So I've recently decided that I am going to make a serious attempt at dating again. Since I've moved to Texas, I am having an easier time finding guys to date.
Back up - a little backrgound about me - I've been on South Beach since 2008. So far, I've lost (and kept off) at least 43 - 47 pounds in that two year period. I try not to eat fried foods, sugar, high fat foods, limit my trips to restaurants (and when I do eat out, it's on plan for the most part), and I exercise regularly.
In the past, I've been attracted to big guys - taller, and bigger overall. While dating, this time though, I've noticed that when I meet guys who eat crap, and don't work out, it's a turnoff. For example, I am currently dating a guy who's a big guy - he's 6'1", probably weighs about 280. Every time I talk to him he's going out to eat, and he's eating crap. I try not to "police everyone's diet" but I am finding it to be a huge turnoff. He also doesn't like to exercise. Other than that, he seems to be a really nice guy.
Am I being shallow by being turned off by these things? Anyone else feel the same way or have similar experiences?
I do realize though, why I feel this way:
- It's easier to eat healthy if I am with someone who understands what I am going through, the "battles" that I fight, and isn't averse to healthy food. I am REALLY turned off when I cook a healthy meal for a guy and his nose is turned up because he "doesn't like broccoli" or won't eat a certain food because it hasn't been battered and deep fried, then smothered in butter.
- After the age of 30, if you aren't taking care of yourself, people REALLY start to fall apart healthwise (i.e. medications, breathing problems, etc.)
- It would be nice to have an "exercise buddy" occasionally, where we could turn a hike or a run into a date. Plus I am just a tad bit competitive.