Major personal discovery

  • I have 3 little boys, a 28 month Old and twin 17 month olds.

    My 2 year old is making me insane and I have found myself eating when he is driving me nuts... It's like I don't even have consciousness when it happens either.its so weird. But he time I realize what I have done I have been in a rage over him and then I am upset with myself for that and the eating.

    I first off need to figure out how not to get do frustrated by the boys and second redirect my eating...

    This seems to be a major discovery for me so if I can get a handle on my anger I might lose more weight and be a better mommy. Now if anyone knows how to make it through the terrible twos I a, all ears!

    Sonja
  • You really ave your hands full wit 3 under the age of 28 months, frankly I don't know how you do it. The oldest one is at that age "terrible twos", I don't know how to help you other than to say he will eventually grow out of it.
  • It sounds to me like you could use some "me time". Is there anyone that can help, by giving you a few hours a week to yourself? Your mom, or the baby's father?
  • That is a very important personal discovery! You are aware of it and, as you said, you now know you need to find a way to redirect those emotions.
  • Yeow. I have two boys... I can't even imagine 3. I agree with the "me time." Are you prioritizing that in your life? I know it's hard with little kids. Mine are comparable ages.

    For me, my workout time several times per week is my way of taking time for myself. I get in the weight room and don't have to worry about anyone else. The boys are taken care of, and I get to take care of me. I start to go crazy if I haven't gotten that time for a few days.
  • I do try and work on art a few times a week, it's been much harder with baseball season and my older kids but it is my therapy

    Oh yeah, I failed to mention I have 2 step children 7 yr old girl and 10 yr old son and they are both in sports so I am eating late, surrounded by snacks to keep little ones busy at games etc.

  • Sonja,
    Three young children are very stressful! Take a lot of deep breaths! I had 3 children under the age of 4 and it was a really tough so I can't even imagine how tough this must feel for you at times. Please find someone who will help you out and give you a break several times a week. I swapped babysitting with a great neighbor and that was helpful. I found that when I actually had the time away and could miss my kids that I loved time with them all the more.
    Keep us posted on what you find that is helpful!
  • I've come to the same realization lately as well. My kids are 6, 5, and 8 months. For me it may be more stress than anger-related, but similar enough.

    A major stress point in my life is right when I get home from work. I've picked up the two younger kids from daycare, sometimes the oldest is along for the ride for whatever reason. When the older two are together in the car, they almost always bicker. Often I am trying to remember to pack something I need to take to daycare the next day, or whatever I need to do that night. I usually need to get to the bathroom as soon as I get home, and so on. I'm usually starving, but the kids start in right away with "I need this, I need that."

    So I've learned to take some time-10 minutes when I get home. No one can ask for anything until I come out of my bedroom. I also realized I need to wait to eat until I no longer feel frazzled. No matter how hungry I am, I will eat less if I just wait a little longer and I am calmer.

    Once that first half hour is over once I'm home, I feel better.

    I hope that helps!
  • I had a helper for a while but she quit. I am looking for someone new...

    Amy, even though I am a SAHM I can imagine that time when you get home is vital to your sanity !