Hi everyone,

I am freshly 40, 5'1" and almost 200lbs. I have two wonderful sons and a husband that is away more than he is home. The wake up for me was seeing a picture of myself on Facebook(I never usually let my picture be taken). I wanted to tell the person that posted it to take it down, but after a few tears I realized that is reality and I am the only one who can change it.

Having said that, I am four days in and have just been given some heartbreaking news about my son(not life threatening) and I want to eat everything in the house. Motivation for me comes and goes so I thought joining a group would help keep me on task and accountable, as long as I am honest with myself.

Stay strong, you can accomplish your weight-loss goals without eating your feelings. Drink some water, take a deep breath and step away from the food. :-) You can do this.

Good luck to you on your weight loss journey. This site is a great tool in being successful. I find that when I get off track, I realize that I can't beat myself up about it. My husband travels a lot also. I find that this actually helps me lose weight. He loves to eat good food & if I had to make dinner for him every night, I might not successful.

Thanks for the words of encouragement

I have to agree that I think I will be more successful with my husband gone. I just need to learn to stop eating when I'm bored, tired or emotional!!!

I am kinda on the same boat, keeps yoyo-ing and gaining more...
WE CAN DO THIS!!!

Hello and welcome and for the tears over the pic... For a number of years now I basically have refused to let anyone take pics of me and I totally avoid appearing in even family photos. It's like I'm in the witness protection program and it's no way to live!

I have a facebook friend who is a serial picture tagger, and she literally tagged my humungous ham hocked shaped upper arm that was in the foreground of a photo from her wedding reception. I mean, you can't even see me at all - just a huge upper arm that takes up half the picture, and there is my name in all it's tagged glory!! Horrifying and also whyyyyyyy?

I've only just recently joined here, and it's super supportive. It's a big help to be around like-minded and like-struggling people. You can do this. Whenever I have cravings which is often, I come to this board instead.

Sorree about the news about your son; thinking of you!

I hope we can do this!! I know all about yoyo-ing, I kept reasoning with myself that it was only a couple pounds and now here I am....70lbs later

Thankfully, I wasn't tagged in the photo!! I think that would have been too much for me

I am also hoping to rely on this board when I am having cravings! I keep telling myself that I've done it before so I can do it again!

Welcome! You can do this and will find support here. Check out the 40-something forum! http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/40-somethings-216/

Hi crbcrzy,

I joined today and I wanted to wish you the best on your journey. I understand how you feel about pictures and getting real.

The first weeks are hard. So often we commit but do not follow through, so I wanted to tell you that I am going through similar stuff too.

Thanks Guacamole

I checked out the 40-something forum and filled in the bio sheet.

All the best in your journey as well Matisse!!

I am hoping that I will once again enjoy being in front of the camera instead of always behind it!

I am a major picture avoider. When I see someone with a camera I try my best to stay behind them. On the way to an ALL family picture I was sick to my stomach. It's a difficult way to live and so hard to admit or have others understand. Now I know I'm not the only one out there.
Remember you can do this!
Sandy

someone once told me weight loss isnt about motivation because that can come and go, it is about commitment. Make the commitment to yourself to love yourself enough to take care of yourself and get to a point where you are healthy and happy.
So please dont worry about your motivation coming and going, thats how this works. as long as you commit to yourself you can and will achieve what you want to. Yes you may have bad days and slip up but renew your commitment and keep going.

YOU CAN DO THIS!