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Originally Posted by OhMyDogs
OK, you all are freaking me out!! LOL
Gosh I hope not. I absolutely love this thread and want to hear more. I want to hear from every last one of the "slow losers" out there, because this is a perspective, we rarely have access to.
I strongly suspect that the slow-losers vastly outnumber the steady or rapid losers, but we're accustomed to keeping our mouths shut so as not to be criticised for our lack of effort, motivation and commitment.
Everyone thinks losing 2 lbs a week is "normal," but we almost never hear from the people who are losing less. Weight loss success statistics are fairly dismal, and one of the main reasons (I suspect) is that we're taught that less than 1-2 lbs per week is failure, so people give up if they can't pull better numbers than that. Instead of saying "I can only lose 1/4 of a pound per week, so I'll be satisfied with that," we say "I can only lose 1/4 lb. That's lousy, hardly better than losing nothing. Heck hardly better than gaining. If losing 1/4 lb is just as much a failure as gaining, why am I putting so much effort into failure. I might as well stop trying, because at this rate I'll never succeed. If I'm going to be a failure anyway, If I give up dieting, at least I'll get to eat what I want while failing."
What makes it so God-awful worse, is that we're setting a definition of success that almost no one is meeting. We think the 1-2 lbs is being acheived by everyone BUT us, not realizing we're the ones in the majority.
It's like coming in 1000th place in the Boston Marathon. Gee that sucks, (except that the race averages over 20,000 participants every year (and in 1996, there were 38,000). So if you come in 1000th place, you've beat at least 19,000 other people).
It's just really sad that while we're doing better than most people do (because most people give up), we've been taught to see ourselves as failing - to the point that many of us do quit while we're ahead (we just have no idea that we're ahead of anybody, we only see all of the butts of the people in front of us, not realizing how many people are watching our butts saying "I wish that could be me").
I am envious of 1 lb per week, because I'm not acheiving that. When I do, I'll probalby be envious of everyone who loses 2 lbs a week. It's just so much easier to look ahead and see butts than to look backwards and see all the thousands and thousands (heck millions) of people who can't keep up with us!
We need to see how successful we really are.
It's why I love my TOPS group. Every meeting the leader reads the total losses and gains during the week (and at the beginning of each month and year, does the same for the previous month/year). We also go around the room and share whether we've lost/gained/stayed the same. It's not to shame anyone (most of us don't even remember anyone's loss/gain but our own), but it does keep us all very aware of how normal it is to not see a steady, rapid weight loss. My group has about 30 members. And a couple weeks ago we had a 16 lb net loss for the club. It may not have been a record-breaker, but it was pretty unusual, so we all were so excited, and celebrating it when I realized that isn't even an average of 1/2 lb per person. And it dawned on me that most months we came pretty close to even. Any net loss for the month (more wieght lost than gained by the whole group) was actually uncommon enough that we always cheer when there's any loss at all. That means that a lot of people are losing nothing or even gaining.
Normally we don't get to see everyone else's losses, and we naturally assume everyone is doing better than we are, but the fact is that if we're losing anything at all, we're ahead of the pack, not trailing behind. We really are all potential tortoises. There are tons of hares that will give up when their weight loss slows. Sure some hares will make it to the finish line, but many will quit (so will a lot of tortoises). We win not by our speed, but by persistance.