriage) and have been going through fertility treatments. FINALLY in December 2004 after having 3 miscarriages, I was diagnosed with PCOS (Poly cystic ovary syndrome). FINALLY a reason for not being able to lose any weight. We began ttc and the weight just piled on, I thought it was nerves (etc) but couldn't get off ANY weight. Finally I know what I have an a plan to help lose the weight. I've lost 10lbs in the 8 weeks I've been trying and the fertility doc seemds pleased. We'll know this thursday if those 10lbs helped with the ovulation and stuff. So I decided to come to 3fatchicks and find some ladies like myself that just need and want to lose some weight.

Hi everyone. I'm not sure what I will do with this thread or if I will even bow out but I am now pregnant and due 12/28. We just found it out yesterday and we're estatic. I don't know how it will blow over with the family considering both me and my sister are due 6 days apart and neither one of us were "suppose" to have more kids according to the family. It was something me & DH wanted so we're happy with it.

Holly how are you doing? I will probably continue posting on my thread "looking for my ya ya sisters" in the support section. I do get reply alerts through my email though so I will stop by every now & again but you're welcome to come to my other thread. We don't post often there and I think there are only about 3 of us anyway.

I wish you all luck with your dreams and TTC but at this point I think it would be silly for me to continue this thread. Don't you?? Soon enough we can all be on the pregnancy and weight loss board!

congratulations dana.....ive been reading your plight
maybe this will bring you and your sister closer
a new baby is a wonderful thing and can change people and there personalities

Thank you for the comment. We haven't told anyone yet. My DH knows of course and so does my 12 DS. Tell you the truth, my sister may know. In her email that she sent to me about 2 weeks ago, she said "good luck to you if you're not already". That would have been actually when I got pregnant. I told her in the email before then that I had some cheap tests if she wanted them cause we didn't need them anymore which left the door opened to her curiosity. My grandmother was talking to my mama tues. and she said she hadn't heard from "sister" in 2 days and was worried. She calls her daily. HELLO, I am the one who practically lives in front of mama and I haven't spoken to my mama in 2 weeks today. Not to worried about me is she. That's why I don't know how or when I will tell anything. I speculate that I will end up with nausea soon enough and it will be hard to hide.

DANA!!!!!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!! I am so happy for you two!

I'm sorry that I haven't been able to post lately, but I injured myself the other day. It was raining, and the "princess" in me didn't want to get wet. So I decided to run to my car. Someone my age and weight does NOT need to be running period....let alone in the rain! As I was running I heard a pop in my right knee along with a sharp pain that ran down to my foot. I have been in and out of the Dr's office, and am now going in for an MRI on Wed. Looks like I have done some major damage. (They don't call me "Grace" for nothin'!)

I need to get back to work, but I just wanted to let you know how very happy I am for you. I wish you all the best!!!

Holly