Sometimes I feel pretty sexy since I've lost 20 lbs already. There are times, though, that I still feel pretty unsexy. I want to feel MORE hot, more consistently, as time goes on and my weight loss continues. I don't so much know that it's a physical thing or a mental thing that's causing me to feel this way. Thoughts? Ideas? What makes you all feel sexy? I guess what I'm trying to say is that even though I'm doing better with my physical health, I still feel pretty insecure.

This is such a big problem for so many of us, not only on this forum, but IRL as well.

It is definitely a self esteem thing. I know I'm a lot bigger than you, but there are days when I think, "yeah, I'm feelin good & lookin good" You know what I've noticed, when I'm 'on plan' I feel better about myself. I went over my calories this weekend & noticed how down I felt. I was READY to get back on track.

I don't have a magical solution, but I think some personal insight is a good thing. Try some positive affirmations, about anything in your life. Tell yourself you are suceeding, you've lost 20 pounds. You are worth feeling good about.

My self esteem is pretty much directly correlated with my exercise patterns. If one day I dont work out because iwas too lazy, I start feeling totally low and might even binge. But on the days that I do work out, and work out good, to the point of breaking s sweat, i feel wonderful.

I agree, sensualappeal. My self esteem really ties into whether I've been physically active. I'm at my goal weight, but I still have low self esteem days and they are consistently the days where I feel like I haven't put effort into maintaining. I expect I'll continue to struggle with self esteem - it seems like it's a battle for most women, regardless of their weight. I still look in the mirror and see "chubby." But as silly as I feel when I practice positive affirmations, I think it really does help. I focus on specific body areas that I'm proud of, or how I feel after I complete a workout that wouldn't have been possible for me 6 months ago. Keep reminding yourself of how far you've come and celebrate the little (or big) changes that happen along the way