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Originally Posted by Coondocks
Im not sure this is the right spot for this, my apologies if it should be some where else.
Is there a bad motivation? What I mean is the majority of my head is wanting to change my lifestyle to be a better mom and set a good example for my son and I know that's going to keep me going . . . . but . . .
there's a part of me - not such a big part, but a part none the less, that is thinking that a certain person will regret passing up the opportunity in 5 or 6 months when he sees the changes Im going threw. Not the best thing to admit, but it's true. I don't know if I'd call it revenge or sour grapes or something else . . . Im more concerned that it just shouldnt even be a factor in my thinking but it is.
Any thoughts on whether or not it's going to cost me in the long run or am I just over thinking this?
I don't think that is odd at all. I ran into someone last summer I sure didn't want to see at my current size. I heard later he had said I was still beautiful in the face but sure had let my figure go. I had a few thoughts about you wait until I run into that jerk next summer at the same event and his jaw hits the floor.
I'm a 100% very happily married woman for the last 18 years. . I think picturing different scenarios in your head at your new healthy fit body is totally normal and a great motivator. I visualize scenarios when I am on the treadmill all the time. Many different types. Running into someone, stuff with hubby, being able to run a full marathon, a certain hot outfit etc.
I think it is a ok as long as someone doesn't think the new body will help get some guy back. Other than that (which is definately not what you described) visualize and fantacize away!
I'll be doing it right along with you