Well, Here I am again... It has been a long time. Life got insane and I gave up for a while... but I'm back with a new goal and a renewed sense of what I'm doing this for.

My goal was to lose weight to make myself happier however I have learned in the past months that it wont work if I think like that. I have to be happy on my own to begin with... and I think I am getting there!

I have left my previous job and also moved to a different town. It has been a crazy 6 months or so! But, now it is time to focus on my weight again. I still weigh in at between 250-245lbs... my goal weight is still 175 (though I would love being less than that.)

I do however have a new goal... A bunch of my friends that I grew up with are all coming together in May for our mutual friends wedding. I grew up with a big group of boys and they are like brothers to me. But now they are all in relationships or married and I have become friends with their wives/girlfriends as well... and I am tired of being their chubby single friend. I would love to be able to go into the wedding feeling good about myself! Being the single person at the party doesn't bother me at all, but feeling uncomfortable around all my closest friends makes me feel HORRIBLE.

So, I would like to be under 200lbs by may. I know it will be hard... But I think I can do it... So here is where I am asking for help...

Does anyone have any ideas on a way i can achieve this goal? Is this something that is even possible??

I have started trying to be more active (walking, and riding my stationary bike when I can)... I admit that I am easily discouraged when it comes to my weight when I dont see results, and I think this goal of less than 200 by May7th (when the wedding is) will be good for me... BUT I DONT KNOW WHERE TO START!!! hahaha

So, any ideas on where to start this time would be greatly appreciated. Much love to you all and thanks ahead of time. I'm not going anywhere this time. I'm excited to be back. I'm ready to get started.

If it was me, I would try to set a more realistic goal. 50lbs in less than 3 months isn't very realistic or healthy. You said you have a hard time not seeing results, so I don't want you to get frustrated when you aren't close to this unrealistic goal. Try making smaller goals for yourself, so you WILL see results! Whether you lose 10lbs or 25lbs, that is SO much better than where you are now! Time will pass whether you lose or not, so go ahead and try, just don't get discouraged if you don't reach it.

Also, check out the thread: 7 Little Known Tips to Help You Shed Pounds. I found that very helpful and interesting.

Thats too funny.. i have a friend getting married on the same day as your friends wedding..Wow.. and to think im in canada and going to a Canadian wedding and your in America going to an american wedding on the same day as i am..

I would loved to weigh under 200 too for this wedding..however...im like 281 and its going to take a long time to get there..even though i have motivation..but i know where your coming from..just do the best you can..set shorter term smaller goals..and see how far you get ?

Tropica- Yeah, I think you are probably right... Though I am going to attempt to be much closer to 200 than I am now. Maybe 20lbs by then? You are right, anywhere is better than where I am now!

Porthardygurl- That is so funny! I also have my cousins wedding on the 28th... Its going to be a summer of weddings for me. But, I believe that both of us can look our best (or at least much closer to our best) for our events! Keep me updated on your progress! I am taking your advice on the smaller goals... Im just going to try as hard as i can!

I think with some very hard work, determination and complete honesty with yourself it's possible- if the wedding is late May. You have to really give your all with your diet and exercise. I'd shoot for 10lbs a month, this is for life, not just a quick fix for a wedding. If you want to make it happen, you will and you very possibly could. Best wishes!

You can do it!

I think you can do it with some major commitment but you need to be safe about it. People on the BL do it and so can you, it's just hard. If you're aiming for 50lbs by May you really have to stick to the egg whites with veggies, whole grains, fresh fruit and veggies and no candy, alcohol or soda and of course you'll have to work out.

Being that strict will likely get you 50lbs down, and if not 50 then pretty close. It's just a matter of can you do it, is it worth it and what happens after May, as I don't think that such a strict lifestyle is sustainable.

Good luck in achieving your goals and making healthy changes. I'm sure every one will notice the difference in May, 20lbs or 50lbs.

Thank you guys so much! I'm going to be trying as hard as I can, we will see how it ends up! I really appreciate the support as well has how everyone is concerned that I do this the healthy way. I've done it the unhealthy way before, and lets face it--- IT DOESNT WORK! haha.

Im trying to stick to basically a super healthy diet... I'm going to try and eat as much raw fruit and veggies as possible and include some lean protein. Trying to cut calories without starving myself and I'm working out as much as my body will allow! **crossing my fingers that i see results**