Another boy thread :)

  • I need to take some deep breaths or something... I always think the worst things about situations...

    I went on another date with new boy last night...which I tried to pay for since he lost his job but he wouldnt let me...

    Can we assume he likes me? lol I know he wants to take things slow because hello he just got divorced and hasnt been with anyone else since she left him but he hasn't even tried to kiss me lol... I'm use to guys trying to sleep with me on the first date...

    But he is so sweet and adorable...and I really like him and he chooses to spend his limited free time with me so...that must mean something... he just said hes unsure and he doesnt want to lead anyone on because hes unsure if he is ready for something...why is he acting like a girl?

    He hasnt even tried to hold my hand... I made that move on my own when we were walking back to the car... I obviously just freak out about things...
  • I'd say yes he likes you, but obviously wants to take things slow, so you gotta respect that, or else he might freak out and peace out. Have a little confidence!! You guys don't have to kiss yet, just enjoy time together and conversation and see where it goes!
  • I agree with jazz... It's better he take it slow than trying to force you into something (if that makes sense). I would say he really likes you, so just roll with it.
  • Everyone is different. I never hold hands with my boyfriend. Sounds like he likes you, but he's being very careful.

    It's really hard to open up to someone new after a long relationship that ended sour. It's terrifying! Sounds like he's on the right track to moving on, just take it easy with him. Taking is slow is what he needs, and it sounds like you'll be willing to go slow with him too Slow and steady wins the race!
  • It sounds like he likes you. Did he say when they got divorce? Men take ALOT longer to get over things when they are the one's who are left. I'd say take it slow but be careful on the time frame she left him. Going into a relationship with someone who has too much baggage isn't a good thing. Good luck!
  • Haley - he totally likes you. You've gone out a few times, he's spending free time with you. I think he's just trying to make sure that you aren't the rebound girl. Maybe he is still dealing the with the divorce and doesn't want to rush into anything. And KUDOS to him for not trying to sleep with you -- that means RESPECT.

    Also, sometimes people reevaluate how they go through a relationship after they have gotten out of one. I say this from personal experience as how I things I used to do a long time ago... are TOTALLY different from how I am now.

    Just bear with him - be understanding and enjoy the time you have together!
  • Well he isnt actually divorced yet... she left him 11 months ago and things were bad before that...she cheated on him and left him with two kids that he is practically raising on his own...one isnt even his...its hers from a previous relationship...

    I just needed some reassurance... I dont read between the lines... and I dont see things that are obviously there... you might say I think like a guy

    He has been totally honest and up front with me but the one day he was like at least I know I'll have a good friend out of this...and I was like ugh...always the friend...but I think we're moving in the right direction

    I also realized that I just met him a week ago and I've seen him 3 times in the last week so...yeah I'm just crazy

    Thank you guys for making me feel better.. You always have fabulous things to say
  • you have nothing to worry about!

    i still remember my boyfriend & i's first date... we had gotten to know each other pretty well at school for about a month, and one day he decided to ask me out on a date.. and well, he picked me up, gave me a rose and we had fun! it was awesome! BUT when he dropped me off, he was so nervous he didn't get out of the car or even lean over to hug me. i didn't get offended, i just abruptly joked about it in a text later on and said what, no hug? and he admitted to being too nervous!

    you have totally nothing to worry about! you may not be like me, where i'm sometimes up front, and i'll tell a guy i like him after i get a few signals that he probably likes me too.. but sooner or later you'll get some signals out of him! think of it this way, he's the romantic, caring type and those i find are the best!