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Originally Posted by Karen925
Howdy,
I think there is as much a danger if it takes too long to lose and people getting discouraged (i.e.plateauing) as there is if it is too quick. Also life interevenese both with one self and loved ones which puts up more hurdles to leap over in getting to a healthy weight.
I think this is a myth and a dangerous one. I've been on the diet rollercoaster since I was 5 (I'm 44, now), and I've never heard any true praise of slow weight loss. Oh, it gets lip service now and again, but when have you seen a magazine headline "How I lost 80 lbs in 4 years."
Nope only the fast losers get the media's attention, and as a result many people don't realize that slow weight loss is even possible. And if they're not losing as fast as the dieters they've read about, they think they're doing something wrong.
Most people don't quit weight loss because they're not losing, but because they're not losing fast enough. Sure, on the surface that makes it seem like the key is even faster weight loss, so that people won't get discouraged. But in 40 years of faster, faster, and even faster weight loss, I don't see the success rate improving.
It's the very fact that life does intervene, and obstacles occur that the speed of dieting must be taken out of the equation. It's less about finding the "perfect" pace to weight loss - and more about doing what you can reasonably fit into your life, and accepting the results no matter how slow.
We've got to stop looking at slow weight loss as failure. In my experience, people don't quit because they're failing, they quit because they feel like they're failing because they aren't satisfied with their level of success. Often they feel they're working as hard as they can, and the rewards aren't great enough (and only because speed is part of their measure of success). They can't imagine working harder, so they give up - because they couldn't see slow weight loss as successful weight loss.
The majority opinion still seems to be that only fast weight loss really counts. You're doing something wrong, if the weight isn't comming off quickly: you're lazy, you're lying, you're in denial, you're not motivated to change.
I wasn't able to lose weight permanently when speed mattered most to me. I've only been able to maintain my losses and keep moving downward by making the healthy behavior changes I set for myself, and accepting whatever consequences those were. Slow weight loss was not a reason to abandon habits I knew where healthy ones. Exercise actually slows weight loss down for me, but deciding not to exercise isn't helpful in the long run. I see many folks here talking about this same issue and deciding that because exercise (at least initially) slowed their weight loss, that they're not going to exercise so that they can lose faster (in the long run, a very poor strategy).
Often how rapidly a person loses weight is not in their control as much as they'd like - so deciding that any speed is the "right speed" can set people up for failure.
I suggest a better option - Decide what you're willing to do towards your weight loss goal - do it, and accept the results. If the results aren't what you'ld like - ask yourself if you're willing to do more. If so, then do more. But if not, don't give up (as is the norm), accept the weight loss however it comes.