Sorry just needed to rant.
I just got a promotion, put in tons of hours and got time and half for working a holiday. I got a really nice check and knew I wasn't going use much of it on myself.
My hubby needed new brakes BADLY on his truck. I was nervous that he was going to get into an accident and get hurt or killed, so it was a relief to me that he got them fixed. It took over half that check to pay for them.
I bought him his favorite cologne and than took him to dinner to a REALLY nice seafood place.
We get home, crash on the couch and he barely touched me all night. At 9:30 he's tired and wants to go to bed. I go with him and nothing happens!!
He's ALWAYS in the mood. lol So why not now?? What the heck??
I know he doesn't owe me, but all that money went toward him. I never ask for anything. I got myself a pair of jeans today and thats the biggest splurge I've had in a long time.
So if I want some snuggles, why can't I get some? When he does nice stuff for me, I seem to be expected to put out. So why shouldn't he do it too?

I know...I know...he doesn't owe me, but I just wanted some thanks is all. Not verbal kind either....
Sorry, just needed to rant.

just wanted to say i'd be bugged too, lol. we ARE expected to be cute and cuddly with them after a nice meal, so they should reciprocate too is all i'm saying.

Shoulda gone for oysters instead of lobster?

We're always in the mood when pour partner isn't!!!

hahaha good one. Well like dh tells me "Why don't you tell me when you're in the mood?" Which is funny because I'm not one to say "Hey baby, lets get it on." The couple times I have he's like
you know guys can be clueless sometimes on this stuff.

hmmm, i dont blame you for being annoyed either! Men just dont know sometimes... Try talking to him about it?

There's no rule that says he has to initiate. DH isn't a morning person, yet I woke him up at 6am today, and he wasn't mad at all! If you want something, you need to take steps to get it, he can't read your mind.

Still, he should have acknowledged that your check went to take care of his needs and at least said thanks.

Just giving another spin on this. Could it be that the meal was sitting too heavy. I know after my boyfriend and I have been out for a meal the last thing we want when we get home is "snuggle time", at least not til it's digested for a few hours.

I concur with CanadianCutie! When a meal sits heavy, I feel tired, gross, and icky, especially if I stuffed myself because it was great. I wouldn't take it too personally! Maybe he had a carb comba!

I know what you mean. When DH is in the mood its one thing but when your in the mood its one thing or the other.

Yeah I think that might have been the issue. Its never stopped him before, but I think he might not be able to handle scallops. He is feeling this morning too.
He did make up for it though with am snuggles.

Also, I let him know and get him going a lot of times. He isn't the only one starting it. Just last night he refused to take the bait. He hates oysters, and maybe should avoid the scallops and just stick to shrimp.

lol.....

Angie knows to tell me ahead of my meal if she is in the mood....

she has learned if she doesn't I am very capable of eating and drinking too much to make her happy...wink

Bet he pays you back real soon!

lol He did. He said he tried really hard but kept falling asleep so he made up for it this morning. I told him I had been dissapointed about last night and he just said "Awww." and hugged me. lol Such and adorkable guy. Next time, he's bringing some of that food home with him. lol