Hey 20-somethings. Hopefully you guys and gals can help me out, since some of you might be in a similar situation.
I still live at home and I've lost a lot of weight, as you all probably know. I hid it at first, but you can only hide your weight loss so long before everyone noticies...
I don't really have a problem with a lot of people, most people are supportive, but I do get the "you need to eat a candy bar" comments once in a while. My main problem is my mother.
I love my mom, I really do, but she needs to leave me alone. I'm tired of hearing "stop losing weight," or "did you lose more weight? You need to stop." The one that bugs me the most is "I don't want you to lose any more weight," as if I'm a child or something.
Now, I'm not actively trying to lose weight. I've really just been increasing the amount I lift while attempting to eat at maintenance. I figure if I lose weight, awesome, if not that's cool too. I recently lost an inch around my waist and around my hips, so it may look like I've lost weight but I haven't lost anything. When you're this small though that inch makes a difference...my clothes are a little baggy on me now.
I notice that at dinner that she will throw more in my plate than I ask for; I don't take that though, I throw it back in the pot or whatever the food is in. She gets mad, but I figure maybe if I do it enough she'll leave me alone.
All my life she told me that I could never be a size 4; I wasn't built to be a size 4, nobody in our family was (nevermind that my grandmother wore a size 10 when she was younger which is probably SMALLER than a size 4 in today's sizes). Now that I'm wearing size 1s, 2s, 3s, and some girl's sizes, I think she automatically thinks I'm too skinny...which I think if you look at my goal post that I'm not! Granted I'm slightly bigger there, but not substantially so!
I'm sort of wondering if it's just her reacting to the fact that I'm a smaller size than her now. She lost a bunch of weight herself over a few years and before I started losing most of my weight I was always a size or two bigger than her and she would give me her old clothes. She can't do that now obviously and I give her my old stuff instead
I've told my mom to leave me alone. I think I'm at a perfectly healthy weight and she's just not used to me being here, but she doesn't want to hear it.