My name is Danielle and I am way above where I have ever wanted to be. This is my story [insert Law & Order "chung chung" sound].

I got engaged in May of 2014. I was so excited- My fiance and I have been together for over two years now. We're both on the heavier side but I love the way he looks, and he loves the way I look. The issue? We don't love the way we look.

When he asked me to marry him, one of my first thoughts (after the initial excitement and asking several times "is this really happening??") was "Oh, I have SO MUCH time to lose the 80 or so pounds I want to lose. I can take my time." We came up with plans on and off, but never 100% followed through.

Inevitably, I'm completely regretting not sticking with one of those plans. Every time we've gone out, I've justified it with a "oh, there's still time" or "this will be my last meal out for awhile." My fiance and I have started going to the gym together. In all honesty, I don't know how much weight I have lost, if any. The truth is, I'm terrified to weigh myself because I know what a slow process this is, and I don't want to be disappointed.

I love my fiance, but he and I both are each other's worst motivators. We'll go to the gym, but then one of us will say that Chipotle sounds good for dinner, and the other follows suit instead of putting their foot down and saying "NO. No Chipotle. Remember we want to look good for the wedding?"

I'm tired of this. I'm ready to take this on. At this point, 80 pounds is probably too unrealistic (we're getting married in October), but right now the goal is to be down under 200 pounds, because I want to stop being angry with myself for letting it all get so out of hand.

Danielle! I'm glad you joined us! Take a look around, read as much as you can on weight loss, diet, exercise, and the success stories here, and you may find you want to lose weight for other reasons in addition to your wedding, and that motivation may help keep you on track, even past October! I don't know of anyone who can lose 80 lbs by October, lol, but coming close to 30 lbs is a possibility! (I've lost 26 since May!) I do want to warn you, please don't resort to any quick fad diets. They are unhealthy and can cause your hair to fall out! Just choose a healthy plan, whether it's organized like Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig, low-carb like Atkins or slow-carb like the one I'm on, or simply counting calories, which is a tried and true method! Keep up the exercise! But do keep in mind, weight loss is 80% diet and only 20% exercise, so you will need to focus on what you eat. I wish you the very best, and on your upcoming nuptials!

Welcome!

I to am on a pre-wedding slim down but I do have a bit more time than you.

I completely empathize with you and your FI DE-motivating each other. That was happening to us for a long time. We found it most helpful to commit to stop eating out and have worked on finding healthier recipes.

Also neither one of us is allowed to bring junk into the house (no more lazy nights of ordering pizza).

I personally choose a low carb/sugar diet (Dukan) as those have been most helpful in the past for me. Hopefully you find something you can connect with here, these forums have great ideas and inspiration!

welcome and congrats on your engagement! 30 pounds by October is 10 pounds a month, and I think that's doable if you are committed. I was losing 7-10 pounds in a month when I was at a higher weight. But, any loss is a good sign--Good luck! Remember, you are going to be the bride, and are going to be BEAUTIFUL regardless. have you got a dress yet?

Congrats! My wedding is in OCT too! We can do this!!!

Dee, I did the same thing when I got engaged. Said I was gonna lose 50lbs before the wedding, blah blah. I ended up losing about 20 but I had a great day and am very happy with my wedding pictures. I'm certain you will have a great day too.

I have to echo what everyone else is saying about realistic weight loss. I think 30lbs is a good goal, but you have to start today. I'm assuming you have a wedding gown already? You really wouldn't want to lose much more and have to spend hundreds of dollars on alterations.

What is your plan? Calorie counting? Low carb? Not eating out will help, but not be enough to get you to your goal. What are your exercise habits like? If its not alot, I suggest some low-impact walking. Every day. And some light weight training to tone up, especially your arms, could go a long way.

Welcome to the forum and good luck!