I am well on my way to getting to goal, but I started with 110lbs to lose. Because of that I stuck/stick mainly to the 100lb club.
Today a thought struck me. I have only 35 lbs to go. ONLY 35 LBS. I started to wonder if I should look at this part of the forum for help and advice. I thought that if I could change my mindset from that girl who had to lose 110 lbs to one that has to lose 35lbs, I might actually get to goal this time. I thought that perhaps one reason for my previous failures is that I identified with with large girl with lots to lose. When I failed and regained, it was because I really "WAS" a large girl. Maybe if I can identify with a different weight loss population I can believe that I really AM the SMALL girl with a few pounds to lose.
Can I join in? Do I belong? Should I change my ticker to reflect the 35 lbs I have to go, or add a second ticker? I don't want to barge into an area which might not be appropriate! Thanks.

You are most certainly welcome!

And you don't need to do a darned thing with your tickers. We're very proud of what you've accomplished!

Come and join us in our new monthly chat thread. Yes, yes ... you are very welcome!

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/feat...-november.html

Thanks so much!

Congrats on losing 75 pounds!
sounds like you belong in here for sure, 35lbs to go

Welcome and good luck, Congratulations on the great job you have done so far !

Thank you, AR and bargoo. It has been a long haul, that's for sure. I got stuck at the 70 lb mark for a long while and bounced up and down for a good 4 months (!). I started to fall into the mindset that I was always around 190lbs for a long period of time (throughout most of the last 15 years, with the most recent last 6 years bouncing around the 240s mark), this is where my body wants to be. Then I got ahold of myself and started to think that if I believed I was a 190lb girl at heart, every lower weight would always make me feel like a fraud. "I won't last at 175lbs because I really am supposed to by 190lbs so it is inevitable that I'll regain". This is when I posted here. I thought that if I changed my mindset from I am a 190lb girl to "OMG I'm a 135 lb girl with 35lbs to lose" I might eventually believe it. Maybe success is primarily mind-driven. If you get the right thinking patterns in your head, you will make action plans and follow through to the best result.
I know I ramble! Sorry!
Anyways, thanks for your advice and your support.

I think your accomplishment is fantastic and you are well on your way to your new goal!

So much of the trouble with weight loss is perception of what we are, what we can be, (and for me, why I need that cheeseburger...) that it's easy to lose sight of the big picture.

Being closer does make it more difficult. For me the challenge is reducing my calories. I eat the foods that are supposed to make me feel full (protein, veggies, complex carbs) but still feel hungry & I have to remind myself that it's likely psychological. When I feel this way I find that if I stick to fruit & veggies I won't overeat. Doesn't help with the unhealthy cravings though!

Glad to have you on the forum. I've only been posting the last few days (although I joined awhile ago). Here's to the future!

Thanks so much for your post, MountainChick. I totally relate to the cheeseburger talk! And I can see how losing sight of the big picture and for me, wallowing in past success!, can affect one.
It IS easy to become complacent, like "I've come so far (its good enough)" instead of focusing on the big picture goal.
Words to think about, for sure...

misskimothy : 75lbs down, 35 to go...

We all have our own definitions of featherweight because our struggles are all different...

Keep up the good work...