I've lost my resolve I've got another 10 or 15 pounds to lose and I've pretty much lost the desire to put in the effort I look in the mirror and I see a not bad figure so I think maybe this is good enough? I don't want to settle for good enough but I'm having a hard time getting going. I'm just tired. I'm tired of always watching what I eat... denying myself that snack or treat, always thinking about my weight, always fitting in time for a work out. I've gotten back into the old habbit of "I'll just have this one treat then no more... I'll work out tomorrow for sure..." but there's always more and there's always something else to do tomorrow. I'm also helping to care for some other family, that always takes up work out time.

Over all I guess I'm just tired and kind of bummed out Husband still doesn't have a job and it's hugely stressful being the breadwinner when I don't even want to go to work. Not to mention the stress of always trying to pay some bill to keep something from being cut off.

Ug... should I have posted this in the depression forum? I just need some help. Gentle kicks only please...

Hi Aunty. I'm a newby, this is my 2nd post. My goodness girl, you have a lot on your plate. deep breaths now. Sounds like your in a dark spot. What would make you happy now? And, would that happiness last. I bet you look beautiful. Man, 10 pounds to go, that is wonderful. I, on the other name have lost 11 and have 39 to go - just the opposite. My husband doesn't have a job either - just a side note there.

Hey ladies! Hang in there. Times are so hard right now on so many of us. Aunty...if you just need to take a break and let life happen...do it...just maintain then you will still only have the 10 to go when you're ready for that final push. Keep on keeping on. Make the good choices...but above all take care of yourself. Key to it all I think. Smiles and hugs!

I really understand how you feel because I'm going through the same thing, just further away from my goal than you.

I had resolved that this week would be the one where I got back on track but it wasn't. I know how badly I want this and how much I'll regret going back to how I was before especially after all this hard work, so I have to stick it out.

Working out and losing weight used to make me happy, now it feels like a burden.


I wish I knew the secret for getting though this, but I don't. All I'm doing is watching what I eat and honestly, the scale is still going down, so I'm happy. Hopefully it stays that way while I work through whatever it is I'm going through.

Been there! I stopped at 148 a month ago and thought it was good enough. I've maintained for the last month and learned a lot. Now I feel refreshed and renewed and am ready to get to my true goal. Not really sure what it is, low 140s I think, but we'll see. I just know that this close to 150 with typical fluctuations is not comfortable for me. I also know though, that I do look fantastic right now and if my maintenance turns into a long term thing and I don't lose another lb I'm ok with that too. I've turned my focus away from weight loss a little and more to nutrition and fitness and I've created a new plan to lose the last 5-15. I'm setting my cals at the maintenance level for my new goal weight and were I plateau is where I'll end up. I know I'll lose slower and I'm ok with that.

So really you have 4 choices.

1) suck it up and stay the course
2) accept your body now and start maintaining (you can always change your mind btw)
3) take a maintenance break
4) set your cals at maintenance for your goal weight and you'll get there when you get there.

Good luck!

I need the same kick...maybe we should start an arse kickin' train...

You've done really well - so congratulations!!!!

I know it's so tough to be the breadwinner but don't let that distract you. Just remember how close you are to goal! I can't wait until I am where you are!

Instead of a gentle kick, I am sending you a big hug!

I'm not sure how gentle this is, so read (or don't) at your own risk. Sometimes, IMO, gentle is not what's needed. Sometimes telling it like it is - is needed and though it may not *seem* gentle, it is kind and caring, because I'm looking to give you REAL help you, not just sugar coat things.




The truth is, even if you were to stay at this weight and not go down any further (which is fine), you'd STILL have to put in the effort. You'd STILL have to pass up on LOTS of foods out there in the world. You'd STILL have to do those workouts. You'd STILL have to watch what you eat. Weight maintenance isn't really all that different than weight LOSS. To maintain your loss, takes effort, time, thought and dedication - forever.

Once you let those old habits sneak back in, the habits that got you to be overweight in the first place - the overweight-ness (the pounds) WILL come back on. It's just a matter of time - and not that much time.

You mentioned that you're tired - but you have to remember how tired you were of being overweight. And you were probably a lot more sleepy tired too . And had less stamina, and energy and productivity and worried a lot more about your health.

You mentioned that you were tired of always thinking about your weight - well weren't you always thinking about your weight when you were OVERweight? At least the thought put into LOSING (& maintaining) weight is productive and accomplishes something positive.

You mentioned you're tired of denying yourself a treat. Well, why aren't you tired of denying yourself the best you? And why aren't you re-defining what a treat is?

If you're like most of us, I'm sure there are plenty of times when you're tired of managing your money, brushing your teeth, doing the laundry, cleaning the toilets, caring for your family, paying taxes, getting to work on time, - these things DO get tiring at times. But we do them anyway. Because they're important. And they MATTER. Getting to and remaining a healthy weight is no different. It's important and it MATTERS. Sometimes it's smooth sailing, sometimes - not so much. It's a lifetime commitment to good decisions. Sometimes you've just got to dig down deep, find the mature, responsible adult in yourself and do it anyway.

You can't have it both ways. You can't be the optimal you, that slim, trim, health-minded person AND not watch what you eat and skip workouts. It just can't be. You've got to decide which it is you want the MOST.

You CAN do this. If you want to. And really, why wouldn't you? It's the most incredible and worthwhile thing you can do for your health - both physical and mental.

I'm in love with RockinRobin!

That post is so motivational, so truthful, so accurate, so honest.

That statement is so TRUE! It reminds me how worthwhile all this effort it! I'm worth it!

I totally understand what you're feeling. But what RockinRobin says is so true- ask me how I know(!) Those old habits can sneak back in, and next thing you know, you've gained back some of the weight you worked so hard to lose. If you feel good at your current weight, great- maybe you need to take a break from losing, but maintenance takes some effort, as well. Stick with your plan, with your workouts. You're in a funk, but this WILL pass. And you'll be proud of yourself for sticking with your good habits in spite of it. Maybe keep your focus on maintaining your good habits, not the weight, for a couple of weeks. You deserve to take good care of yourself, especially now, when you are facing such challenges. Make CHOICES you will feel good about.
And by the way, WOW! You've lost 40 pounds!! That is an amazing accomplishment! Maybe the initial excitement has worn off, but you should be so proud!! Keep it up!!!

Thanks a lot for all the hugs and the kicks... I really did need both. Lately though I've just wanted to sit down and cry. I guess I am depressed and stressed.

RockinRobin - you are so right! I NEED to do this, I NEED to get down to my goal weight and celebrate me. I'm so mad at myself, I promised me that I would run on Sunday and of course I didn't I DID take the dogs for a good long walk, I walked up a hill I wasn't able to do without stopping last year and it was so easy... I promised myself that next year I will be running up that hill! I just have to be better at keeping this promise.

There seems to be a LOT of people who need encouraging lately...