Over the past year I made a huge turnaround in my life. I didn't diet no, I changed my lifestyle. Got on the Calorie Counting and it really changed my life and weight. Now, 40+ pounds lost, I just want to give up.

I love my new body. I love my healthy foods. I love excercise. I love green tea. I hate fast food but I mostly hate that EVERYONE can eat what they want when they want to and I can't.

I know if I give up, I WILL gain they weight back. I've been slacking so bad, had a gain of 2 pounds. I know that's not much, but if I keep on gaining sooner or later I will be right back at my old unhappy and unhealthy self. You know what a BIG difference 2 pounds can make. And also because I haven't been excercising I have also lost alot of muscle tone. I'm flabby. And yes, I know I'm not fat but I'm not in the form that I should be.

Could my fellow 3FC friends just help me to get my mind right..once again

Thank you..

The only thing that ever sorts out my head when I feel like that is hitting the gym HARD. You'll come out feeling refreshed and endorphinated! FORCE yourself to do some serious cardio today! It will work.

Good luck!

I agree. Don't put any pressure on yourself or feel any guilt about what you should be eating (or not eating). Just try to get back into working out. I think you will very quickly start to feel the endorphin benefits the previous poster mentioned. Moving your body will put you into a better frame of mind!

"...I love my new body. I love my healthy foods. I love excercise. I love green tea. I hate fast food but I mostly hate that EVERYONE can eat what they want when they want to and I can't..."

Ok, tough love here....You said you 'love' all of those healthy things, then you talk about how you can't eat what you want....hmmmm. Heaven knows I struggle with this too, & I would be turning cartwheels to lose 40 pounds !. So what is this wonderful stuff that they are eating What magic foods that you need (I'm talking to myself here, too, you know) to make you happier? And are all of the EVERYONE people heathy? What do their labs look like? How much muscle do they have?

You lost 40 + and gained 2; that's not the end of the world. Go to the gym, then go to the movies, then have a healthy meal. And give yourself a big hi-five for your great accomplishment

Everyone has these days. I did most of this week. I had to keep telling myself though that if I give up there's a 100% chance that things won't get better- if not worse. I keep hearing the Disney song....just keep putting one foot in front of another....even if you don't feel like it. I learned on 3FC that actions don't come from feelings. Feelings come from actions. I don't exercise or eat right because I feel like it (God knows I don't today). I have to remind myself that I do it because I have a goal in mind and I want that more than I wanted the biscuit from McDonald's this morning.

I also want to challenge you on those people who eat what they want when they want. I've come to realize there are a very few of them. We may see them eating whatever when they're out with us but I've learned that those same people may taper breakfast the next morning or may balance out the rest of the week. There are some people with super metabolisms but I've learned they are very rare.

You've done AMAZING by the way. Keep your head up....Cheering us on today

<<I mostly hate that EVERYONE can eat what they want when they want to and I can't.>>

I would reconsider this view. I believe that NOBODY can eat what they want and stay slim -- unless they have modest wants. If you follow your "eat what they want" friends, you may find they naturally eat lighter the day after a big dinner, skip meals, etc.

I choose to believe (and all evidence seems to support it) that we're all built in basically the same way biologically. If we eat too much, we gain, if we eat reasonably, we maintain, and if we restrict, we lose. Nobody gets a free pass.

JMHO Freelance

Yep...i've noticed that people who seem to be naturally thin, when you actually spend time and meals with them, you start to notice that they DO watch what they eat. They may not be on a "diet" but it's part of their lifestyle to watch what they eat. I'm sure there are people who can eat "whatever they want," but there are much fewer of those people than you think.

I agree with the sentiments expressed so far. It's unrealistic thinking to say other people get to eat whatever they want.

I have a best friend that is very thin, and claims never to diet, she goes on and on about how she is Italian and will eat whatever she wants. BUT the more we've actually been around each other, the more I realize that is not true at all.

She watches her food very closely, and basically is on a self-imposed plan where she fasts one or two days a week, just drinking coffee. She is happy with it and very healthy, but it makes you realize she has had to come to a point where she knows how to keep the size she wants to be.


MY opinion is that you are reaching that point where your mind accepts that being thinner is not the magic that makes all your dreams come true. It's not the fairy dust that suddenly makes you rich a famous. It's a life choice that has certain privileges and certain conditions that come with it.

I think you are more upset about the not exercising than the 2 pounds. You are letting yourself slip and realizing you need to stop.

GOAL weight doesn't mean you have 'made it', it means that baton has been passed off and you are starting another leg to your journey.

Thank you for everyone who took the time to reply to my thread.

I've been doing some deep thinking in the past few days. I most certainly have come to the realisation that I need to take personal responsibility for myself and my actions.

I went running the day I posted the thread and

<<I have a best friend that is very thin, and claims never to diet, she goes on and on about how she is Italian and will eat whatever she wants. BUT the more we've actually been around each other, the more I realize that is not true at all.>>

I've observed this time and time again, the most recent example being my stepson's girlfriend. She claims to love food and everyone thinks of her as a bottomless pit, but now that she's eating lots of dinners (and yes, breakfasts) at our house I've come to realize that her actual eating patterns are quite moderate. She fills up her plate, but routinely leaves half her food on it. She's always TALKING about this or that great food, but when it's actually put in front of her she just takes a couple of bites because "it's too spicy" or whatever. She claims that cheesecake is her very favourite dessert, but last night when I served some she only took a sliver. Etc, etc. Everyone thinks of her as naturally thin and blessed with a fast metabolism, but the fact is that she simply doesn't eat that much.

Freelance

<<I'm sure there are people who can eat "whatever they want," but there are much fewer of those people than you think.>>

I actually think there are ZERO people who can maintain their weight while eating "what they want" in the sense that most 3FC'ers have experienced that concept. Nobody can eat 4,000+ calories per day, day in and day out, without gaining weight. (Unless they're training for a marathon and running 50 km per day, but that's not what I'm talking about.)

Freelance

congrats on your weight loss!! 2 lbs up ain't no big deal, you should know that. could just be water weight or TOM. it would take a lot of days of you gaining and not doing anything about it to gain "all of it back". i don't ever see that happening for you, because this is your new lifestyle.

I agree with what Freelance has to say. I watch my daughter eat and realize she only "eats what she wants" once in a while. The rest of the time she eats very little fat and sugar, very low carbs, and very lean protein. All in moderate portions. And she works out and runs. It's a fit and healthy lifestyle. It's primarily a matter of attitude. Let a bit of time pass and you'll realize that you, too, are eating anything you want. You want the good stuff now. That's the difference.

Lin

Lin

Thank you so much eveyone for your kind words. Lots of love

I don't have anything extra to add, except that your stats are fantastic! I think that most people who are in maintenance mode go up and down the scale about 5lbs or so. As long as you are aware and on top of it, which you are, you'll be fine. You know what it takes to get back on track - and as always - it's easier to rein in a 2-5lb slip-up than a 20-50lb slip-up! You've got this!