To anyone who will listen,

I used to be a workaholic. Gave up my personal life to put in ungodly hours for a psychotic boss who then decided to harass and ax me when the economy turned. I turned to destructive behavior losing everything I had.
Couple years later &I still suffer from a lack of motivation and depression -not working, living with family, and utterly useless. What's the point when all your hard work means nothing?

I've always had weight issues because of my childhood, school, overworking, and now I've gained even more weight. Gotten so bad, I don't want to go out in public.

I've got to turn this ship around! I'm only 30! I have to figure this out! Hoping weight loss will help me start over and move on. I want to feel good about myself and know that I am worthwhile. Looking for a little (a lot!!!) of support.

XO,

Caela

Hi Caela and welcome to 3FC.

I am so sorry for what you have been through

Good luck with your goals.

Hugs
Michelle

caela...
last year.. i was in exactly the same shoes you're in.. in quick succession, i lost my partner...consequently lost my house.. and then to add a cherry on top i lost my job because of recession.

when you lose control of most things in your life.. try to focus on the things you DO have control over.. and trust me..there are many.. and once you start regaining this control, things are less of a mountain ahead of you and more like small steps.

i got a new house, a new job, and i am loving the single life

xx grrrkgrrl

I know life doesn't seem fair! My employer built a plant in Mexico. There were 850 people working there before the downward spiral. Everyone is trying to figure out how to start over! All jobs gone to Mexico! I do think getting in control of yourself & diet will be a Great start! Good Luck!

working your butt off and getting axed...that is devastating! i am working my butt off and have no life outside of work. i can totally see that affecting me the same way, even two years after it happens. in fact, i recently realized that without my job, i have nothing. ...very scary thought!

i say any positive change like starting a healthier diet and exercising more will get your spirits and confidence up and will lead to other great things.

i am starting to feel like i am stuck in a rut and care less about my health... ever since i graduated, i never got this whole work-life balance thing worked out and have been unhappy.

best of luck to you!!! i am going to also try to turn myself around!

Hugs to you hun!

It's so nice that you decide enjoy 3FC... you are more than welcome here.... there's always problems in our lives like economy, family, kids.... but you can overcome all of this. A friend told me once I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ and that's true. Just keep it up, motivate yourself DON'T GIVE UP, and remember here in 3FC you always gonna have words of encouragement!!!! Good Lucy

Hi, Calea sounds like you could use a . I know how you feel. A few years ago we bought a nice size ranch home. Three month's later I lost my job after competitors bought us out after bankruptcy. Then house was to expensive so sold house and moved into an apartment. Right now my husband wants me to stay home and work on losing weight. But recently my Father has some health problems and I ate to deal with the stress. But trying to get back on plan. I started going to the gym more regularly. Now you have more time to workout. Maybe, start some new hobbies. Good Luck!

After I wrote my post, I considered deleting my account because I hate people seeing me as a failure! Then I read through the responses and through more of the forums on here and realized a lot of people have similar experiences, feelings, and struggles. I can't do this alone and don't want to. Looking forward to talking to you all as WE reach our goals! Let's go!

XO,
Caela

lovely to see you'll be sticking around, caela!!!

Within a year, I had to get a divorce I didn't want, fight for my time with my kids, take a permanent lay-off from a job I had for 14 1/2 years, and sell my home. It was beyond hard! I would have lost my mind if I hadn't had my wonderful resource.....God. I praise Him for being my provider, rock, friend and the One who truely knows what I need. I'll pray you find His peace and direction!

I just reread the response that I got here and I really want to thank you all for listening and giving your support. Means a lot to me!

Oh my gosh, you've been through a terrible time and I sympathise with you.

I have worked hard as a teacher for the past 8 years... seriously, teaching in the UK basically means giving up your social life... I always had so much work to do and even if I did manage to go out at the weekends, I couldn't enjoy it because I was always thinking about all the work I had to get done by Monday morning. So anyway, I've always been independent and have my own place (with a mortgage) and I changed schools in September for a promotion. Within a few weeks of starting what I thought was my new dream job, it became apparent that I had been taken on as a stop gap... to fill in until an old member of staff was able to return to the school to take over my job. I had all sorts of problems and have been signed off with work related stress. Things have got so bad that I've handed my notice in and soon my sick pay will stop. I've been dedicated to my job and the children I teach for all these years and can't believe I am now in this situation. I'm trying desperately to set up my own business but am petrified that it will take a while to get enough work and I won't be able to pay the bills. I have put on weight during my teaching career as the job was so demanding but I have put on even more since I've had the added stress of being forced out of my job. I really don't want to lose my home.

I really hope things work out for you and you can move on from this as it is a horrible situation to be in. Good luck with your weight loss.