I found out a couple of hours ago that one of my best friends died because she wasn't taking care of herself. She was only 35 and left this earth way too young all because she did not take care of herself. It scares me to death!! Why have I been wasting all this time that I think I have on this earth all because I don't want to get off my lazy butt and do what I have to do? I don't want to end up a statistic and leave my children with no mom and my husband without a wife.

Im sorry to rant but I am seriously in shock.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Being scared to death is what finally *did it for me*. I was fearful for my life. I knew it was only a matter of time, not if, but when something horrific was going to happen to me.

I used to lie awake at night planning my funeral; wondering who would care for my children. It was awful. Those anxieties have completely ceased. It's wonderful.

Let this tragedy be the impetus you need to make the changes that are required to gain back your health.

Don't dread these changes that have to occur. Look forward to them. Embrace them. Celebrate them. Get excited about them.

Turns out adhering to a healthy lifestyle is nothing to fear and loathe. It is a joy and a blessing. Eating those foods in those quantities are what's to fear and loathe. That and remaining obese.

EAting well is no prison sentence, but a key to freedom, that will unlock sooo many doors, doors you didn't even realize were closed.

Make the decision to do this, once and for all, no matter what and permanently. I promise you, you wont' regret it a bit. It is a wonderful, over the top, incredible way to live. You CAN do this. You've got the ability, so why not do it?

Make yourself a plan - stick to it like glue. Discover who you were meant to be!

I am sorry for your loss. I have fears myself of my own death--leaving my children without their mom is an overwhelming, frightening thought.

My prayers go out to you and your friend's family.

I'm so sorry for your loss

It's definately an eye opener, but remember you can't allow yourself to beat you up over the past, you can't change it now anyway. You can change the future, and you are definately well on your way to that.

What exactly happened to your friend? Was she obese?

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. 35 does seem so young. It's true--we don't know what's going to happen next. Thinking that death is "somewhere down the road" in the dim future may be an illusion.

Jay

So sorry!

For many years I knew I was killing myself but I think I was suicidal and wasn't very happy with my life anyway. It was a slow form of suicide. I needed to get out of that trap and live my life and I knew I couldn't have the life I wanted unless I was significantly smaller.

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, my condolences

I'm so sorry for your loss. That is awfully young to die from "not taking care of yourself". I know it is a lengthy "suicide" like Matt said. Also like Matt, I felt a bit suicidal about my weight, but won't go quite that far. I dreamed about it, wished for it, and thought it would be an improvement. So in a way I was suicidal but was more in the dreaming-about-it stage.

The good news is that all the rewards and benefits Robin is talking about happen almost immediately. It's amazing how quickly our bodies accept our change in lifestyle. It didn't take long at all to turn my BP and blood sugar around.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

My most heartfelt condolences on your loss

I too was finally pushed into action by the realization that death was indeed imminent if I did not commit to change.

*hugs*

My deepest sympathies for your loss.

Its hard to lose a close friend and especially so when they are young.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend, sending hugs your way.
I also was the same as Matt, binging myself to an early death, but really I didn't care. I hated myself so much that there just didn't seem any point in trying.
But I did change and am so thankful that I found the strength to take that first step because I've never looked back since, and never will. Every single bit of hard work is worth it.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

As it opened your eyes to caring for yourself, she has left a beautiful legacy of renewed hope for you and your family. May you honor that legacy with great success and renewed joy.

so sorry for your loss... She and you have reminded many today of why we are all on here making the changes... thank You!!