I have never, in my life, been hit on by any guy who wasn't straight up creepy, to the point where they actually start making me nervous. Its a huge hit on the self esteem. Like recently, when I went to the Avengers midnight showing with my friend, I had a guy make very lewd advances on me, in front of all of my friends, before the show started. Even after I said, very frankly, that I wasn't interested. He was in his late twenties, and even when I told him I was a minor (I'm 17) he started pestering me for my birthday!

I do think that this has to do with my weight, but maybe I'm just just being silly. Do these guys actually think that because I'm not pencil-thin, I'm going to be super desperate? I don't know if I'm looking for advice, or support, or what, but I'm just wondering if anyone else has had this problem?

It has nothing to do with you. You said it these guys are creeps, if they could get a date they wouldn't be making lewd remarks to strangers. Ignore them, if you respond to them they will just keep at it.

You don't have to take that.If any guy starts that, just yell "CREEPER!!!!!" really loud and point and make a big deal. That should get the point across.

yea. when they're creepy, that's a bright red flag that they're either only wanting s3x. or they're socially awkward & will always be alone. lol.

I get these freaks all the time! Mostly on the bus. Does no one know how to respect the ground rules of urban solitude while on the bus? As in don't talk to me... and sure as **** don't get on a bus with MANY available seats and chose to sit next to me, squish into me even though you have PLENTY of space and then start the conversation with "Hey baby... I need a girl friend."

Or come into a place of employment and tell the girl working there that you need a woman to take care of you that's a hard worker and just maybe wants some love back... oh and do you give *awesome* bjs?

OR (my personal HATRED) when you tell a guy that you have a WONDERFUL boyfriend and sorry, just not interested you creeper, and they reply "I"m better... in every way." Really? I DOUBT that, and if you were, you wouldn't be creeping on me.

I don't mind when a guy approaches respectfully, small talk, then introduces himself without the obvious subjugating stares at any part of my body or taking the time to OBVIOUSLY look me up and down before saying hi. If you can act human, it's flattering and if I didn't have a boyfriend, I probably would give you a shot, or at least hang out a while.

Because nice people know boundaries of social behaviour. If you put out the gentle "I'm not interested" vibe they respect it and back off without your having to scream "I AM NOT INTERESTED!"

Creepazoids don't give a whit about respecting anyone, so they frequently cross the line.

Don't think it is you. It really isn't.

They don't CARE if you are not interested. They are only interested in THEIR own jollies, and getting them. By whatever means. Screw YOU.

If I feel secure (like in a crowd of friends) I'll call them on it, but be prepared to be called names and don't take THAT personally either. It's just you didn't let them get "their" jollies so it's gotta be you that's the stuck up wet blanket rather than THEM being totally creepazoid inappropriate/scary/threatening.

If you are not feeling safe -- don't call them on it and worry more about your own safety. It's terrible but some guy can take the "rejection" of their "sexy" creepazoid moves and escalate it to really scary threatening places.

Or like your creeper -- preys on young women on PURPOSE. Because they might be more flattered by older guy attention and not street smart enough yet to go "OMG! CREEPER!" right off the bat.

I had one of those who was 20 to my 15 -- ick.

Be safe.

A.

"Hey baby... I need a girl friend."

Hahha Oh my God. I think I would be laughing too hard to answer if someone tried that on me! I can't believe what some people seem to think will work XD

IMHO these guys are not just social deviants but dangerous. Do not ever let them know where you live and make sure they don't follow you home. I had a stalker several years ago. He was someone known to me but not someone I had dated. Apparently, he had some fixation on me...don't have ANY idea why. I had a scary couple of months. I was fortunate that his job transferred him to the west coast....I live in the midwest. I am not trying to scare anyone but you never know what will set one of the perverts off.

There are creeps everywhere and trust me it's got nothing to do with you.

I have had creeps try to pick me up... IN FRONT OF MY HUSBAND! Seriously! WTH!!

Yeah... I laugh now, at the time it was "EW EW EW EW EW!! GET AWAY!!"

And I agree with above as well. If you let these creepers creep, they get jollies off. If you have a safe surrounding and tell them to hike... 99.999999999999% of the time, you get a RUDE comment or some negative remark as they stalk off. If you aren't in some place safe... sometimes the creeping gets worse. *joy gasms*

One time a guy came up to me and demanded my name: "HEY! Girl! I NEED your name" or something like that. I ignored him and kept walking. He then hopped in front of me, said something of the same thing and I started to act scared and the pulled out ASL and spoke with a small accent with "Sorry I deaf" as I signed it. (Was a reaction...) The guy got all wide eyed apologized and instead of moving on, he got closer to YELL towards me that I was pretty. I started signing "I'm deaf you idiot!" which made a bystander laugh (not sure if they knew what I said), but he told the guy yelling at me, that I was clearly deaf and yelling didn't make me less deaf. I took the moment to skid dadle and burst out laughing on the bus on the way home.

most of them dont know what to say :P

craziness!

yah, well. I would not laugh. Laugh later, when you are safe among your friends. I'm sorry at 17 you have to be dealing in this crap so soon already.

The more overt, aggressive, OBVIOUS creepers are scary and dangerous, but they "honest" in the sense that they are totally creepazoid from the get go. RUN!

The less obviously creepy but still ugh-think-they-are-smoothies type creepies play on that whole "men are diamonds in the rough" thing and YOU and only you can save/help/understand/change me. Just as dangerous, if not more so for lulling into initial false sense of security. Give them an inch, they really will take that mile and then some.

The more subtle abuser creeps go in for other tactics of control/abuse.

If you have to react at all, be disapproving. I know sometimes we laugh from nervousness. But don't laugh.

If you "laugh" it's like approval. Creep can think "it's really ok I'm being a creep, I'm funny! She's having a good time too! It's a game! And I can keep on pushing it with her. Yay!. I can keep on being this way to other women, fun for all, yay! Now gimme my jollies! NOW!" somehow in their weird brains.

And the next woman they accost who doesn't laugh well, she's just got no sense of humor.

I worry they'll keep taking the inches and then the NEXT woman after that really does get accosted and hurt!

But it's not the creepazoid being a creep taking liberties and stepping over the boundaries getting fresh and more fresh and....

Oh nooooooo. Never.

Women just have no sense of humor.

There are very nice guys out there and they just don't DO this crap to people. They respect boundaries and are decent people. But ugh. The creepazoids! Ugh. Ew.

A.