I still have some fat to lose, and I'm really dedicated to making it happen.

One of my 'problems' is that whenever I start a diet/exercise regimen, my face gets all skinny first before I start to really lose in the areas that I want to.

So I have people telling me all the time:

"You're getting too skinny, you should quit" etc.

Anyone ever had this? Or do you have any tips on how to handle this?

yes!! my face shows very fast weightloss, next my waist (which i am lucky i dont have much to lose there), leaving my thighs for last--where the problem really is/has been.

as a rule of a thumb, i think it has to do with bodyshape, the places that put in weight last are the places that weight comes off first, so it creates an "illusion".

i never listen to people telling me i should quit weightloss, the same way you should never really listen to people telling you should quit anything you want to do in life. why is it different for weight and other people's opinion really matters?

xx

I think I've said something like "I'll let you know how it goes." or "Well, I have some fitness goals."

Or you could "smile and nod" because it's none of their business

I've had people saying my face was getting slimmer but everyone just nods and says it's a good thing, which really makes me feel good all day.

My problem would be when I'm trying to cut down on food my parents get worried and keep saying it's unhealthy when in the first place before I started focusing on losing weight they were the ones who constantly went "You're already so big why are you eating so much."!!!

Which leaves me frustrated. I know the love me but the mixed signals makes me feel so gaaaarh sometimes.

Yes! Urgh, it's so frustrating hearing that because my body is by no means 'skinny' but my face has lost a whole lot. I'm still 40 lbs from my goal and when I say how much more I want to lose that's when I hear 'no way' that's too much. The one person that usually makes those comments is my Mom but she's sort of my back-up support/conscience and just wants to make sure I stay healthy.

I set a reasonable goal for my height/body frame so I either ignore those comments or explain how I made an educated decision about my goal weight. Also, I know my body and I figure once I get to 150 I'll take it one pound at a time...if I start to look sickly/gaunt I'll definitely stop and adjust my goal weight. But until then I'll keep on losing!

I keep my weight loss goals to myself, because when people look at me and hear "10-20 pounds", they freak out. "No way! You don't have to lose that much!" or "You're not even overweight."

Yes I do, and yes I am.

So, now I keep quiet.

Don't worry, it fills out again. I don't know why your face gets so small when you're first losing weight.

Yes, the last time I heard that I was very close to goal weight and struggling with the notion that I was actually successful. My mother told me not to lose any more weight otherwise my face would become too sharp.

This comment unsettled me and ultimately I used it to relapse into some very bad habits. Two and half years later, I'm back in that spot and, as you can guess, she said the exact thing to me a few weeks ago.

The difference was that this time I was prepared for it. However, my goal is to get a 6 pack for the first time in my life, so I let her comment and others just roll off my back.

I hope you do too!

I have the exact opposite problem. I've lost close to 20 pounds so far, and you can't tell any difference in my face --- I still have the same double chin and chubby cheeks. All I want is to have a defined jawline!

Thanks all

Yeah, usually I don't let it bother me.

It kind of depends on the way I feel when I hear it anyway. When I'm having a bad day, I'm much more sensitive to such comments.

Whenever I feel good to begin with, I don't really care about what anyone says.

In fact, on days like that I don't even get comments like that now that I think of it... Kinda funny actually.

Anyway, thanks!!

I have the same thing, I mean it's nice to have one part of my body that's thin, but people don't seem to see further than that when I mention I still have just over 20lbs to lose. The other day my mom asked me, in a very serious tone, "Why DO you want to lose more weight???"
I told her to take a good look at the thunder thighs my body never seems to want to let go!

I've had this happen to me several times. I carry the majority of my weight in my lower body, and my face, shoulders, collar bones, hips and waist have really thinned out. It happens especially at church where I mainly wear skirts and it's really not noticeable how big my legs are.

I've learned now just to stop sharing the fact that I have about twenty pounds left to lose, because I don't want to deal with the "No, no, honey don't lose anymore. You don't want to look anorexic!" I know how much I need to go until I'm at a healthy weight (I'm certainly not going overboard at 150lbs) and I figure they just won't really notice I'm still losing much since they don't see where it needs to come off. On the same hand I always get shocked looks when I say I've lost a little over 50lbs, everyone says something like "You never looked like you had that much to lose!!"

Yeah, it's hard for people to imagine what 50 (or 20) pounds looks like. I've lost 50 pounds and the few people I've told are always shocked like it's some HUGE amount. (It's a lot, that's true, but on my 5'11" frame it's really not THAT much). And yeah, I have another 20 or so to go but I don't dare tell people that because they don't know what 20 pounds looks like, especially on a tall girl like me. They just think it sounds like a lot and imagine that I'll be emaciated if I lose it. So like many others, I just don't share specifics except for with a select group of people.

~great advice~I totally agree with susan!