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We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support, inspiration, and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.

We want to invite everyone (roosters as well as chicks!) to join us in our journey. We share laughter and tears, heartaches and fears ... joys and celebrations. We also share what works for us and what doesn't.

We have found this thread to be more than just a support group... we have found it to become a home. We invite you to join us

Its nov. lets make this a big weight loss month!!

Heck yessss!

I am going to aim for a 12 pound loss this month. Also to stay on plan over Thanksgiving...although I am going to figure out a way to have half a slice of my Dad's home meade banana cream pie on Thanksgiving.

Rosebud - new glasses! I need to make some room in the budget for those. I really do need to have an eye exam. My current glasses are from oh, 100 lbs ago, and when I am bending over to do stuff on the ground (tying my shoes, scooping/changing cat litter, whatever) I have to take them off because they just fall off. I have adjusted them a bit so they aren't as bad, but. I hope you get some you like. I had another pair of purple glasses but I don't like them as much. I want something cute, but it is so hard to tell what looks good on you when you can't see. Hah.

Still, I'm glad that you are so pleased with your new railing! Steps in winter are such an issue. I make a very careful point of shoveling/salting mine (there are about... 10 steps? up to my house) when we get the smallest amount of snow, but uhm, if I ever buy another house it will be flat to the street, for sure. Mowing the steep slope is a pain.

mountain walker - congrats on your wedding anniversary! It sounds like the highs made up for the lows, and I'm glad of that. I read in another thread that you had painted your nails and were coloring your hair for the first time in a while. I keep meaning to color mine but haven't got 'round to it yet. But I do paint my nails semi-regularly. The toenails all the time, fingernails occasionally, depending on other things. Fingernails never last, but today I'm rocking a nice glossy black for Halloween last night, and trick-or-treat today. I got some press-on nails with skulls but decided that I could not handle them so did not put them on.

dgramie - I know that frustration well. I lost down to maybe where I am now once before, about 6 years ago? And for a long time was caught up in the frustration of my regain. Sometimes I still imagine where I would be NOW if I could just somehow keep each weightloss and string it together. Nearly normal, really. But you didn't gain back all of it, which is the REALLY important part.

KateB - Wow! Am impressed with your plan to stay on track through Thanksgiving. I know I'll breakdown and have some treats, but I am going to try to walk three times a day to make up for it. My goal for November is actually just 5 lbs. Here's to success!

I have to dash home early from work tonight to clean up my plants that were killed by the snow. They are blocking the sidewalk up to the house and we have trick or treat tonight. I will dress up and may take a picture. Thus far I have not touched the candy or Halloween treats, but I think I'll budget myself about 200 calories for some candy tonight.

Good morning ladies
I havnt been on here for a bit for a couple reasons.. 1. i found another site that looked fun for a bit, but got bored with it pretty fast... 2. i got one heck of a stomach flu. couldnt eat for 4 days, but drank plenty of liquids. 3- i just got netflix and have spent all my time(even sick) watching Greys anatomy from season 1 episode 1 lol...
i lost a couple pounds sick, but im not gonna change my ticker, cause im starving now and eating a bit more than i should to play make up.. did that yesterday, and today will be my last day of that.
i hope everyone is doing okay. esp anyone affected by the storm.

MEM ~ yes, I got new glasses today and they are kinda funky looking. They are nothing like I have ever worn before. I was laughing my head off everytime I tried them on, but what the heck -- might as well have some fun with them. I had to get new ones as I couldn't see clearly with the old ones anymore.

Funny thing is, that my new ones will be purple once again. My last ones were lilac or light purple; and these will be a light to medium purple. They will be ready in about 2-3 weeks, they say; so we'll have to go back to pick them up. We had a good trip with some light blowing snow but the roads stayed clear for us there and back. Our entire yard has a blanket of snow on it and our front bushes look like they are covered with large cotton balls (my SIL's description).

This Thanksgiving, I made DH a pumpkin pie and myself a custard, but I also had a slice of pie for a snack. I ate lighter earlier on, so I was still on plan with my calories for that day too. I plan to do the same thing this year with Christmas -- make my 3 lower calorie treats, and stick with nuts, cheeses, olives, meats, and cracker type snacks like last year. That worked out good for us.

Tomorrow, we are going to our nearest city for my CT Scan. Hope we have clear roads for that trip too, and we may do a bit of shopping if the weather is OK. Hope you all have a successful November too. I know it is harder with so many holidays in a row, but maybe if you plan for a treat on that day, then just continue on next day, that will help keep you OP better. That's what I do anyways ...

I made a decision yesterday that was really hard for me but I will be happier because I made it and less stressed. It was time to put myself and my needs above everyone elses.
I am doing great and today will be day 4 of eating right. I cant wait to see how many I can string together. When I do break the chain make sure I get right back on it.

Drammie good for you! I think part of the reason some of us are in this position is that we DON'T put ourselves first and there comes a point where we have to!
We had chinese for our celebratory meal yesterday and I stuck to chicken chop suey with no sides. My daughter bless her had baked a beautiful lemon drizzle cake and I had a small piece so as not to upset her. I had been so careful earlier in the day that I was still under my allowance by bedtime and hadn't felt in the slightest that I was missing out on anything.
Keep on keeping on ladies!!

MOUNTAIN ~ that is the very strategy that has helped me the most when eating out, and on holidays, etc. I have a lower calorie breakfast and lunch, and maybe a fruit for a snack, then that leaves me a large amount for that special dinner and/or dessert. Often, I am under as well and still have room for a small eveneing snack. With practice, this strategy can become a good new habit.


dGramie ~ I had to make that same decision too; I do make DH many things he loves, but I made them healthier for me. I do make the meals that I need to have to get healthier and I modify his just so slightly. There are some things that I just don't make or bake or buy anymore -- and DH is OK with that!

Im on a roll finally. My head is on right and praying it will stay that way. I am not looking at where I was in lbs(lowest before I regained some)
but where I am now compared to where i was at my highest. I feel like its a more positive approach and it seems to be working.

Making a pot of beans today and cooking a head of cabbage for myself. I love it and never cook it. Time to take care of me!!

I survived a weekend on plan. Its been a long time since I could say that.

Some of these are individual replies to new folks posting bios!

Becca - I quite like Neil Gaiman. I was a hardcore Sandman fan, love the Beatles, am quite shy, wish I could be a writer, and love sparkly polishes (though not nail art. Have not got the patience).

Frances - hello! Hah. I love Christmas music, too. I get a new Christmas album almost every year, but my father has many more than I do. I think the Kingston Trio's Christmas album and Sufjan Stevens' collection are my favorite. I have also lost a significant amount of weight, then gained back most of it. Now I am losing again. I am sure you can do it.

Carrie - I know the feeling; the whole journey is so daunting. It's a matter of stringing together a bunch of positive steps with fewer negative steps, but that can be hard because the negative steps are so easy and the positive ones require more positive ones and take such time to put together. Good luck!

Melissa - wow, Egypt! That sounds like quite an adventure. Do you have family there, or are you just there for work? Were you there during the Arab spring? I am also looking forward to fitting into economy seats without extenders. Well, I think I might've gotten there now but I won't be traveling by air until next vacation, which is probably next summer. So I have to keep going. I would also like to be able to put down the tray table fully. Also: you shouldn't be repulsed by yourself, I don't think that that is mentally healthy!

Randy - so sorry about your wife. I am sure that you can get the weight off. I know the feeling, and the numbers seem so daunting, but once you get on the losing track you can get into the groove and watch things really move. I wouldn't rule out surgery now, though. See how you feel when you get there. It might be a useful tool - eventually - or maybe you'll manage without it. But having the option would be a great motivator, too, I think.

Jane - also sorry about your father. I know the feeling about wasted time. I lost so much weight a few years ago, then gained it back. Now, I'm losing again and have made it below the low weight from the last go-round. I just got out my winter coat from that last weight loss to take to the dry cleaners and was cleaning out the pockets. Found a receipt from 2006 in the pocket. If I could string together THAT loss and THIS one, I would be in Onederland now.

Claire - hello! You are adorable and I love your name. Perfect. However, I can't get behind your favorite quote right now. I have to NOT buy the shoes. My house (and closets!) are TINY. Must keep shopping instincts under control. Especially now that so many more shoes fit me. I am a bit jealous of how easy it is for me to lose weight

Rosebud - funky is fun. I prefer funky glasses. I hope your trip to the city for the CT scan went well! I went shopping this weekend, but did not buy anything. This was good for me as I found some things I loved and then reminded myself I am going to find EVEN MORE things I love as this goes on. So I can hold back.

MountainWalker - how sweet of your daughter to bake a cake, and smart of you to be careful so you could include cake in your day! I made it through Halloween week with flying colors. Was caught a bit off guard by the time change over the weekend, but used it to my advantage and got up early this morning to walk before work.

dgramie - congrats on the weekend on plan! That's such a great feeling. I didn't cook as I usually do over the weekend, but my mom made a quinoa casserole to go with Sunday dinner and I have the leftovers which will be lunch for this week. I love beans, though, and cooked cabbage. Need to replenish the veggies today. I might get some cabbage. I do like it.

That's a good feeling, isn't it?? I could not get off my lazy butt this weekend, and as a result, my house is a disaster. I did manage to go to the pool on Saturday, but I spent the rest of the weekend on the couch. I stayed within my calorie & carb range, but I have got to stop buying cheese. I think I ate ten babybels this weekend! One is not supposed to live on cheese!!!

Just got a lecture on losing too fast from some woman I hardly know (I work in the office of a shopping mall and she runs one of the stores. She's also one of those people who subsist on coffee & cigarettes, but she was sure keen to tell me how to diet! I'm medically supervised, I'm not anywhere close to starving, and oh yeah I HAVE 200 pounds to lose, not 20!

MEM ~ that's a great idea to give them all a personal post. Maybe that will encourage them to join our thread too.

JANE ~ when we start out, we always lose more weight; over time, it will slow down a bit. Yes, cheese, peanut butter, and nuts can all be a problem if we don't watch it. Good for you sticking to your plan though ...

Food went well all weekend and today; made homemade soup for dinner with some wg biscuits. This is always nice on a cold November evening. Spent the day doing more cleaning for Christmas/winter -- today, it was our stove (inside and out) and my SS whistle kettle (nice & shiny again).

DH's Alzheimers can really get on my nerves sometimes; and today was one of those days. Had some stress today, but managed not to overeat. So happy about that; used distraction to deal with it today and it worked.

Hope you all have a great OP week; and welcome to all the newbies in this forum too ...