..... i'm more miserable than even i thought Who wants to hear me complain every thread, no one !! I guess my point of this is that i've been depressed about my weight since i was 15 (now 37) and i've wasted SO many years worrying about how i look. It didn't hit me until last week when i was self conscious and my bf told me "it was a turnoff when i talk about my weight so often". I have a loving, caring wonderful boyfriend that loves me to death and although it does matter his opinion, it's me that's not happy with ME.

I feel i've gotten to the point that i don't know how to get on track and it's easier now that i've gained most of my weight back to just eat whatever. I know that's not the answer at all. How do you motivate yourself when noting seems to work? I've decided that maybe i should go lower carb as i've been tracking for 2 weeks now and my weight hasn't budged. At least when i did lower carb before without all the high calories/fat i wasn't as hungry. I feel like i'm enormous and i'm also leaving for vacation in 2 weeks

I'm also wondering if switching around programs negatively affects weight loss. Is my body saying "what the h*ll are you doing to me?"!!! I want to stay within my pts but cut out the chippy and snacky stuff. Thoughts? Anyone been through this? thanks in advance

As far as I've seen switching around programs doesn't really negatively affect weight loss - unless someone is doing one of those types of plans that has induction phases where they must be absolutely strict for like a week or two in order for the plan to work properly.

If you want to stay within your points, but focus on making sure more of your food is wholesome, you might consider doing a hybrid. South Beach is probably good for that. Or maybe even Atkins. You could even come up with your own Low Carb plans and keep it within points.

In the meantime what you're doing is experimenting to find what works for your body, maybe just staying within points isn't quite enough for you right now. And instead you have to add in a few more ideas.

Even my leaders used to say that while if you're staying within points you are on plan, that what we eat can matter to how well the plan works individually. If we're using our points for chippy snack things (as you said) then that's denying our bodies of more protein or complex carbs.

Keep in mind that while we all go through these tough times, that the scale is not the judge of us. WE are the judge of us. One day at a time, healthier choices are possible.

Chin up. Have patience. Be proud that you're looking for a way around the problem, and not giving up.

One of the reasons for 3FC is so that we have somewhere to go when we need to complain! Even if it's all the time. That's what we are here for -- to try and help and support you when you're feeling that way.

I do think it's important that you recognize the trend and pattern in your mood and mentality and coming here for support is the right step.

If you're feeling hungry on the plan, you might want to take a look at what you're eating. If you're eating a lot of snacky stuff, it's not going to leave room for good full healthy meals. Do you utilize the zero point fruit when hungry? I know that it's helpful for me to know that I can just grab an apple if I need something quick.

Girl you sound like an echo of myself. My boyfriend even has made the same comments to me. Its hard as **** when someone tells you "you have to love yourself no matter what"... no... its not like that, id LOVE to love myself, but i am not happy with myself, so how can i be. I was sick of wearing the baggiest clothes i could find to HIDE my fat. Like i was tricking someone or something. My NSV is that ive been wearing T-Shirts this summer and Capri's so far (which i NEVER would ever have done). I always wore longer sleeves and jeans in the summer. Ive lost close to 40lbs now, and i realize that I CAN DO THIS. It was daunting at first, but i know i can now. I think it helps me stay on plan when i agonize about how BAD i want this weight to leave me. Its been here my whole childhood and growing up. I feel like i missed out on a lot of stuff. I wouldnt be caught dead in a swimming suit - i dont want people to see me, i wont wear tank tops or cap sleeves - i dont want people seeing my upper arms and stretch marks. Just stupid stuff like that... that are normal to most people, but sucks for me. Im done with all that now... enough is enough, i will get to be where i am comfortable so i can live with how i wanna live. You just gotta do it girl.... suck it up for the months it takes to do this and then you can relax in maintenance phase. We can all do this, we just have to realize how bad we want it... or we wouldnt be here in the first place.

Thank you ladies! Yesterday went well, i even went to bed with points left over. Maybe the higher protein and lower carbs is starting to make me less hungry. I still haven't weighed myself, i know it's up there again and i just want to go on vacation more comfortable in my skin. All i keep thinking about is the pictures and how fat i look Hopefully being strict for 2 weeks will keep me on track during vacation. At least my best friend is going and she is also on ww and we are in the same house for a week, we tend to monitor each other with "it's not worth it" lol.

Speaking of which, funny story, i was with another friend over the weekend who is also staying in the house with us on vaca. Her and her husband eat whatever they want as "they are on vacation" as she puts it. She said to me "why are you going to eat diet food on vacation", i said it's not diet food it's a lifestyle and how i should be eating all the time. Sure i'll have drinks at night but during meals and snacks i can make right choices. It's funny how other's are worried about what I eat/don't eat but i could care less what anyone else does

I view it as a form of peer pressure! My sister and brother in law are guilty of it. "Why are you counting points on Christmas Day, 4th of July weekend, your camping trip, vacation, Saturday, the weekend, tonight, your birthday, my birthday, Easter", etc. Basically anything is excuse for them to torment me about my "diet". UGGGHHH! Makes me MAD!! I wonder if I flipped the table and said "Why are you eating all that fat and junk and carbs and sodium on a regular day, a non-holiday, mid-week, a Sunday afternoon, a Tuesday, the day after Christmas, in August", etc. what they'd say?!

This completely reminds me of what my first leader said. "If we took all the holidays, birthdays, special occasions, change in seasons, vacations, days off, stressful weeks, etc... there'd only be two weeks out of the entire year that it'd be convenient to "diet"."

That stuck with me. We absolutely cannot rely on just counting points when it's convenient or we'd never lose weight! How frustrating to hear that every time you're trying to stay on plan during a "special occasion" >_<

It's crazy! It's bad enough i probably won't lose much between now and the 6th but to then gain on top of this i will die

So every night after the bar closes on vacation there's this place called "back door donuts" and EVERYONE in my group EXCEPT me and my friend get these apple fritters that are literally the size of both my hands put together....every night folks! All i do is have a small bite of my bf's and it satisfies me. Then they all moan and groan and say how sick they are.....they could stop at half don't they realize lol! I don't get wrapped up in that or i'd be in BIG trouble