First of all, I am going straight to ****.

Secondly...there is this girl at work. She insists that she is dieting and working out. Awesome for her.

What she fails to notice is that working out is not going to help her when she keeps eating a tonne of food. They do Wendy's, Chinese, and big BBQ's at my work.

I guess I just don't get it. If you don't change the way you are doing things, nothing will ever change. I use her as reverse goals. I look at that situation and be very thankful that I have enough willpower to succeed. If I ate even a spoonful of Chinese right now I'd gain 10 pounds.

Um, does it matter what she does to her body? How does that effect you?

I don't understand your first statement either...

Maybe she counts calories and all of those things fit into her day.

I had hot dogs for lunch, wine spritzers at the beach and am having tacos for dinner. All of it fits nicely into my 1650 calorie day.

I'm never deprived of anything and have a sustainable plan. Maybe she is the same.

A plan that consists of egg whites, bars and lettuce isn't a sustainable or healthy plan.

You seem overly interested in this other person's life.

Why does it matter what she eats? Worry about what you put into your own body.

I mentioned ordering a sandwich at work and a coworker said "I thought you were on a diet. how are you losing weight if you eat stuff like that" It kinda hurt my feelings, and it would probably hurt hers also.

I had a wendy's egg sandwhich this morning and a skinny vanilla latte.. all of which fits into my 1200 calorie meal plan :-)

It's frustrating because what she says to me.

Secondly, we are all of different opinions. Some people don't care how long it takes to get to their goal

Natalie,I get it. Those foods look tempting even though we know they are not for us, they will hinder our diet and harm our health. Stay strong, when you are at goal she will still be "dieting" as she eats her Wendy's hamburger.

Thank you bargoo....this is what I keep on thinking and I don't feel wrong about it.

Stay on your course.

Who knows what other battles she might be fighting.

Best wishes.

No you would not. If you ate one spoonful of Chines and only one spoonful you would not gain 10 lbs. To gain 10 lbs, you'ld have to eat 10 lbs of fat or 20 lbs or more of carbs/proteins over and above your maintenance level of calories.

Nor is this woman "doomed to failure" because she is eatting a "tonne of food."

If she's exercising more and eating less (even if only 250 calories or 125 calories less than daily than whatever calorie level is her maintenance calorie level, she will lose weight).

I can't tell you how many friends and family told me that I couldn't lose weight on what I was eating and/or doing. Not so much "fast food" because I've never been a fast food fan, but my weight loss has averaged only about 1 lb a month.

So many people told me I was going to fail if I didn't make changes more drastically, but I ignored them, because I had tried the rapid, drastic changes and they'd never worked for me. I was going to continue trying small, slow, gradual changes. When I was very comfortable with one small change, I'd make another.

I've even surpassed the weight loss of several of the people who told me I'd never make it (some of them probably were even using me as their reverse motivation). The tortoise really can win this race.

And it's important to remember that it isn't a competition, it's a journey. So she's taking her journey at a different speed than you. That doesn't doom her to failure any more than your speed now guarantees your success.

Success with weight loss isn't about how drastically you can change your behavior, or how much weight you can lose each week. It's about how long you can stick it out.

Whether small changes work for her (or whether she needs to learn to make bigger changes) neither has to impact on your journey or lead you to ill judgements of her. She may be doing what she needs to be doing right now.

Better she makes small changes and stick with them, than impress you and then fail because it was too much for her, too soon.