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I would NOT advise fasting during this vulnerable period, because there's a good chance you'll get so hungry you'll lose control. Why don't you try for just ONE day of moderation instead? Plan your meals and stick to the plan. After that ONE day, you can work on the next, and the next -- one day at a time. Good luck and keep us posted.

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Please do not resort to binging purging or starving in any way. It's counter productive, I have suffered years of eating disorders when I was younger, and when it was all done, I gained 100 lb. And then I started losing it the healthy way.

If you want to speak to someone you can talk to your mom, if you have a good relationship and are close to each other, you can tell her you're trying to lose weight maybe she has some tips and tricks for you to stick by. But please don't harm yourself in any way.

It's not worth it.

If you want, add me as a buddy and write to me, I'll even give you my email address and I can be there for you if ever you feel like something's wrong.

Keep your head up, tomorrow is a new day

Yomp - that is a very scary place to be and please accept some ((((hugs))))

That said - if your mom does not know anything about eating disorders it may freak her out and make you feel more like hiding feelings and behaviors. Is there any sort of counseling you can get? If someone does not understand their "help" though well intentioned can be more painful than helpful.

As to fasting - for someone with an eating issue my personal opinion is that it is never ever a good idea. As mentioned above an attempt at a reasonable day of eating is best. All or nothing behavior is a recipe for a mess.

There are lots of forums here where you can find others in your pain and confusion. Recognizing it a great first step.

I wish you all the best. (oh I am a girl so not being creepy - Tommy is my tortoise - slow and steady in the weight arena)

I definitely think you should tell your mother, you need her support now! You seem to be well aware of the dangers this holds, so please, do not resort to such a harmful behavior!

You need to lose weight the healthy way, so stay strong and remember you can always write here if you need some encouragement. *hugs*

I agree. Tell someone. You will feel better.

(((((hugs))))) well done on sharing your concerns, ditto the above. You are not a bad person please understand that.

I understand as I have worked through years of binging and purging. I decided purging was not the answer when I looked at my face after purging. I have a sensitive gag reflex and even that didn't help. Now, when I binge, I live with it and realize my life is not over, I have just recently got to the point to be accountable to my binges now, even though my weight is showing it.

it is a step process. tell your mom. tell somebody, it will help, but it won't solve.