Hi all. Can someone PLEASE tell me I'm not in this alone. This "journey" has been my life, it seems like - FOREVER. I always, always, ALWAYS give up. It usually happens right around month 2 or 10-12 lbs. We here we are, entering the end of month 2 and while I don't want to give up, I kinda want to give in. I'm overwhelmed, frustrated, mad, & all the above. In the last 2 months I have done 3 different weight loss techniques and now, all I am is CONFUSED! I started with fitnesspal on my phone. I wasn't loosing any weight and when I spoke to a nutritionist they said I was on WAY too few calories (1300). Then I went to BeyondDiet. Now THAT is a lifestyle change. On this program I felt BY AND FAR the best. Essentially it is an organic, no processed foods way of life. I did it for about two weeks. Felt INCREDIBLE but I just didn't feel it was a sustainable lifestyle for me. My family and I eat out a lot and on top of that, I don't cook. I became bored with too few choices and decided to do WW. I've done this program in the past but always quit about 10 lbs in. The most I've ever lost on the program is 20 and that was 8 yrs ago after I had my son. I've been doing WW for about 2 weeks and my first week I GAINED 2 lbs I have to attribute this to the fact that I went from eating only natural carbs (fruit/veg) to the things WW allows. My next weigh day is Tuesday and I'm just not sure what I'm gonna see. I AM SO FRUSTRATED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Someone just TELL ME what I need to do and I will do it. Organic, natural, non processed, WW, fitnesspal...THEY ALL SAY SOMETHING DIFFERENT. You know what I want people, I want to FEEL good, be HEALTHY, and LOOK GREAT! However I feel like at this rate by the time that actually happens I will have made myself crazy getting there! I have become slightly obsessed with labels, I read EVERYTHING. As a general rule if I don't know what an ingredient is, I try not to eat it. I think it's called eating "clean." Well folks, do you know how HARD it is to eat clean! I think I'm makeing my husband AND ME crazy! Can someone, anyone, just please tell me what works! After doing the beyond diet program, I no longer feel I'm addicted to food, I think I'm addicted to SUGAR. I want this SO bad. I feel like the REAL me is trapped in someone elses body. I would love some support friends and guildance. I promise I'm not always this nuts haha...its just been a bad day. I hope this was the right place to come. Looking forward to hearing back some somebody. Thanks for listening all...

Welcome and a big hug! Weight loss can be so overwhelming! The only thing I can say for sure, is that it comes down to trial and error. Maybe you could read a lot of the GOAL stories and see if any strike a chord with you? I think 3FC has had successes with every shape and form of diet, so there isn't a real winner. There does seem to be a high number of calorie counters, but you have to find what works for your body AND for your sanity!

But please know that we all go through the frustration! You can do this!

Chickie said it best.

Whatever you decide, if you feel like quitting, do what you just did, come here and vent! That's what the forum is for, and it really helps.

Good luck.

Hello and

wow! Girl you do sound frustrated! I bet a lot of people can relate to you, I know I can. These are a few things that have helped me...
First, your dieting is really stressing you out... and stress can be as harmful (or more) then being over weight. Stress can also make it really hard to lose weight & can also add to overeating & not sleeping (just to name a few) which can suck your energy levels & motivation, thus adding to weight gain. So maybe dieting is not the answer for you, but a few life changes might make a difference, life changes are changes you are willing to commit to for life, for a better you.
EATING OUT... I get it, it's the way it is these days. So if it isn't an option to not eat out then some other options are to make healthier choices like, getting a salad instead of a baked potato. Drinking water instead of any other drink, ordering smaller portioned meals, or always bringing home a doggie bag. (which means you cut your portion)
Another option is why not cook? You can make some crazy healthy meals in no time at all with a slow cooker or even in the microwave with very little effort that will go a long way. Cooking at home can be rewarding in many ways.
I know another important thing is to eat slower, our bodies take several minutes (I think 10) to register that we are full, if we are eating to fast we will eat past being full. Also, eat a little all day rather then big portions 2-3 times a day. Our bodies like to take time to process what we are eating, this should also help your matabolism.
Ok, another thing, make sure you are doing some exercise. Maybe take the stairs, When we eat out, a lot of times we shop down the street after, I always tell my husband to go ahead & I walk there. Don't worry about a major work out video, just make some small changes.
Last little bit of advice, if you want sugar, then you need to eat some. A little to sooth the craving so that you don't deprive yourself into a binge. I make pudding mixed with whipped cream, put it in a pie crust & freeze it. There are so many flavors to choose from & when frozen, tricks my mind into thinking I am eating ice cream! Not that pudding is that much healthier but w/2% milk & fat free whipped cream, it's a start!
It is important that you are happy with yourself no matter what you weigh, your weight does not define you.

I can so relate to you...I have never had success with a diet until now ..and there have been tough weeks were i have cheated and hard time getting back on track but it can be done..what works for me is low carb and lower calories about 1000 on average..you are not alone don't give up!

I completely understand! Just 6 months ago I was sooooo close to my goal weight. Then I got sick......now I am back up to 182!! Why does it come back so quick, but yet it is so hard to loose it?

I can't believe I read this post. I just got off the phone with my husband and was almost in tears. I have been on the Ideal Protein diet for 16 days now and everything is going so good. The first 5 days I lost 7 lbs and 4.35 inches all the way around. My second weigh in I did not lose any weight but I did lose 3.76 inches. But to me not seeing the weigh loss I think has put me in a slump even though they said sometimes you can lose weigh and inches or just inches. The program is awesome and I think you should look into it. You need to be really strick with yourself though. You need to be on Phase I until you lose 85-90% of your goal. My hardest part is not being able to have my pasta or my relaxing glass of wine at night after work with my husband, that sounds funny but I really enjoy that part of my day. I am having a real bad day today and I don't know why, I feel like I could cry any second, so you are not alone.

I completely understand! Hang in there!
It is extremely frustrating and I have tried to lose 50 pounds for the past 3 years unsuccessfully and have tried all kinds of diets. Although I have not be successful in weight loss I think where I would be with my diet and exercise if I was not even aware of the fact that I need to lose weight. Then I come here read motivational stories and begin my next weight loss journey
Take care

Oh man, I want to give all you frustrated ladies a big hug. Losing weight is NOT impossible but neither is it easy. It's so worth it though. I thought I was doing OK at 370 lbs but I was eating myself into an early grave.

To lose weight, you either have to count something, restrict something, or both. Every diet doesn't work for everyone but there's going to be a diet out there that works for you.

I'm super sensitive to carbs, sugar and artificial sweeteners so I chose Atkins and recently transitioned to Stillman. I would not recommend either for anyone who can lose weight on a more balanced diet. If you can eat a variety of food including carbs and lose, and maintain, do it. I can't and honestly I envy those who can.

Decide honestly what you are and are not willing to give up and post that. I promise, no matter what you post, someone here on this board is going to know of a diet that permits some or most of what you aren't willing to give up.

You can do this - big hugs and please don't give up.