So, a couple of days ago my fiance asked me to move to Texas with him. I've lived in Denver my whole life (except for a few months) and we currently live about 8 blocks from my parents.

He wants to move to Texas because his mother and her boyfriend asked us to move in with them since Greg and I are both unemployed and the job market in Denver is TERRIBLE! Both of our parents are currently paying our rent for our apartment because my savings was depleted after having surgery without health insurance, and his job didn't pay well enough to enable us to save from that... so instead of our parents paying for us to live in our own apartment his mom decided that maybe we should move in with them. We'd have our own half of the house and we wouldn't have to pay for anything, really. She's even going to invest in us opening a food truck. There is absolutely NO reason NOT to move... except my family. My mom and dad both have diabetes and my mom's been in pretty bad health for the last 15 years or so. I worry a lot about my mom's health and my dad's health too, although not as much because my dad takes pretty good care of himself.

What's making me feel like I'm going to start stress eating is 1) telling my family that we're moving 2) having to explain that everything is going to be okay, it just makes more sense to leave Denver for the time being 3) getting everything ready to go by the end of October 4) leaving my home and 5) planning my Denver Wedding from Texas.

I know a lot of people my age and younger leave home for various reasons, and it shouldn't be a problem.. but I've kind of been in the role of care taker for my mom for the past 9 years when my dad's at work or out of town or something. I see her almost every day and I know she's going to take it really hard. We're super close and I'm going to take it hard too.

It's been a difficult decision to make, but with the drama and tension it causes in my family for my parents to be paying my rent while I go on hundreds of unsuccessful interviews, and the tension it causes in my fiance's family doing the same thing, really the best thing to do is move. I figure since we're going to be self employed with our food truck (or cart) that I can come home for a week every couple of months, and that might help both my parents and I deal with the move (and help with wedding planning).

I suppose my question is, what do any of you do to calm stress? Are there any work outs or anything at all that helps you deal with stress? I'm a stress eater and I REALLY don't want to fall into my old habits. I've felt so good while I've been trying to lose weight but I'm terrified of the move and I'm so afraid that everything will just overwhelm me and I'll fall off. Any help is greatly appreciated

Honestly? I think the best thing to do is talk to your parents ASAP. They will probably be really understanding about it because you're in a tough situation and definitely need to find some sort of work to get you up on your own feet again. If you delay you're just going to make it worse in your head and THAT can definitely lead to emotional eating.

As for dealing with the stress and the upcoming move. Find something that works for you. A hobby, yoga, running, drinking a cup of coffee, chew gum. Try everything you can think of! If it doesn't work try something else. We went through an international move this year, and yeah, it was tough, really, really tough but we survived and things are much easier now. Think of it this way, this is just one little blimp in your life. It's short lived and if you stay on plan throughout it all you'll feel much better than if you give into stress eating.

Hula hooping! I got a collapsable hoop that can go anywhere online for about $35. It's just too much fun, and it's an easy way to blow off steam. Make sure you're getting plenty of fat in your diet, as that is important for maintaining mental health.

Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for doing what's best for your new family. It's hard, but really best just to stand up for yourself and what you believe to be for the best.

Thanks for the advice ladies!

My fiance and I told my parents tonight and my mom handled it surprisingly well. There was still crying and coaxing, but I told her how I felt about it and why we were doing it, and she understood. Actually, my dad helped a lot when I started having a hard time with it and he told me about when he told his mom that he was going into the army. (I think I just caught that my dad associated living with my FIL's with going into the Army. Sneaky dad...)

In the long run, it was a successful night. I didn't stress eat- I actually found some bubbles I got at a bridal show a few weeks ago in my car and when I got stressed out I blew bubbles and just kind of escaped for a second. I'm sure it looked very.. special.. but it made me feel better.

We also had a long talk with my FIL's about the move and I feel a lot more comfortable about it all. We're starting our packing tomorrow. Now I'm kind of excited about it...