So, Rob is at basic in NJ. He had to be rephased due to a back injury. He has no idea how/when he injured his back, but he's spent 3 of almost 6 weeks in the RHE, which is like infirmary. So, he should have graduated on the 30th of April, then rephased initially so graduation set on the 7th. The first time he was rephased a letter came back, "Unable to fwd." It's a small base? You're telling me you cant walk next door and ask where this recruit got sent? Also, the CC cant say, "Oh, recruit so and so's at <insert place here>" and walk it over? He didn't get any letters from anybody for the first 3 weeks. He's frustrated, upset and then not getting the only form of family/friend support available. Finally gets them, and writes back, there was an issue he may yet again be rephased, so here I am trying to make travel plans for graduation, since initially, I wouldn't have been able to go out for his graduation due to my finals, but by being rephased back a week I was able to. Now I'm not sure where he is and if he's gotten any of the letters I've sent this week and I can't firm up travel plans. This is also the weekend his company, the 2nd one, is making calls to loved ones to let them know where they're being stationed. And since we plan on getting married, I'm kind of on pins and needles about it. This affects me as well. And the kids. And my school. Etc. I know it's not his fault, I'm sure my mail carrier wants to choke me out, when he sees me get another returned letter, which is probably a sign he's been rephased back another week due to injury and I burst out in tears. Right there in front of God and everyone. I'm due to start TOM any day now, and I really am frustrated with this whole fractured shin which means I can't even go do something constructive with all these emotions, like work out, run. I know it's a huge snowballing effect. I know, but I'm just overwhelmed completely today with it all.

My heart really goes out to you. I'm so sorry, I've never been in a situation quite like yours, but my boyfriend goes to see his family in Greece for 6 weeks every summer, and we hardly get to talk. Last year, I was in Russia for 3 months and we hardly got to talk. I know how stressful and sad that much can be, so I can't imagine how much worse your situation is. But I know you'll both make it to the other side and someday, this will be just another memory. Stay strong! You can do it!

I am sending you good vibes

All I can say is that my husband is in the military, so I know exactly what you're going through. Hang tough, sweety.

My husband is in the Navy. I feel for you. It's tough not knowing what is going on. Hang in there; you're likely to hear something soon.

I am so sorry you are all going through this. Many hugs to you.

Many hugs to you! You and your family are in my prayers!

my boyfriend is in the navy.. so i know how you feel! it really sucks never knowing what is going on.. going through that now with his sailing schedule! there going there not going..going longer.. going shorter.. hmm we should have some kind of support group for this hopefully youll find out some stuff soon!

Big huggles! hope things are better soon!

Sending hugs to you. Hang it there.

hope you're feeling better today.

Thanks ladies.

PM, yeah a little bit. Sometimes it's just so overwhelming and I try really hard not to spill it in letters to Rob, he's under enough stress right now. Normally he is my sounding board, but with everything going on for him, I just feel it would be entirely selfish to pour all this frustration out in a letter. He knows how I feel, he knows I miss him madly. He doesn't need the indepth, "hey, your girl is losing her mind" step by step details right now. Just one of those weekends where it all seems so overwhelming. But, today is Monday its a new start to the mail week and hopefully, I'll have a bunch of letters like I did last week waiting in the mail box today.