So I have a male friend in my apartment complex that I hang out with a lot. It's literally just a friendship thing, which I am fine with because I am in a committed relationship and I am happy. The other day, he came up when my roommate and I were unloading groceries and started talking to me, gesturing hello to my roommate but not really making conversation with her. When he left, my roommate commented on how rude he was for not talking to her. I jokingly said "I'm sorry, want me to beat him up?" and she responded with "No, it's ok. He's just thinking with his penis and was probably like 'Oh, look, a skinny redhead.'" I'm still a bit taken aback by her comment. At first, I was shocked because no one has ever called me skinny before, and I really don't see myself as all that attractive. Now I'm just kind of confused because I'm not entirely sure what that was supposed to mean... Is she implying that the only reason that guy would want to speak to me is the way I look? I'm really not sure whether to be insulted or complimented
My roommate is a bigger girl than I (about 5'5" and probably 200), has pretty extreme body image issues like I do, and has just started dieting as well. That said, she is a gorgeous girl. I'm trying really hard not to do anything to touch any nerves with her but sometimes I just feel like she gets annoyed with things like that aren't really my fault, like the situation with my neighbor or when I budget my calories to eat something extra that she didn't budget WW points for or when I "make her feel bad" because I go to work out and she doesn't want to (I try to avoid even mentioning I'm going to work out). Two weeks ago she was accusing me of being anorexic. I'm just kind of at a loss for what in the world I am supposed to do to avoid ticking her off or hurting her feelings, because while I care about her well being, I also have to take care of myself. Other than the insecurity and body issues, she is a great person, is one of my best friends, and I don't want to damage our friendship by doing something to upset her.
Has anyone ever been in this position or been in the position of my roommate? Am I doing something wrong? It may be good to hear things from the other side of the fence, because it might help me to be a bit more aware of what I'm doing that bothers her.