From October 9th to the week of Thanksgiving I lost 20lbs! Since then I have not been exercising, making poor food choices (but staying in my calorie range, which leaves me hungry!) and not drinking enough water. Since I've been so unmotivated I have been staying away from 3fc. But I need to get my behind back on track!

My dh is doing NOTHING and losing weight! I'm tired of him weighing less than I do. I don't want the numbers between us to gape even more! So I am back! Still not that motivated but I have to do something to get my motivation back and there is nothing like just jumping back in!

well, you lost 20 lbs, and you've been eating in the calorie range you chose (how hungry are you?) so you don't suck, ha!

too unfair the man/woman weight loss disparity.

routine sometimes helps me when motivation starts to be lacking. coming here helps me focus, too. Good luck!!

Girl this made me laugh. I would just completely IGNORE dh's weight loss.

My SO is one of those freaks of nature. He does nothing except fire fighting, customer service and yard work, and mostly drinks beer. He only eats the healthy food I make for him...other than that he eats on the road...

and yet he looks like the statue of David...maybe a little more petite...

although he is very sexy to me, I am VERY jealous. So I just completely ignore his ability to stay thin and chiseled doing nothing...and focus on me.

That is what you have to do. When I think of our weight differences, I get upset, but then I just think...this is not the weight I am going to stay at...and just keep plugging.

You just come on back and get comfy at 3FC again, I've been in your shoes...even through a period of binging/purging and hiding from 3FC for it...you just don't worry..that's what 3FC is here for!

Hang in there.....remember only YOU have the power to turn this around and make better choices. You can do it!!!!!! You've been doing it, so just keep on doing it!

You can't worry about dh and how much easier it is for him. My dh has been losing weight right along with me and he eats a LOT more volume of food than I can. Plus, he hardly ever exercises, whereas I excercise regularly. It's frustrating, but it's just life, I guess. Nothing that I can do about it. I am in charge of me.....he is in charge of himself. We support each other and celebrate each others' victories. But it does seem a lot easier for guys, doesn't it??? Guess we can't fight genetics!

Thanks!

It IS frustrating to see dh eat what he wants when he wants and how much he wants and STILL lose weight but you arr right, I need to worry about me and my weight and not his!

My hubby is like that, eats what he wants and stays lean... works out a little and firms up real quickly! It's frustrating to watch, lol.

My hubby is naturally slender, always has been since childhood. Me, on the other hand, I've been chubs since puberty with a couple of dips into healthy weight-land. I watch what I eat and I'm very conscious of the number of goodies I allow myself and the amount of oil I use in cooking. Hubby just eats. A lot. He easily eats 2 -2.5 cups of rice for lunch and the same for dinner yet he looks like he nibbles on a cracker all day.

If I could offer some advice....Ignore your husband's weight loss. Congratulate him if he wants recognition but don't use his weight loss as your motivation to lose weight. That sort of motivation lends itself to frustration later on when you lose at a slower rate than he does. I use self-motivation in that *I* want to see 150, so *I* will do what it takes to get to that number. I've found that to be more productive than engaging in competition with someone. I was competitive with my sister a couple of years ago and when I slipped a couple of days in the week and didn't lose, I felt frustrated and gave up. Then gained all the weight back and felt even worse. I don't want you to throw away all your hard work - 20 lbs!!! - just because you're frustrated at the disparity in weight loss between you two.

Sunni, I totally agree with this...I'm feeling a bit envious of everyone talking about my sister who has always been very overweight being so fit and trim...the green eyed monster crawls into my ear and tried to tell me "you can beat her, work harder"...since we are about the same weight now.

I just ignore it...and think..I'M DOING THIS FOR ME!

This is good advice. His weight loss does not motivate me. It frustrates me to no end.