This is the exact conversation me and my doctor had:

"You've put on weight since I last saw you"
Well actually I've lost about 20 pounds, I got up to 317 before I started losing
"You weighed 246 when I started seeing you last year"
I know.
"Tell me, why did you put on those extra 60 pounds?"
It's not like I choose to
"I think you did. You choose to eat bad foods didn't you?"
I was depressed.
"Why"
I lost my best friend.
"When"
February
"Well, how do you explain the 6 months before that"
I guess I can't
"Why did you and your friend have a falling out?"
I didn't have any confidence. So I didn't want to go out and do things.
"So it was your fault."
I guess
"Also, you have diabetes"
What?

Does anyone else think that that sounded a little rude? Not only did he not care about my weight loss he blamed me for losing my friend. You would think that he would be nice to me since the whole point of that appointment was to tell me I had diabetes. I'm just really angry right now...

Wow.

Get a different doctor, if you can.

You are a client. If you're American, you (or your health insurance) are paying a LOT of money for that visit, and you do NOT deserve to be treated that way.

I have absolutely no patience for doctors with poor bedside manners. They're far too used to their patients treated them as if they're an infallible deity and not used to being what they are - the provider of a service, in which customer service MATTERS.

The result of my impatience is finding a great doctor who's knowledgable AND has a great way of talking to me and discussing things, and never blames or condescends to me. They're out there - and it's 100% worth all the time, frustration and energy to find them!

Oh girl, please get a new doc!! Yours sounds like he has a horrible bedside manner....who needs it??

Hi im rosey from alaska and your dr. was rude..i had a similar experience with a new dr who is suppose to be my bariatric surgeon..his first comment was my you are a round little pumpkin..yikes i was morified and embarassed and then decided i didnt have to like him to get what i want( hes the best in our state) if you can find a dr that is more to your liking go for it..yes hes got a bad attitude am so sry ((((hugs)) for you..rosey

I just realized how random the "Also, you have diabetes" sounded. The whole point of that appointment was to find out if I had PCOS or diabetes. I came in there knowing there was a possibility. So it wasn't just a random statement. Sorry if I made it sound that way. I don't think things threw when I'm ranting.

I'm so sorry. Some people can be really rude. I totally agree with you. I agree that the doctor was rude. Don't get upset, next time you will have more weight off and can shove it in his face.

This doctor has no bedside manner at all and I am sure he turns off many of his patients. Please find another doctor -- there are good ones out there who know how to be gentle with their patients. Sorry this happened to you.

Get a new doctor and fire him!

Yanno, it's not even a matter of being rude...I could use other words..ignorant, superior...whatever...the point is: he was not *helpful. Your doctor needs to support your healthy behavior and lifestyle..I could go on and on, but he was not rude..he was not *being a doctor...at least he was not being your health care advocate..your partner in a healthy lifestyle to proactively manage your disease. BAD, BAD doctor!

OMG!

Get a new Dr and report him!!! I seriously mean that!

REPORT HIM!

I had a very similar experience with an incredibility Rude doctor! she made me feel awful and even made me cry after I left it was my first time seeing her and she had a horrible bedside manor! and forced me to get a shot I did not want I'm guessing she made a commission or something off of it! any ways I ended stewing about it over the next few days and decided to do something about it I called the clinic she worked at and asked the receptionist how I could report a doctor that worked there. she gave me the office head doctor or the office manager what ever he was called and I filed a report. I know for a fact she got scolded SO bad she quit working there or she was fired! one or the other the office manager felt horrible about my experience and took care of her! she needs to be dealt with.. it is NOT ok to treat patients with such disrespect!

Yup. sounds not so much rude as he was just never taught the right way to interact with people. You have to remember that some people act dumb and they don't even know it..cause they're too dumb to know.

I think maybe find someone else and first visit explain why you are in the search for someone new and that will give the new person the mindest to at least tread more lightly. Not to say you will always get good news from him or her, but at least they'll have in their mind that you have pronounced tacitly there is way you expect to be treated by a professional who is there to help you. Without patients, there would be no need for doctors.

Similar experience with a dentist....his first c omment after x-rays was something along the lines of "Ha, it's probably easier to find the few teeth that are okay. What a mess". I was ina crappy mood the whole time. I knew there were problems, that was why I was there. He acted like there were 10000 errors instead of a few.

Next guy I went to I told him that right away and he said that that was rude and I should have been upset. I think even if he had thought to comment like that, trying to be funny or not, he would have had a seocnd thought in my case. I get sarcasm, but still...............sarcastic and rude are way different.

wow, rude, lack of empathy, lack of understanding of what you're going through, no sense of how what he was saying to you was being received and/or would affect you. not helpful, and potentially harmful. find someone else who understands where you are, what you need, and how to give you the medical care you were looking for and the support you need and/or at least be able to direct you to a place where you can find it.

really sorry you were treated that way. hang in there, and find a better doctor, because you are worth it.

Get a new doctor.

I sympathise with some - It must be difficult for them at times, seeing what people do to themselves, and trying to get themselves. I do not agree that doctor = customer service.

I've also had friends have far more sensitive issues and have incredibly awful doctors about, and I was shocked and disgusted for her. (Seriously, a very bad and sensitive situation )

Sidrah - I'm glad to hear you say that you told your doctor that right away. It's hard for me to do that, and I've realised I need to be much more assertive and demanding of respect in those situations. I need to learn to say "That's not your buisness" or "That is irrelevant" or "Let's focus on my achievements and the present, please".

BTW, Amber, CONGRATS on the 20 lbs! It *IS* something to be proud of!