It's just so hard getting out of this relapse phase I went through.

I tell people in this household I'm on a diet, they obviously don't care so they continue to bring junk in the house and just about something new everyday. I'm 18 in college and I don't have a job so it's not like I can purchase my own food. I tell my mom what I want from the grocery store and she always comes back with junk and and excuse saying something was too expensive.

It makes me so upset that no one cares.

I know how frustrating that can be. Is there any way you can get a part time job? That way you would have some extra money to buy the groceries that you need and want to help you with your diet.

Also, have you had a heart to heart with your mom about what you are trying to do, and how you really need her help? If the situation at home isn't going to change, then you have to look outside and figure out another way to make it work.

Can you offer to help her do the marketing? Then you can look for good healthy food on sale. In my experience, even though fresh fruit and veg might seem expensive at first, when I actually look at the nutrients and the servings I get from better food, then compare that to the cost of cheesecake and chips and pop and the sizes I used to eat and call a serving (way bigger than a serving should have been), it actually works out less expensive. It is just hard to see it sometimes unless you can make an accurate comparison to see what is reall being spent on junk, in additionm to real food for meals.

If nothing else, you may have to find a job for a few hours a week and purchase your own food. You have to do what is right and best for your own helath, but you also have to be responsible enough to help it happen. It is a difficult situation to depend on someone else to choose your food, and then it isn't what you wanted...nobody is winning. Maybe mom thinks you aren't really serious...and helping with the food planning and prep and even the job getting if necessary would probably go a long way towards convincing her.

Good luck..where there's a will there's a way.

Barb

Hi there. I am pretty new here myself, but I do understand your situation. Although I am 37 and do the shopping, cooking for the family, I do not feel they "get" how important this is to me, or how much I need their support. I started my change of life eating (I HATE the word DIET) only 4 days ago, on Monday. Tuesday night I came home and my kids baked a choclate cake dripping with frosting (big weakness of mine) and last night (10:30) my daughter walks in with a hot pepperoni roll from the pizza place she works at as a "gift" for me. WHAT??!?!? Furthermore my husband, son and daughter are all thin, yet have aquired a taste for my low-cal snacks. We live on a budget and yes, "diet" food and healthy foods cost more so when I need that 100 cal snack pak and they are gone, I am MAD. That said, I understand your frustration. I won't begin to guess why your family is not supporting you in the way you need, but I would have a heart to heart talk with them. Stress how important this is to you. Tell them WHY, tell them HOW your weight makes you feel and what you need from them. Explain that their imput makes a difference.

I have come to realize in my life that there are a few people who truly don't realize how I feel, don't think they can make a difference either way. Then there are some who are miserable with their own lives and bodies and want me to fail (yes, misery loves company) and then there are those who are too self-absorbed to realize they are hurting me.

For you, I would say if none of the asking, begging and talking works..and if you cannot get a job to buy your own food....maybe you can do your own cooking. For example if mom buys chicken and is going to fry it..take yours out and GRILL it for yourself! If she is going to take the potatoes and mash 'em with tons of butter and milk...BAKE yours instead. Drink water (with lemon) instead of juice, soda and kool-aid. Eat fruits if she buys them. also PORTION control is key. If mom made pasta...you should have only 1 cup.

I firmly believe NO ONE can live on a DIET forever. We all have to learn portion control and self-control. We all have to learn that the world is not on a diet with us and cake, candy, chips, fried food, etc..will ALWAYS be around us. We have to make the choice to say No and we have to be responsible for what we put into our bodies. You can do this and you will do it. Please have that heart to heart with your family and then make a plan for yourself.