Have most of you guys had your share of awkward or rude comments because of being overweight?

During my workout today, I somehow remembered a boy I dated when I was.. oh, probably 12 or 13. I remember we went out for calzones and he asked me, "Do you think I'm fat?"

Well, he was overweight, probably by about 20 or 30 pounds, but I said, "Oh, ofcourse not..... Do you think I am?"

And he says, "well, yeah, no offense."

Hahahah no offense! Sure I'm not offended. The funniest thing is, I wasn't even officially overweight at the time (going by BMI). I was at the heigh end of the weight range for my height.

Oyyy.. can anyone relate?

I have noticed with guys that they tend to say what they think without the same social filter that a woman might use (doh!)

close to my highest weight, a guy at a Pearl Paint (an art supply store) during Xmas season, who was trying to get past me, said You're as big as a house! He said it more matter of factly than insultingly (as insulting as that is). I was pretty mortified.

Mine was bad because it was my DAD...

I was in high school and not really "fat", but definitely chunkier than most in my family and my dad and I got into a fight and he said, "Quit trying to argue and take your big butt back to your room."

That was one of those things that has always stuck with me. Granted, he could have said worse, but it stung pretty bad.

Mine was just recently. I was loading pictures onto photobucket to post to my blog. My 7 year old looked at my before pictures and said "wow Mommy, how did you get to be that fat?". That stung, God Bless the honesty of a child.

I think for me the worst is when a kid says something, yes I know kids say things, but if the parents are in earshot and don't tell them you shouldn't say things like that. I've gotten to the point now that I will say to the kid (but while clearly looking at both the parent and the child) say "You know it hurts people's feelings when you say things like that". More often than not the parent will apologize, and tell the kid too as well. The first time I did it (oh about 3 years ago) I felt so good afterward. I'm so sick of people thinking it's ok to make rude comments about heavy people.

So NO ONE knows this story...not even my current SO...but here goes.

I had a boyfriend in high school, when I was 15 who was always unwilling to make it "official" (oh the days of high school...) We would hang out, make-out, etc. but only around my friends, never around his, which I just thought was due to our differing cliques. Whatever. We ended things when he moved out of the country at 16.

At 18, I moved away to college and kept trying to convince him to come visit me, since he has subsequently moved back to the states. He never would, and I kept asking why. His response: "Because I would need one of my friends to drive me out there and I don't want them to know that I'm seeing you." When I asked him why, his response was "Well, because you're fat. I took a lot of sh*** for dating you in high school and I don't want to go back there..."

Needless to say, we're not really friends any longer and my SO doesn't care about my weight whatsoever, besides the health risks. But yeah...that one kinda stuck with me.

Once, while visiting my parents, I picked up a cream roll and was about to take a bite out of it when my dad leaned over and said, "Are you sure you need to eat that?" I was so mortified.

Also, in college (when I was at my lowest weight of 135) I had an ex boyfriend who would look at porn. I asked why he looked at it when he had a girlfriend, and he said, 'All of these girls have smokin' hot bods." Unfortunately, I didn't get that he contributed to a lot of my self esteem issues until years later. Don't let jerks walk all over you!

You should answer him, "Are you sure you should have said that?"

I never think of these things until too late.

Ugh I have had sooo many but one that sticks out I was pumping gas on my way to work and this car full of people drive by and screwm FAT @ss!!

I mean talk about a drive by Why must people be so rude.


And about the pp and kids eww my best friend was horrible about that she was as big (if not bigger) than me and her kids would say really rude fat type things to me and shed just let them. And theyd say their mom wasnt fat but I sure was. I think it made her feel good or something and she let them do it.

I took my kids to ride the horses at a nearby park and there was a parent there that did notice I was at a hearing distant well he turned and told his daughter "See, thats why you cant eat that much you're going to end up looking like that" and then he noticed that I was staring at him with my evil eyes but the damage was already done...i felt humiliated and just wanted to go home I felt bad for my children since there the ones that had to leave with me and didnt have a good time because of that.

One that still sticks with me after so many years...

My best friend (!) when I just started highschool (around 13 y/o) wrote me a letter and gave it to me when I arrived at school. It basically said that she would rather not hang around me anymore because if she hung around "people like me" she would never get a boyfriend. I was fat, didn't "dress right" and was "too nice".

I wasn't even particularly overweight during that time, a little round around the edges but a pretty healthy girl. Just a bit shy, I guess.

Sometimes that one still hurts, but I now have a very lovely, kind and smart boyfriend so she was obviously wrong. Girls can be so mean to each other!

Kids that I babysit for have two very skinny, good looking parents; I see pictures of their grandma around the house, and the kids will say at very random times when i'm bending down or something, how i'm "so much more bigger than Grandma; how do you get around?"

Now, i've seen the pictures, i'm sorry, but NO WAY am I as big as her. (if you get my gist, i'm not trying to sound mean, but I know there REALLY IS a difference, probably a 200 lb one)

The kids are super sweet all the time except for that. I would mention it to the Mom, but, shoot, I really like this job. I mean, HE'S A DOCTOR. I get paid good.

I was at a restaurant just last year (I'm about to be 25) when I was around my high weight, maybe 10lbs down, with my parents and my bf. This restaurant is famous around here for having really amazing french fries and mashed potatoes that they serve family-style to the table, so everyone helps themselves out of a communal bowl. My mother was watching me eat the fries, and I guess I reached for one too many bc she finally hissed really loudly at me to stop eating the french fries. My bf and my other friend who were there were both really embarrassed for me and said something like, well, the fries are really good here, you can't pass them up and it's a once in a blue moon treat. My mom tried to cover up by saying that she didn't think I was fat, but she read that french fries give you cancer. Can you believe that? And these were organic trans-fat free fries at a really upscale place. So at least now it's a running joke between me and my bf that french fries give you cancer.

So this was probably around last christmas...when I was near my highest weight.

There is this sweet old lady from my church who will come and spend christmas with my family because she doesn't really have anyone else to spend it with...she's really sweet and she's got a great heart...and I know she MEANT well...but last christmas infront of my family and friends and my bf, she said (very loudly I might add) "Rachel you REALLY need to lose some weight. You're blowing up like a balloon!" (which I was, I gained 50 lbs in half a year...)

I just blew it off, said something like "yeah i'm trying" or "i've been thinking about it" or whatever and laughed it off, but I'm sure my face was beet red...and I still feel embarrassed when I'm around her anymore. I almost try to avoid her, for fear of more loud comments about my size...

It didn't help that my bf was there, and I had only recently started dating him so I wasn't at all comfortable around him yet (and he had no idea how much I weighed or how much I had been gaining)...

I don't know why the obese are the one group our society still feels it is okay to ridicule publicly but it does. I had an incident like this relatively recently. I'm a psychiatrist. I go to a couple local nursing homes and I was talking to one of the patients there I see regularly about some a recent behavioral problem he had-getting into a physical fight with another resident over a cigarette. He got very angry with me and told me he didn't know who I was and I had no right to tell him what to do, etc. I walked away. A few minutes later, he wheels himself down to the area where I was sitting and asks one of the nurses rather loudly "where's the fat girl who says she's my doctor?" Now I get called all kinds of things in my line of work as you can imagine but that was an awkward moment.